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A book rife with ego
on July 26, 2011
I really wanted to like this book, and I thought it would have some helpful advice. Unfortunately this book fell very short of my expectations.
I have read a lot of self help books, and I have plenty of things I'd like to improve, my skills as a home manager being one of them. But, there are a lot of things I don't care for about this book, and reasons why it was maddeningly unhelpful.
First of all, in the first chapter, Shine tells her readers to stop complaining, and eliminate the ego. Now, this is good advice on its own. However, that advice is tempered by a superior tone to the book, tons of complaints about how hard it is to be a mom and a wife, and every other line is some sort of judgement against other women who don't live just like she does. In essence, she's pretty much fooled herself into thinking that she has "let go of her ego." If she actually had, then her "advice", which are just disguised judgements, would not be coming from such a combative place.
She has no compassion for people who are feeling out of control. Her advice is pretty much limited to "suck it up, sister" because it could always be worse. Yeah, it could be worse, but ignoring serious problems like a breakdown of communication between spouses, incompatibility, depression, etc doesn't do anyone any good.
Shine also has a very limited concept of sex, and advocates using sex to get money from your husband. Since when did manipulating your spouse become good behavior? As an addendum to that, I was personally disheartened to see that she also tells women that if a man wants something that's a social taboo, like BDSM, then she should ignore the issue with him, and complain to her girlfriends.
All in all, I found the book to be shallow, narrow, judgmental, and coming from a place of abject superiority. Sorry, Darla. But you're certainly not better than me because I choose to work in addition to wanting to care for my home.