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"Dara-Lynn Weiss had to defy her child's school, the judgments of other parents, and our fast food culture to rescue her daughter from the epidemic of obesity. Parents should see this as an inspiration-and a wake-up call."
-Amy Dickinson, "Ask Amy" advice columnist and author of The Mighty Queens of Freeville

"The Heavy should be required reading for every parent because it tackles-with refreshing honesty-that universal question we'll all face: how to do what's best for our children, even when the kids resist our efforts and society judges our approach. Dara-Lynn Weiss has written a brave book and started a crucial and overdue national conversation."
-Abigail Pogrebin, author of One and the Same and Stars of David

"Dara-Lynn Weiss has written a brave and honest memoir about what it means to be a parent, which is to say, sometimes we simply have to be the heavy-not because it will be a popular stance with other parents, or even with ourselves-but because it's our job. The love Weiss feels for her daughter, and the hard choices she makes to help her, are at the center of this daring book."
-Dani Shapiro, author of Devotion and Slow Motion

"Dara-Lynn Weiss is inspirational for her sheer will, her unwavering dedication, and her willingness to take accountability for her own actions. The Heavy is a stark look at imperfect parenting-and why our mistakes make us better parents."
-Christine Carter, author of Raising Happiness

About the Author

Dara-Lynn Weiss is a freelance writer and producer of Internet, print, and television content. In April 2012, she wrote about helping her daughter lose weight in Vogue magazine’s “Up Front” column. She lives with her husband and two children in New York City.
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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Ballantine Books; 1 edition (January 15, 2013)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0345541340
  • ISBN-13: 978-0345541345
  • Product Dimensions: 5.8 x 1 x 8.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (75 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,011,818 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Debbie Koenig talked about this book on her very sensible "Words to Eat By" blog. I was vaguely aware of the furor over Dara-Lynn Weiss's Vogue article, but since I'm not parenting an obese child, I was prepared to keep an open mind. I'm interested in the book because I myself was an overweight child and continue to struggle with weight and body image. Although my husband and I try to model a light touch with food -- we don't talk about weight, eat lots of vegetables and fruit, limit meat and sugary snacks -- I am concerned about passing my weight preoccupation on to my daughters. Thank goodness though, at age 11 and 2, they both are healthy weight and have an apparently uncomplicated relationship with food.
The book is a quick, easy read and is about mothering choices made to help an obese child. While I question some of the diet choices this mother made -- unlimited fruit, the utter preoccupation with calories and NUMBERS on a scale, eliminating "good" fats, dismissing exercise as an aid to weight loss -- I'm reminded of exasperating conversations where I find myself justifying my mothering choices only to end up saying, "Well, it works for our family." Perhaps Weiss is projecting some of her food issues on to her daughter, and as a mother of daughters I can say it may be impossible to avoid doing this completely. But she has also fielded criticisms that she is abusive, shaming, modeling self-hatred -- I don't believe this for a moment. She's deciding what's healthy for her daughter in a sea of contradictory information in an affluent, food-obsessed culture, and also trying to equip her daughter for the future. With a genetic predisposition to obesity, she was going to have to learn the skills at some point.
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Thank you to Dara-Lynn for writing about such a tough subject. I cried through almost the entire book because I can relate to it all. My daughter struggles with her weight at 10, and we can relate to the Weiss' experience with their daughter. We have no explanation for it, we eat healthy and exercise, and have felt utterly alone and at a loss for so long. We feel like failures as parents, like we are doing something wrong. I have new found hope. Thanks to Dara-Lynn for her courage to write this book!
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I really enjoyed this book! I have a daughter who is very similar to Bea in age and circumstance and my husband and I have danced around the subject. After reading the book I realized that we aren't alone. We are starting to make some small changes in our household. I will also try and incorporate some of the ideas from the book. The author was very brave and truthful about such a delicate subject. It takes a truly loving parent to address this issue with a child. Mrs. Weiss set aside her own fears to do what was right for her daughter's health. I highly recommend this book.
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I completely related to Dara-Lynn Weiss's anxiety over her young daughter's increasing weight gain and confusion over how to best approach it.

My daughter started out as a very small, thin baby/toddler/little girl. From age 5-7 she went through an astounding weight gain. My husband and I are very active (marathons, mountain biking, cross country skiing, etc. Our daughter started swim team and soccer at age 4. Triathlons at age 5. We eat extremely healthy.

Her weight gain was primarily in her distended stomach. I thought something was wrong, so took her to her pediatrician, who referred us to a gastrointestinal doctor. Nothing amiss.

From age 7-10 I tried everything to understand and help improve my daughter's weight. We counted calories, measured food, filled out charts, researched nutritional guidelines, packed school lunches, weighed her frequently. She's a smart, mature girl for her age. She liked learning about health. We did it as a family.

At her 9 year checkup her pediatrician pulled me aside and said she was fine. I had to stop what I was doing or I was going to give her an unhealthy image of herself that could develop into an eating disorder. I left the appointment in tears, feeling like a failure as a parent.

I still knew my daughter's weight was an issue, so from 9-10 I tried to be more stealth. I eliminated nearly all sugar and sugar substitutes. Switched from whole grains to sprouted grains. Reduced even further the amount of food she ate when I made her meals. She was consuming on average 1000 calories a day (and still active year round in two sports) but did not slim down.
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As the mother of 2 daughters, one which is overweight, I can completely identify with Mrs. Weiss' struggles. I am so grateful that she wrote this book. My daughter recently turned 7 and my husband and I have decided we need to make some major changes. The point that struck home the most with me was when the author talks about Bea saying she is fat and her wanting to deny it. The day after I read that my own daughter said the same thing and instead of my usual downplaying I decided to tell her it would be ok and I would help her get healthier and feel better. Our stories are not identical but I've found some consolation in her struggles and I would highly recommend this book for any parent of an overweight or obese child. She doesn't provide a diet plan and she isn't trying to convince anyone that her way is the best way - she just chose to do what was right for her child.
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