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Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design Paperback – June 1, 2016
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About the Author
J. PARKER has been writing at the Hot, Holy & Humorous blog since 2010, using a biblical perspective and a blunt sense of humor to foster godly sexuality. Her mission to encourage sex in marriage by God s design was inspired by her personal story and God s beautiful nudging. Married for twenty-three years, she has two teenage sons, lives in Friendswood, Texas, and holds a master s degree in counseling and lives in Friendswood, Texas, a bedroom community between Houston and Galveston.
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Thankfully, women have help with a book like J. Parker's Hot, Holy, and Humorous. I found this one while looking up marriage blogs and I'm interested in having the author on my show. She agreed to send me her book for free to which I am grateful.
This is an excellent look at this topic. Thankfully, she starts off in the right place, building romance. Many a woman can have a hard time believing her husband can really love her when it comes to sex. After all, a man really has a strong desire for that and it can seem to a woman like he just cares about using her body for his pleasure. If he just seems to want sex so much, does he really love me?
Yes. The huge majority of the time, yes he does. What Parker gets is that men want sex for a lot more than just physical release. As she says in the book, if a man just wanted only release, he could do that on his own. No. The man wants something different. To be sure, full intercourse provides something a lot better, but there is something more the man wants and it really can't be put into words that easily. I would just describe it by saying a man wants to feel respected and honored and loved and he wants to feel like he's really connected to his wife and is close to her and is a priority to her. Sex is often the loudest way that that is screamed.
Parker advises women to accept what their husband does. He tries. Even if he fails miserably, at least he's trying. She does describe her husband as Spock and does not think in terms of emotion so being romantic is hard. I must disagree with this some. I'm a Spock type too and I believe in being romantic and do it because of the old saying. Happy wife, happy life. If my Princess is happy, we're all much happier.
It's only logical.
Still, her point is well taken. If your husband is trying to do something for you, don't get after him because it's not perfect. Your husband tries to fix dinner for you and burns a few items. He tried. He tries to clean up the house and puts things in the wrong spot. He tried. He tried to do the laundry and got everything messed up. He still tried. Get after him for how he failed and he likely won't try again.
Parker also advises that you find time for sex. Some couples put a time on the calendar and say that barring some crisis of some sorts, we are going to have sex at this time. Scheduling sex may seem odd, but it can work. After all, the man can rest assured he's going to get that connection and the woman can playfully tease her man with saying something like "Just wait until X day comes along."
From here on, Parker gets down to the real deal. This is incredibly thorough and yet it is also incredibly clean. Parker's style is very respectful and does not use dirty slang to speak. Her chapter on kissing has to be one of the most thorough I've ever read anywhere. She discusses everything from oral sex to what to do with your hands to dealing with fantasies to how to initiate.
Usually in a marriage, there is one partner who has a high drive and one who has a low drive. Now of course, there are exceptions, but this is the norm. Whichever side you're on, Parker has some help for you. If you're a high-drive wife, she has ways to coax your husband a little bit more. If you're a low-drive, she has ways to make you feel more excited.
Parker also has advice on how to deal with pain and then about how Christians should view sex. Throughout the book, she definitely says no to pornography. When you conclude you can see that for Parker, as it should be for all of us, sex is indeed hot, holy, and humorous.
I definitely recommend this one.