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How to Be: A Guide to Contemporary Living for African Americans Paperback – February 2, 2000

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Michael J. Rochon The Philadelphia Tribune Stunning....The essential combination of sound advice and an even sounder advice giver.

Ebony An innovative primer....[It] goes beyond the basics to explain how and why these traditions exist in Black America.

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REAL MANNERS FOR REAL LIFE

Etiquette is more than knowing which fork to use. Good manners are the rules that let us find our way in today's rapidly changing maze of lifestyles, customs, and relationships. Anyone who doesn't know these rules is living and working at a real disadvantage.

In How to Be, noted author and editor Harriette Cole treats manners as a resource for the empowerment of people of African descent. She offers guidance drawn from the tried-and-true experience and wisdom of our African-American elders, as well as from European mainstream traditions in many areas of life, including:

FAMILY -- IMMEDIATE, EXTENDED, AND BLENDED

NEW CODES OF DATING, LOVE, AND SEX

ENTERTAINING FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND COWORKERS IN BOTH CASUAL AND FORMAL SETTINGS

WORKPLACE ISSUES -- FROM HOW TO RESIGN TO WHAT TO WEAR ON CASUAL FRIDAYS

RITES OF PASSAGE, INCLUDING WEDDINGS AND FUNERALS

HOLIDAY CELEBRATIONS LIKE CHRISTMAS, KWANZAA, AND JUNETEENTH AND MUCH MORE

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 524 pages
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster; Fireside ed. edition (February 2, 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0684863081
  • ISBN-13: 978-0684863085
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 1.3 x 8.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.6 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,704,385 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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I bought this for my future daughter-in-law so she will always know how to handle whatever situation she could encounter. She already has elegance and grace and this book is a wonderful addition to her style. Just buy it if you are raising a queen for a king!
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Great, great resource. History and legend come together in an easy to read, well thought out and well laid out format.
True to life, accurate accounts of "How we are". For everything Emily Post is not to the African American citizen, How To Be has your answers!
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By Sharon on September 7, 2010
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I always keep a copy of this close by as well as extras to give to friends. It has come in handy in many situations that have occurred in my life from funerals to birthdays to just plain everyday situations. I will give copies to my children as they grow older to serve as a reference for "how to be" when you don't know.
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By A Customer on August 27, 2002
I picked this up on sale and gave to all my Bridesmaids, because Harriette Cole wrote Jumping the Broom a decent reference on African-American weddings. I thought it would be a nice gift. I also picked up a copy for myself to find that it was very cursory and not as thorough on many issues as I felt necessary. I would recommend Basic Black over Ms. Cole's guide, unless of course you catch a great sale as I did. I don't think there is much here your grandmother or mother probably hasn't already told you.
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If you want a biography instead of actual etiquette tips, this is the book for you. Otherwise, stay away. It has no practical usage at all.
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