Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
Honey, I Wrecked the Kids: When Yelling, Screaming, Threats, Bribes, Time-outs, Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't Work Paperback – February 9, 2009
Frequently bought together
Customers who bought this item also bought
From the Back Cover
HONEY, I WRECKED THE KIDS
If you have a "discipline-resistant" child, then you already know that the old standby parenting tactics just don't work on this modern era kid. Naughty mats, counting, time-outs, removing privileges…all the things that seemed to work just fine on other kids are actually making things worse with this one.
"Sometime between removing the door to stop him from slamming it and pushing his shelf into the hall so he couldn't chuck storybooks at me when I sent him to his room, I thought to myself−this is crazy. We can't go on forever disassembling the house. I need help!"
—Shirley, mother of two
Psychotherapist, bestselling author and nationally sought-after parenting expert Alyson Schaefer finally provides what perplexed parents everywhere have been waiting for: the blueprint to understanding−and correcting−misbehavior. This isn't an assertiveness course for permissive parenting, and it's not a PR makeover for our autocratic, punishing methods. With her characteristic blend of outrageous humor and uncanny insight (yes, she does peer into your living rooms at night), Alyson will show you how to diagnose and reverse the root cause of all misbehavior (even the most baffling) so that you can rediscover the joy of parenting your kids. Sound too good to be true? Start reading.
About the Author
Alyson Schafer, M.A. Counseling, B.Sc., OACCPP
Alyson Schafer is a psychotherapist and one of the nation's leading parenting experts. She's the author of the bestselling Breaking the Good Mom Myth (Wiley, 2006) and host of The Parenting Show. The media relies on Alyson's comments and opinions; she has appeared on The Montel Williams Show, The National, BTV, and you can find her interviewed and quoted extensively in countless publications including Today's Parent, Cosmopolitan, Reader's Digest and Chatelaine.
Visit her online at www.alyson.ca
Top customer reviews
If the book taught me anything that stuck, it's that my kid isn't so bad. I give him much more slack and try to be more diplomatic with him. As a result, my son is always smiling and singing and dancing around. He hates doing homework, but makes sure to get it all done before moving onto play time. He's responsible and compassionate and smart.
None of that, it turns out, is a result of reading this book. He's been that all along. The book helped me to put in perspective our expectations of him. It taught me to respect his boundaries a bit more and think more diplomatically about how I address him and explain my expectations to him.
I give it four stars because the book provided comfort to my wife and me when we were at our wits end. It didn't change our lives though. It's well written and easy to grasp. I just think the concepts in it are too much like a "hippy commune" mentality that seems to lack real discipline.
We as parents are our children's guardians, confidants and mentors. It's a big responsibility. It helps to look at how to deal with all that from different perspectives so that you can get a better handle on your own parenting style.
So even if the methods in it aren't for you, this book is cheap enough and light enough to be worthy of the investment of time and money. Your kids won't know you've read it, but they will likely benefit from your greater understanding.
I don't think it's difficult to accept a method which is based on mutual respect and cooperation - but I had trouble seeing how to practically apply this on my own. This book did what I needed - it not only tells me WHAT I should be doing, but HOW. As parents I think the most difficult thing is accepting that we do not have control over our children (or anyone else for that matter). The author addresses this and the book is about changing our behavior and approach which will naturally lead to the behaviors we'd like to see from our children. Sort of a 'do unto others' approach.
I would think any parent could benefit from this book - I certainly have.