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How to Be Gay Hardcover – August 21, 2012
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- Print length560 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherBelknap Press
- Publication dateAugust 21, 2012
- Dimensions6.75 x 1.75 x 9.75 inches
- ISBN-100674066790
- ISBN-13978-0674066793
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Customers find the book's academic content readable and interesting. They describe it as an insightful analysis of gay culture without being sensational. The book is considered a necessary intervention in LGBTQ studies and a valuable resource for education. Readers appreciate the level-headed, detailed approach without being overly academic or polemical.
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- Reviewed in the United States on September 8, 2012Halperin's book is a tour de force. He's making an important contribution to new ways of thinking about what it means to be gay in America. In this book, Halperin works from the premise that there is a recognizable gay male culture (e.g., Broadway, drag, camp, love of certain female icons, architectural restoration) that was created initially to provide a means of self-expression when no explicit representations, at least no stigmatizing ones, were available. Although the details change over time, and post-Stonewall liberation has afforded a bevvy of positive gay male cultural objects, Halperin argues this practice of appropriating straight cultural objects still continues. His question is: if this practice continues, then why? What might it say about the experience of being gay in a society that is still culturally straight (i.e., heteronormative), no matter what political or legislative inroads have been made? He also wants to know how we can describe and account for the way it feels to be gay without resorting to psychology or essentialist ideas (i.e., that we are "born this way."). Halperin isn't interested in whether or not people are born this way, or how they get gay, but how they engage with gay culture (which may be to not engage it) and why. Some gays aren't very gay, to say it differently.
Halperin is clear that the gay culture he describes in this book is American, white gay male culture. Beyond the scope of this book, he encourages others to pick up this project, if they are so inclined, and use it for other aspects of gay culture (e.g., while he uses a scene from _Mildred Pierce_, and discusses the cult of Joan Crawford, he acknowledges that examining the interest gay men have of Bette Davis may produce different insights) and with other gay populations (e.g., gay men of color, non-American gays, lesbians, trans people). He is not making totalizing claims about gay experience--or positing that gay men have some kind of inherently superior experience or existence. In fact, he notes that many gay men, or men who are attracted to other men, don't "do" gay as well as some straight men and women. Gay, in the way Halperin discusses it, is a cultural practice, not a sex-object choice, and so anybody can do or not do gay, regardless of their sexuality.
Halperin asserts that, if it's true that being gay in a straight dominated world produces a certain kind of subjectivity,then gay people do themselves a disservice by denying and underplaying that difference. Gay culture makes a contribution--understanding the world differently, gay-ly (whether one is homosexual or heterosexual), provides a way of undoing limiting and harmful norms that will stay in place (and are still in place) no matter how many equality gains are made on a political or legal level. Understanding gay subjectivity through cultural appropriation may open up freedoms not available through the lens of identity.
I find this work masterful and a necessary intervention in queer studies. As a gay man (and a gay nerd), I find it compelling and a welcome response to modern gay identity politics. This is an inventive, rigorous piece of academic work, although Halperin's language is very accessible. Readers will benefit, however, from some familiarity with lesbigay or queer studies, particularly Michael Warner's _The Trouble with Normal_. I strongly recommend this to anyone who has ever felt queer, or different (regardless of your sexuality), from the rest of society. Halperin's methodology doesn't have to be limited to gay men, but following his lead, one can think differently about the cultural objects one picks up and what they might say about how you feel to be queer.
- Reviewed in the United States on November 2, 2013Admittedly, there is quite a lot of repetition in this very thick book. But if you can overlook that (or simply fast forward every now and then) you will be rewarded with many thought provoking observations. For me, personally, a direct result of reading this book was to embrace to 'camp' and 'gay' side of my personality more, instead of trying to look/appear 'normal' and 'fit in' with the rest of society. Because, as Halperine describes, just wanting to be 'normal' throws away the unique gift that is given to many gay people. His account of a lesbian activist who wants to get married to her girlfriend, only so she can dress up for the wedding like everyone else and enjoy the normal joys of run-of-the-mill-heteros, was truly shocking. (Is that what the LGBT community is fighting for: boring normality?) You certainly come out of reading this book wanting to watch your old Joan Crwaford movies again! Instead of being ashamed of liking such films, Broadway musicals etc., one should celebrate the fact that different things speak to gay men, or men with a gay sensitity (which heteors can also have). Hughly enjoyable, on the whole.
- Reviewed in the United States on September 10, 2012Purchased for a gay friend who came out in late middle age. A readable but learned analysis of the gay situation as a kind of ethnicity with a set of shared norms and sensibilities. My friend has found the book reassuring and comforting--not only is he not a freak or aberration, but is a member of a common culture that goes well beyond sexuality. I ordered this in response to several enthusiastic reviews in the "straight" media. I strongly recommend this a a gift from a straight to a gay friend.
- Reviewed in the United States on November 18, 2012I did...both want to like, as well as like much of it.
I wanted, needed a respite from a parade of dry doctoral theses..."How to Be Gay" Ta-da! Sounds like fun, no? Well, it did to me. Here was that respite the doctorates ordered! Buff bums parading in rows across a brilliant, drag-show-feather-boa-pink cover. How gay is that? Hold onto your seat...bumpy night ahead! And, we're off like a prom dress!
Clearly tongue-in-cheek...its cheekiness dripping with irony, humor, wit! Could any culture be more adept than the gay community at parading irony in even the most sorrowful experience? (cue the Fire Island Italian widows), exaggerated humor in the most mundane? ("Mom, please pass the peas to the homosexual at the table."), the entertainment value of curtain rod shoulder pads (Carol Burnett, ready for her close-up!), the biting wit in social observation? Coward? Wilde? Crisp?
Irony? Humor? Wit? Not here in the telling.
OK, so the book is soooo mistitled. Titles sell books. It sold mine. But prepare for a doctoral thesis. OK, still valid, if perhaps a cover, misjudged.
With proffered humility, Halperin risks a tightrope walk into analysis of gay culture. Is there a community more possessive of its identity or more resistant to or resentful of categorization? Nevertheless, Halperin walks that rope confidently, often convincingly, occasionally tripping, but I believe there is a very good, 300 page book somewhere in this 500 page jumble.
I shall not enter into argument of Focault's early work, later work, Freud's contributions, Freud's miss-analyses, etc.. I'll leave that to White and other better minds than mine, though reasonably well-read on the subject of gay culture. What I will claim is frequent reminder of undergraduate professors who droned. Student, awaking from a mid-lecture doze, finds professor right where he was when he nodded.
Damn, man. Where is the editor who perhaps could not inject jocularity, sass, or clever turn of phrase, but at least recognition and reflection of the culture's in the text? Who could do some organizing of this closet, sans wire coat hangers? Arbitrary "divisions" do nothing here to clarify whatever point is being made in the mini-chapters. Mired in "Mildred Pierce" and "Mommy Dearest," Halperin's frequently valid hypotheses are stifled by unfortunate repetition. Again. And again.
Reader: definitely use a bookmark...otherwise, one would be hard-pressed to follow logical progression in this tome. I couldn't.
That said, I did find this a worthwhile read (if "sloggy," as one review here termed it), in spite of what I, and some others, feel are its shortcomings. The author's conclusions offer much to engender discourse and argument.
Halperin himself contends that drag is a democratic art form, approachable by all without hierarchical snobbery. It is performance art (in contrast to cross-dressing), audience being an existential element, and with constituent goal if not of fun, surely of entertainment. Would that the democratic entertainment suggested by the cover had been found inside. What a delightful time we could have had!
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Kiffer CardReviewed in Canada on October 5, 20155.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Appeared to be a library book....a little odd, but arrived as otherwise expected, when expected.
MartinReviewed in Germany on November 28, 20135.0 out of 5 stars Worth to read
Amazing analyses, great way of putting fact together, and even as a non-native English reader absolut understandable. Definitely recommendable. Great.

