- File Size: 1255 KB
- Print Length: 422 pages
- Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0615512054
- Publisher: HFY Publishing, LLC (July 14, 2011)
- Publication Date: July 14, 2011
- Sold by: Amazon Digital Services LLC
- Language: English
- ASIN: B005CWN9TU
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
- Word Wise: Enabled
- Lending: Enabled
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The authors also deal with the toll--both emotional and physical--that caregiving takes on the caregivers. It takes a long time to die from dementia, and the process is marked by a series of declines and plateaus. I am entering the final stage of this process with my own mom who is 92, and I found this book to be very useful and moving. I read it in a single sitting. Highly recommended.
"Her Final Year" is not that way. I kept shaking my head in agreement as I read the book, knowing that the two authors and their wives had walked in my shoes and understood my feelings and frustrations. I especially liked the last section on recovery and renewal after their mothers in law had passed away, as I will shortly be in that phase myself.
This is an open and honest book about the realities of caring for someone with Alzheimer's or dementia. Expecially for those just embarking on this experience, the book is a great reality check for what probably lies ahead.
I think this book can also be of value to those who are not directly dealing with a family member with dementia. I read some of the e-mails in real time (I'm a friend of one of the families). I do not have any family currently dealing with dementia, but in the years since this book began to be assembled I now have several friends with family members afflicted with some form of dementia, as well as family and friends that need help and attention on a daily basis. Reading through the book I was surprised to find how many of the experiences there touched directly on some of my developing tangential contacts with care giving. Dealing with hospice, getting patients to the doctor, dealing with bureaucracy and the like are not unique to dementia, even if those stresses and others can be so much worse in the long term care that dementia generally requires. The book has also opened a window on to some of the stresses and experiences of those friends I have, that, due to their dealing directly with a person suffering dementia, do not have as much current social contact outside their family as earlier.
Although not "literature" the book is well written/presented and read with an intensity that became physically palpable for me.
I highly recommend this for anyone with aging friends and relatives as well as those dealing more directly with the immediate issues of care giving. Even if you are blessed enough never to have to go through what the authors did I think you will find reading the book worthwhile for the insights into what so many others are going through.
I had the privilege of being able to help my mother care for my grandfather, who had Alzheimer's. I work as a consultant and flew to Seattle to help when he starting falling, but couldn't remember that he would fall. It became impossible for my mother.
The writers give a poignant and vivid description of the hills and valleys on the path of these patients and their caregivers.
Three months after my grandfather died, my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and I became her caregiver for the next year.
I especially like the last part of the book which tells about recovering from the experience. That's where I am now.
Thanks for taking the time to read my review, and I hope you found it helpful in making a purchase decision.
Her Final Year: A Care-Giving Memoir and His First Year, A Journey of Recovery
Authors James Downey and John Bourke along with their wives, Martha John and Kathi Bourke have compiled a unique and very passionate account of their experiences as caregivers to Alzheimer's patients. (Martha and Kathi's mothers respectively) The majority of the writing is from the men's perspective resulting in a distinctive point of view. Society typically assumes that the wives/ daughters take on this role, but for these two families, the husbands became major care providers and share their experiences through a collection of journal entries and email communications over the course of several years.
Whether the condition be Alzheimer's or some other chronic or terminal illness, many characteristics are universal, which makes this collaborative memoir very useful and relatable for anyone going through a similar experience with a loved one. Their accounts are emotional, very honest, and at times humorous, (Yes, you do need to find some bright spots every day with your "patients"!) Their advice for dealing with bureaucracy and practical coping strategies is solid and useful.
Much of the book is divided into twelve months to equate to twelve stages of care and life with a family member suffering from Alzheimer's /Dementia. The final section, His First Year, addresses the aftermath and how these gentlemen and their families redefined their lives after their patients passed and the role of caregiver came to an end. Readers will not find a more real, heartfelt and honest account out there aside from your own personal experience. For folks who have already walked this path, (and could possibly walk it again), this is a must-read book.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I really could relate to your plight. Granted I was a caregiver to a cancer patient and in the end just wanted him to be at peace with himself, regardless on where that left me. Read morePublished 9 months ago by julie morse
This book is an essential read for anyone caring for someone with dementia. The 36 hour day became my bible this book I know will become my guide in the end stage of my Mom`s... Read morePublished 12 months ago by Lyn
This story of two very similar woman and families are struck with a very sad and frightening dementia and if that's not bad enough, the family must be strong and 24 caregivers... Read morePublished 14 months ago by C. Bunch
A story worthy of five stars but I found it kind of difficult to keep straight, which family and patient they were talking about. Read morePublished 20 months ago by Larry Wayment
This book is a comfort. This book is a public service. You feel like you're alone and your mother or your father or your grandmother is there, but slowly going and there is... Read morePublished on June 16, 2014 by Colette Buchanan
Good book. I took care of my father who had Alzheimer's as well until the last 4 months of his life. I certainly can relate to your experience.Published on May 4, 2014 by LC
I enjoyed this book very much. The reason I downloaded this book was because I have recently experienced the loss of both parents. Read morePublished on February 13, 2014 by Cynthia S. Garcia
I found this to be a helpful account of what to expect as parents age. The two men in the account were truly devoted attendants and I was impressed by them.Published on December 29, 2013 by Shikoku 88
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