"Rebuilding a marriage after an affair is one of life's biggest hurts and challenges. Weiner-Davis' no-nonsense advice is clear, insightful, and can save your marriage."
"With great compassion, courage, insight, and a wonderfully practical wisdom for addressing a topic so sensitive, Michele Weiner-Davis has provided a powerful means for transcending one of life's most painful challenges. Her empathy and clinical experience are evident on every page, and her ability to establish realistic expectations for walking a hard road makes the journey far more bearable. Therapists need to recommend this book and those suffering the hurt of betrayal need to read it."
Michael D. Yapko, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, Author, Depression is Contagious and Breaking the Patterns of Depression
"In a paradoxical sense, Healing from Infidelity, another brilliant book by Michele Weiner-Davis, is a call for fidelity to marriage regardless of commitment challenges. Filled with wisdom from years of clinical experience, case histories that document the healing process and practical guidance for all the stages on the journey to recovery, this book will be useful to every couple who has experienced an affair and therapists who want to help them."
Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D, Co-authors of, Making Marriage Simple
"I know of no better person to guide you through the toughest relationship issues than Michele Weiner-Davis. Her skill, knowledge, and proven track record put her in the rare class of the most successful therapists in the world."
Pat Love, Ph.D Author of, Hot Monogamy
"This book can be used as a standalone for couples, as well as an adjunct to therapy. Its even-handed orientation will appeal to both the unfaithful partner and the injured spouse. It is book of "how to;" not a book about "why."... There is a path to success, and as a tireless advocate of marriage, Michele Weiner-Davis provides a roadmap to recovery in Healing from Infidelity."
Jeffrey K. Zeig, PhD. Founder and Director of the Milton H. Erickson Foundation
"In Healing from Infidelity, esteemed therapist Michele Weiner-Davis takes couples through the arduous task of recovery from betrayal of trust. ....A wiser and more experienced voice for restoring faith in relationship would be hard for afflicted couples to find."
Steven Stosny, Ph.D., author of, Soar Above: How to Use the Most Profound Part of the Brian under Any Kind of Stress
From the Author
I have a few things to tell you.
Although infidelity is remarkably commonplace, no one ever believes it could happen to them. The truth is, no one's marriage is immune to betrayal.
This doesn't make it any easier when it happens in your life. In fact, finding out that your spouse has been unfaithful has to be one of life's most devastating moments.
Even waking up in the morning takes courage.
And the pain doesn't seem to go away, even after days, weeks and months. There are reminders and triggers everywhere you look.
That's when you say to yourself, "I'm a fool for putting up with this. I must be a weak person to stay in this marriage. I need to draw a line in the sand and stop being a wimp." Others around you will encourage you to kick your marriage to the curb.
You start to judge yourself harshly. You feel shame for staying.
But believe me, there is no shame in working through this crisis to get to the other side. Besides, leaving doesn't solve anything; you still have to deal with the pain. Plus, you'll be ending a marriage and, if you have kids, your family will never be the same.
Know that you can work through this dark period and make your marriage stronger and more loving than before. It's said that the scar tissue of a broken bone is stronger in constitution than the bone itself!
Healing our broken places makes us stronger!
The key is, you have to know how.
I know how.
For three decades, I've been passionate about helping 911 couples create loving, long-lasting marriages. In the process, I've learned all about infidelity- how it hurts relationships and more importantly, how to mend broken hearts, put the past in the past, rebuild trust, and help couples find forgiveness.
I help spouses to divorce their "old marriage," and start a new one....with each other.
I know the steps both partners need to take to reconnect emotionally and physically.
I wrote my book, HEALING FROM INFIDELITY, to share the effective, step-by-step plan that I use with the couples in my practice so more people could benefit from it.
When you read my book, you'll feel as though I'm in the room with you, coaching you every step of the way to feeling better. You'll get your life back. Let me help you heal your marriage.