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Grown-Up Marriage: What We Know, Wish We Had Known, and Still Need to Know About Being Married [Paperback]

Judith Viorst
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Book Description

February 3, 2004
Although marriage is for grown-ups, very few of us are grown up when we marry. Here, the bestselling author of Suddenly Sixty and Necessary Losses presents her life-affirming perspective on the joys, heartaches, difficulties, and possibilities of a grown-up marriage -- and no, that's not an oxymoron!
Featuring interviews with married women and men, the findings of couples therapists, the truths offered by literature and movies, and a bemused exploration of her own marriage, Judith Viorst illuminates the issues couples struggle with from "I do" through "till death do us part." Examining marital rivalry, marital manners, marital sex (extramarital, too), marital fighting and apologies, what kids do for (and to) marriage, and the boredom and bliss of everyday married life, Viorst leaves no marital stone unturned. From the early years when we wonder "Who is this person?" and "What am I doing here?" to the realities of divorce, remarriage, and growing older (and old) together, Viorst offers insights and advice with honesty, humanity, and humor -- all the while recognizing how tough it is to be married and, when it works, how very precious it can be.

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In Grown-Up Marriage, bestselling author Judith Viorst uses her abundant gifts to consider how marriage pulls, cajoles, and commands us to grow up. By viewing marriage "as a problem we have to solve again and again," Viorst offers a fresh view of both the mirages of marriage and how readers can adjust their expectations to create an enduring state of the union. Complacency, warns Viorst, is the bind that unties. "If we imagine that marriage is where we can burp, bitch, snicker and snipe day after day without paying a price, we are wrong." She crafts a smart synthesis of decades of psychological research, case studies, and examples drawn from popular culture. Viorst rounds up the usual suspects--the routines that kill marriage, the outlaw in-laws, the mommy-daddy trap--and the unusual ones, including marital sibling rivalry and why second marriages often fail. Each subject is illuminated with nuanced, mirthful details about creating a mature marriage. Her insights are sometimes diluted with too many expert quotes or her own poetry. Still, her shrewd observations will make this book required reading before your next anniversary. --Barbara Mackoff --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Viorst's comprehensive exploration of all things nuptial should be required reading for any betrothed who don't have a plainspeaking veteran to give them the lowdown on what happens when the honeymoon is over. Some of her topics-sex, in-laws, fighting-are standard fare for a book like this. Others, such as a look at the ho-hum ordinariness of daily married life and an overview of how kids change a couple, are more renegade in their honesty and clearly the product of Viorst's own 42 years of married wisdom. For example, how many matrimonial neophytes are truly honest about feeling competitive with their mates? "Such competition [doesn't] necessarily happen only in troubled marriages," writes Viorst. "Just as brothers and sisters vie with each other to be their parents' best-loved child, so may husbands and wives-in their wish to be best or first or most-engage in a marital version of sibling rivalry." Readers should be warned that the author is, in some ways, a product of her generation. It's not hard to detect Viorst's disdain for newfangled practices like living together before marriage and attachment parenting, but for the most part she presents an evenhanded picture of the choices modern couples face.
Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Free Press (February 3, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 9780743210812
  • ISBN-13: 978-0743210812
  • ASIN: 0743210816
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.9 x 8.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
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5.0 out of 5 stars I got married at 56... January 31, 2013
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I loved being single for 56 years: the freedom, the quiet, the selfish choices. Then I fell in love and married, 4 years ago. It was a traumatic adjustment -- still is! Sometimes wondered why in the world...even though I knew...but this book, from page one, bolstered my confidence and was a delightful read. I will never delete it from my Kindle! Pick your battles, and read this book! Thank you Ms. Viorst.
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5.0 out of 5 stars ARE YOU READY TO WED?? June 23, 2017
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An interesting view of what makes a marriage work. Should be given at all bridal showers. In my opinion, women expect more from a marriage than men.
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By SB
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Though I do not think she meant to be so funny, this is the funniest book I have ever read on marriage!! I really enjoyed it and so did my husband of 36 years.
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5.0 out of 5 stars The book made me feel that it must be made ... May 8, 2015
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The book made me feel that it must be made mandatory for every couple to read! If any marriage could be saved, this book can save it. That is, if you can handle the truth, and stomach the changes you have to make in yourself.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Before and During Marriage May 17, 2015
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This book is for those who want provocative thoughtful insight into issues of marriage that often go unexplored.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Grown up marriage August 12, 2012
By Jojo
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Absolutely must have for anyone in a committed relationship! Very balanced insights to make a case for staying or leaving a relationship.
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5.0 out of 5 stars great book!! March 24, 2014
By Sam
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What a great book. Im not married and hope to be some day. I needed to read this book for my Sociology of the family class. What an interesting book that brings marriage into reality. I definitely recommend to anyone. You dont need to be married or want to be married to read it. Its great all around read. You learn alot. And it has a positive outlook as well and makes you want to keep reading as well. Look at the preview and see what youre getting yourself into just in case your iffy.
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4.0 out of 5 stars A gift January 30, 2014
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It was a gift for my daughter. I checked it out of the library and she loved it and wanted it for the future as a reference book. She's not married yet, and so is trying to be prepared. Must buy.
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