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Hold Tight Gently: Michael Callen, Essex Hemphill, and the Battlefield of AIDS Paperback – March 1, 2016
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“Relevant and heartbreaking” (Bay Area Reporter), “incisive, passionate, and poetic” (New York Journal of Books), and “powerful” (Kirkus Reviews), Hold Tight Gently is Martin Duberman's poignant memorial to two of the great unsung heroes of the early years of the epidemic. Callen, the author of How to Have Sex in an Epidemic, was a leading figure in the fight against AIDS in the face of willful denial under the Reagan administration. Hemphill, a passionate activist and the author of the celebrated Ceremonies, was a critically acclaimed openly gay African American poet of searing intensity and introspection.
A profound exploration of the intersection of race, sexuality, class, and identity, Hold Tight Gently captures both a generation struggling to cope with the deadly disease and the extraordinary refusal of two men to give in to despair.
- Print length368 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherThe New Press
- Publication dateMarch 1, 2016
- Dimensions5.75 x 0.75 x 9 inches
- ISBN-101620971925
- ISBN-13978-1620971925
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Martin Duberman is Distinguished Professor Emeritus of History at the CUNY Graduate Center, where he founded and for a decade directed the Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies. The author of more than twenty books―including Andrea Dworkin, Radical Acts, Waiting to Land, A Saving Remnant, Howard Zinn, The Martin Duberman Reader, and Paul Robeson: No One Can Silence Me (for young adults)―Duberman has won a Bancroft Prize and been a finalist for both the National Book Award and the Pulitzer Prize. He lives in New York City.
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Mr. Duberman covers much of the same territory of Sean Strub's just-published BODY COUNTS although this is not a criticism of this book. Some overlapping is unavoidable. Many of the heroes and villains remain the same: the Elizabeth Taylors, the Mathilde Krims, many of the PWA's and members of ACT UP as opposed to the Pat Buchanans, the Ronald Reagans, The Jerry Falwells. (I was pleased to see Atlanta's own Reverend Joseph Lowery get the credit he rightly deserves for saying that the Civil Rights Act should be amended to protect the rights of lesbians and gay men and dismayed to learn that Callen and the Flirtations who had sung "Mr. Sandman" in the movie "Philadelphia" were eliminated when the soundtrack was produced.)
The author points out that these two men were very different and never met. Mr. Callen, for example, was much more of the type who had few secrets about any aspect of his life. For example, he tells the world how many sex partners he had. By his best calculation, he believed by the time he was 27 that he had "bottomed" for 2,496 men. Or in Mr. Duberman"s words: "He was outspoken and unashamed about his `sluthood.'" (Surely this is way too much information.) Mr. Hemphill, on the other hand, would never have made such a statement. And while it does not speak to their differences, Mr. Hemphill had a dual dilemma: he had to deal with homophobia in the black community and rampant racism in the white gay community as well. Mr. Callen of course only had to confront homophobia.
Mr. Duberman's book is thorough and extremely well-researched with voluminous footnotes. (To his everlasting credit, he does not do what so many biographers these days insist on doing: telling the reader what their subject was thinking when they have no way of knowing that.) Additionally, he had access to a large amount of material-- letters, speeches, diary notes, music-- of Callen's and less from Hemphill although he conducted interviews with many of his close friends and also gained assess to some of his unpublished poems. One of those, expressing Mr. Hemphill's feelings after the death of his friend Joe Beam (whose obit in the PHILADELPHIA INQUIRER said that ''he is believed to have died of natural causes'") is not one I will soon forget and worth the price of this book:
There should have been
More letters between us.
In later years it will be difficult to ascertain
The full meaning of our relations.
Most of us will not be here
To bear witness.
There should have been
more letters hastily written
or carefully typed,
long-winded scripts
or short, cryptic messages.
Volumes of letters
should have gathered
over time, but we leave
hastily scrawled postcards,
outrageous, long-distance
phone bills,
and in rare instances
evidence that some of us
were more than brothers,
we were intimate,
loyal, companions.
HOLD TIGHT GENTLY is another sad reminder of all those we have lost, not only the extremely gifted but the rest of us, the ordinary as well. Those of us who remain will never forget them.
that took so many lives leaving behind stunned and bitter survivors. While the gay agenda in recent years has shifted to
gay marriage rights the author fairly questions the lack of a gay community response to the ongoing disease and its continual spread into the gay community. This is a book that asks as many questions as answers them. The decision to tell the story through the lives of two
victims, each from a different social strata, clearly defines the struggles and the horrific fear that decimated at least two generations of gay men from different races, different regions of the country and different socio-economic brackets. The Reagan presidency, Mayor Koch
and Governor Mario Cuomo are not spared. History will judge whether these men could and should have done more to help the victims.
I would highly recommend Hold Me Tightly to anyone who lived through the Aids 1980-95 Nightmare, or who lost someone special to this
disease as well as anyone too young to remember the horror but would like to pay homage to the early pioneers who put on the pressure
to get the "cocktails" out there which has made the disease "manageable". However the author Mr. Duberman would rightly correct me
in making the assumption that AIDS is "manageable". His arguments for this belief are just another reason to read this important and honest
piece of work.







