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The Guide for Separated Parents: Putting Your Children First Paperback – April 1, 2010
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- Publisher : Piatkus Books (April 1, 2010)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 288 pages
- ISBN-10 : 074994000X
- ISBN-13 : 978-0749940003
- Item Weight : 7.1 ounces
- Dimensions : 5 x 0.7 x 8 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #2,204,209 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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What I expected was a book that would help me and my former partner to focus on the needs of our children in order to give them the best upbringing we could, even under the most distressing circumstances I could imagine.
What I got was a book that began on the premise that parents should'nt blame each other or try to find fault, but overcome their differences in their attempt to create as least a traumatic loss for their children as possible. Admirable ideals, were it that the legal systems and the professional helpers who work in them in most Western countries really understand the basic principle that children need both parents - mothers and fathers - and that children have rights over and above any rights that parents have - even within the EU. Parents have responsibilities, children have rights a legal friend in Australia said to me, in one of the few statements that ever made sense that I heard any of my lawyers ever say in the course of the tragedy that has been my family's most distressing dissolution.
Unfortunately, the world - particularly the legal and social worker world in places like (oh so Catholic) Malta and (oh that ever so fair minded and rational) Germany - the two jurisdictions within which the legal battle to have the children returned to their rightful home (Malta) was staged - is far from that ideal imagined by this book, as legal representatives with "win at all costs" attitudes fail to ever come close to recognising let alone understanding that children have rights over and above their clients, and that those rights and the parent's responsibilities don't necessarily (and usually rarely) compliment those of their clients interests.
My advice to any parent (particularly those who are "left behind" parents, as we are euphemistically called, and especially if you happen to be a father living in conservative, backward bound jurisdictions as most of Europe is and looks likely to remain for at least the next decade or two inspite of 20 years of social sciences research that clearly shows that new approaches are needed in protecting children and their needs and rights), forget about trying to work with your antagonistic partner in finding a child-friendly solution to your personal family tragedy. Unfortunately, I cannot suggest an alternative, as the legal process that you are most likely to find yourself in is probably even less likely to show any understanding of either your or, most importantly, your children's need for protection.
I dont know what the solution is to protecting children in situations where one or both parents choose to destroy their children's family. What I can say is that this book does not provide the answer.
Top reviews from other countries
This book helped so much to understand the emotional process my
Children and me would go through and to find strategies to help.
It was so good it really helped me see light at the end of a turbulent very painful tunnel.