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A Helping Handbook : When A Loved One Is Critically Ill Paperback – December 12, 2000
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"Not only do patients in crisis move into ICU, their families do too. This powerful tool guides..." -- Katherine Brown-Saltzman, Clinical Nurse Specialist, UCLA Medical Center
"This valuable tool helps sort out the feelings too difficult to share, but writing them down brings understanding and healing." -- Les Zendle, M.D., Associate Medical Director, Southern California Permanente Medical Group
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Tending to the care of an ill or dying loved one, inevitably evokes strong emotions in the heart and mind of the care giver. We might feel angry toward people or over circumstances we can't control. We may experience fears we are unwilling to share or regrets and hoped for outcomes we feel ashamed to voice. We, as Care Givers, also have our own emotional needs evoked by memories as well as by present day challenges.
While Stephanie Waxman poetically shares her inner journey caring for her father at the end of his life, she extends a helping hand, welcoming and guiding us to actively explore inevitable emotional challenges we all experience when tending to the needs of those special ones in our lives. I encourage you to explore "A helping HANDBOOK when a loved one is critically ill" when it's your turn to serve.
Steve Wolf, PhD, Clinical Psychologist, Co-Author of Romancing the Shadow, A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital Authentic Life".
Into this stark reality comes the gentle, encouraging and hopeful messages of A Helping Hand Book by Stephanie Waxman. Such a simple book, really. It unbundles a few of those feelings and, with the gentleness of a good mother's hand, leads the reader to just consider, just feel for a moment, just experience one feeling that's knawing away at your heart. Each section leads with a few lines that capture the essence of the feeling and how it plays itself out during intensely difficult situations. How great it feels to "do something" like write down (or even imagine writing) a regret or two, what we fear most in this situation, or what we hope would happen. And then there's the poetry, soothing the spirit by saying what we feel but can't possibly find the words to express. I leave tomorrow morning not to care for a patient, but to visit a sister-in-law who is in the ICU following brain surgery. You can bet that the Hand Book is packed as an essential gift to my brother. Thanks, Stephanie, for this gift for us all.
Waxman guides the overwhelmed and grief-stricken toward greater acceptance of themselves and of the crisis at hand. More workbook than how-to treatise, the reader is prompted to express herself in writing -- ruled pages are provided for this purpose.
Drawing from her own life experience, Waxman provides gentle yet penetrating insights about the crisis of a dear one's illness. These are underscored by wonderful poems by her father, Stanley Waxman, her muse and initial inspiration for the Handbook. It is his line -- "Where there is honesty, there is endurance." -- that opens the book, and reminds us that anger, fear, regret are not only very human emotions we can expect in a crisis, they are also calls to face and accept our selves and our situation as honestly as possible.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Waxman's humble title, "A Helping Handbook . . ." would be more aptly titled "A Guide to Staying Sane, Present and Kind in Impossible, Hurtful and Complicated... Read morePublished on September 20, 2013 by Jean
I came across A Helping Handbook -- When A Loved One is Critically Ill while looking for a tool to help my mom and her sisters cope with my grandmother's passing. Read morePublished on November 23, 2011 by M. Anais
This is a great little book that will bring comfort and calm to anyone who reads it. It is beautifully and simply written and graphically it is a pleasure to read. Read morePublished on November 21, 2011 by okeedokee
Stephanie Waxman's A Helping Handbook:When A Loved One Is Critically Ill delivers perfectly on its humble title's promise. Read morePublished on September 19, 2011 by Blue
As a Physical Therapist for over 30 years, I've seen hundreds of patients suffering though the pain and frustrations of recovery. Read morePublished on September 19, 2011 by Sustainablemovement