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The Heavy: A Mother, A Daughter, A Diet--A Memoir Hardcover – January 15, 2013
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"Dara-Lynn Weiss had to defy her child's school, the judgments of other parents, and our fast food culture to rescue her daughter from the epidemic of obesity. Parents should see this as an inspiration-and a wake-up call."
-Amy Dickinson, "Ask Amy" advice columnist and author of The Mighty Queens of Freeville
"The Heavy should be required reading for every parent because it tackles-with refreshing honesty-that universal question we'll all face: how to do what's best for our children, even when the kids resist our efforts and society judges our approach. Dara-Lynn Weiss has written a brave book and started a crucial and overdue national conversation."
-Abigail Pogrebin, author of One and the Same and Stars of David
"Dara-Lynn Weiss has written a brave and honest memoir about what it means to be a parent, which is to say, sometimes we simply have to be the heavy-not because it will be a popular stance with other parents, or even with ourselves-but because it's our job. The love Weiss feels for her daughter, and the hard choices she makes to help her, are at the center of this daring book."
-Dani Shapiro, author of Devotion and Slow Motion
"Dara-Lynn Weiss is inspirational for her sheer will, her unwavering dedication, and her willingness to take accountability for her own actions. The Heavy is a stark look at imperfect parenting-and why our mistakes make us better parents."
-Christine Carter, author of Raising Happiness
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The book is a quick, easy read and is about mothering choices made to help an obese child. While I question some of the diet choices this mother made -- unlimited fruit, the utter preoccupation with calories and NUMBERS on a scale, eliminating "good" fats, dismissing exercise as an aid to weight loss -- I'm reminded of exasperating conversations where I find myself justifying my mothering choices only to end up saying, "Well, it works for our family." Perhaps Weiss is projecting some of her food issues on to her daughter, and as a mother of daughters I can say it may be impossible to avoid doing this completely. But she has also fielded criticisms that she is abusive, shaming, modeling self-hatred -- I don't believe this for a moment. She's deciding what's healthy for her daughter in a sea of contradictory information in an affluent, food-obsessed culture, and also trying to equip her daughter for the future. With a genetic predisposition to obesity, she was going to have to learn the skills at some point.
My daughter started out as a very small, thin baby/toddler/little girl. From age 5-7 she went through an astounding weight gain. My husband and I are very active (marathons, mountain biking, cross country skiing, etc. Our daughter started swim team and soccer at age 4. Triathlons at age 5. We eat extremely healthy.
Her weight gain was primarily in her distended stomach. I thought something was wrong, so took her to her pediatrician, who referred us to a gastrointestinal doctor. Nothing amiss.
From age 7-10 I tried everything to understand and help improve my daughter's weight. We counted calories, measured food, filled out charts, researched nutritional guidelines, packed school lunches, weighed her frequently. She's a smart, mature girl for her age. She liked learning about health. We did it as a family.
At her 9 year checkup her pediatrician pulled me aside and said she was fine. I had to stop what I was doing or I was going to give her an unhealthy image of herself that could develop into an eating disorder. I left the appointment in tears, feeling like a failure as a parent.
I still knew my daughter's weight was an issue, so from 9-10 I tried to be more stealth. I eliminated nearly all sugar and sugar substitutes. Switched from whole grains to sprouted grains. Reduced even further the amount of food she ate when I made her meals. She was consuming on average 1000 calories a day (and still active year round in two sports) but did not slim down.Read more ›
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This book made me very sad for Bea, the poor girl who suffered through all of her mother's psychosis. Read morePublished 21 days ago by Angela E.
I hate to say it but I found the book pretty boring and uninformative. I really liked the author and felt she was vulnerable, honest and realistic but the content of the book and... Read morePublished 3 months ago by EmilySue
I read this book (in audio format) because it was suggested to me, not really knowing what it was about until I started. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Amy
I just took this book out from my local library because I like to read weight loss memoirs. I was an overweight child so I could really relate to Bea and her mom sounded a lot like... Read morePublished 12 months ago by JD
I feel I should start this review with a bit about myself. I was an overweight child and I was on a diet for my entire childhood--the kind of diet where everything was policed and... Read morePublished 12 months ago by WestMetroMommy
I hated this book. It reads more like "how to give your kid an eating disorder." She talks about how she'd rather her kid drink a diet coke than have a glass of juice... Read morePublished 14 months ago by Kindle Customer
I wanted to like this book, I really did. I've struggled with weight my whole life, and I remember begging my mother to help me "not be fat" when I was in 5th grade... Read morePublished 16 months ago by CeeCee
I just finished reading this book and I don't see where the "controversy" lies. The author did NOT put her daughter on a diet on a whim or even to make her "more... Read morePublished 16 months ago by Susan C. McConnell
I loved this book. As the mother of an overweight child I can relate to every obstacle they come up against. Read morePublished 17 months ago by Judy L. Parker