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Pittman (Man Enough, Putnam, 1993) is straightforward and witty in his guide to what it really takes to become a responsible adult. Effectively using his 37 years as a psychiatrist and family therapist, his 14 years as a movie critic, his six years as an advice columnist, and his personal experience to illustrate his points, he assures us that happiness can be found in taking responsibility for ourselves, our lives, and our loved ones. Pittman discusses the complexities of marriage, divorce, child-rearing, and forgiving your parents, arguing that changing gender roles and society's emphasis on narcissism and blaming others for our predicament keep us from moving from childhood to adulthood. Highly recommended for adult and young adult collections.ADemetria A. Harvin, Bronx, NY
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“Pittman is straightforward and witty in his guide to what it really takes to become a responsible adult.” ―Library Journal

“In Grow Up!, film critic and psychiatrist Dr. Frank Pittman tells us the secrets of happy adult lives. He uses his own life, his years of practice as a therapist, and his prodigious reading and movie viewing to analyze our culture. He is opinionated, brilliant and incisive, never dull of mealymouthed. Plus, he is one of those rare psychiatrists who likes mothers.” ―Mary Phipher, Ph.D, author of Reviving Ophelia

“A wise, funny, in-your-face prescription for being a responsible and happy adult. Frank Pittman is Jeremiah, Solzhenitsyn, and Bill Cosby rolled into one extraordinary writer with somethin to say that we need to hear.” ―Dr. William J. Doherty, director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program and president-elect of the National Council on Family Relations

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 291 pages
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin (January 1, 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1582380406
  • ISBN-13: 978-1582380407
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.7 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #463,152 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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It's a good book, but since the other reviews cover its strong points, let me include the weak ones: Dr. Pittman has a couple of biases that, in my opinion, weaken the book a bit. First, he advances a stay-married-at-all-costs philosophy that doesn't square with reality. On one hand I say, "Thank God someone finally has the courage to confront our national trend to use divorce to demonstrate how much we've 'grown.'" And I applaud his willingness to speak the truth--that divorce is far more devastating to children than the divorce peddlers dare acknowledge. We scratch our divorced heads (while our children fall to violence and suicide), asking, "Gee, what's wrong with kids today?" Hello, they have no fathers!
Dr. Pittman fails to answer satisfactorily why childless couples should "stay married at all costs" or, for that matter, why people who don't plan to have children should get married in the first place. He provides ample reasons not to divorce, but doesn't really address the benefits and potential of marriage. Nor does he speak to the possibility that marriage may simply be growing obsolete. Like it or not, people aren't willing or able to tough it out anymore. Is the answer to "grow up" and act like we used ta'? I don't know. I don't think Dr. Pittman does either. He does, at least, remind us that kids are involved, and kids need two parents with the maturity to put the kids first. That is--or should be--the commitment that goes with the decision to have children.
Thank you, Dr. Pittman, for helping me sort out my growing uneasiness about those hypnotic messages from the PBS children's shows: "You're SPECIAL." "You're great just the way you are." "There's nobody like you.
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By A Customer on August 4, 1999
Format: Paperback
This book is for all of us struggling to be adults and "do the right thing" in a society which fosters/ rewards irresponsibility and sees adolescence as a way of life rather than a stage we go through on our way to becoming full and compassionate human beings. Dr. Pittman eloquently but humorously addresses how to grow up, take responsibilty for ourselves and get the most out of our lives while debunking the myths which keep many of us entrenched in out-dated roles/expectations and unhappiness. It is a quick read and at times I laughed outloud at the authors candor and references to movies which substantiated his points.
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Format: Hardcover
Frank's previous books were great, but I have never recommended any one book so many times to so many of my clients in so little time. They have all reported gaining good insights into their behavior, to say nothing about changing their behavior and improving their relationships. P. 79 is especially "enjoyed" by controlling men!
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By A Customer on September 10, 1998
Format: Hardcover
As usual, Frank has drawn on his trenchant observations of movies, books, and the people whom he treats- what lucky souls they are- to create a highly informative roadmap for happiness.
Dr. Pittman argues that taking responsibility and working hard ensure happiness, a radical concept for a nation all too often mired in adolescent worship. His critique of the film, Marvin's Room, tells us all we need to know; live responsibly for yourself and others so that your love is self-evident.This alone provides the grounding which so often alludes us.
"Why is it that wherever we turn we cause pain on one another?" This qoutation comes from Lie Down in Darkness- William Styron's searing portrait of a self absorbed southern family. Frank likes it, and one can understand why; he has seen the root of this pain and devoted his life to defeating it, helping others live happily.
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Format: Paperback
As a layman reading this, I thought there were several concepts of interest;
Adult Children - some of us are stuck in our adolescent ways, never growing up, even as adults.
Collapse of Patriarchy - in today's world of social upheaval, where anything goes (and it ususally does), we and our children live in a world where traditional concepts are challenged. This applies to gender, age, etc etc. (Pittman compares this to the decline of Windsor) Our world is increasingly becoming narcisstic, we're trained to consume more and more.
In this post patriarchy world, we are even more challenged to grow ourselves and that of our children.
Pittman's message is simply Grow Up! Take responsiblity for yourself, your choices, your relationships, and forgive your parents.
Still a good read that most people should enjoy, even if they don't agree with everything he says.
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By A Customer on January 31, 2002
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Finally a self help book written by a therapist who thinks that we should focus on being grown ups and not self indulgent children with little regard for others. A witty and entertaining book about becoming a grown up and being responsible for your actions and emotions. Novel concepts in our current society, I know. Women will love this book because the author does a great job of trying to point men in directions that will allow them to have deeper and more fulfilling relationships with women. The anecdotes about his patients (he as been a therapist for a long time) and his family really add to the flavor of this easy read. I think that you will find this an enjoyable and enlightening book. I know that I did.
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