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How to Be a Man: (and other illusions) Hardcover – May 12, 2015
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Offers life lessons and hard-won wisdom from the former hard-partying high-school dropout who found sobriety through martial arts, family, andof all thingssports radio. In it, McKagan dishes priceless advice.”
My Big Honkin Blog, 5/10/15
Writing with an easy and engaging style an entertaining entry on my list of favorite reads thus far, this year.”
Focuses on issues surrounding masculinity, paternity, partnership and maintaining your integrity and footing in a dizzying world and culture.”
Seattle Times, 5/13/15
Helpful advice on dealing with the work/family balancing act, financial planning and, yes, book suggestions.”
LA Weekly, 5/11/15
Encapsulates [McKagan’s] life and what he's learned in a highly readable way that everyoneman or womancan relate to.”
The book that all men must read An easy to swallow textbook of advice and guidance Men! Go NOW and get this book. (Or women: get it FOR THEM) Follow his lead, boys, and we can all slide headlong into our graves without regret screaming Wow! What a ride!’”
Sonic Sound Magazine, 5/14/15
How To Be a Man, illustrates how Duff has balanced his career and home life, creating a happy medium that allows him to thrive; proving to us all that being a rock star’ isn’t about debauchery.”
The Writer’s Journey blog, 5/12/15
McKagan is an entertaining character Fans of McKagan’s columns on ESPN.com and SeattleWeekly.com will enjoy the witty banter of How To Be A Man (And Other Illusions).”
Lighthearted yet serious-minded.”
Alternative Nation, 5/19/15
Chock full of advice and wisdom that [McKagan] has picked up along the way There is a lot of first hand rock and roll experience talking in these pages, as well as a fiercely sharp business mind The pages are devoid of ego and Duff manages to give himself a firm beating with his own fists in this verbal dojo. You will never read a book by a rocker quite like this one.”
Milwaukee Journal Sentinel,100 Books for Summer Reading,” 5/31/15
Something about this book pulled me back in page after page All in all a fun and quick read that fans of Duff and his music will surely enjoy.”
[An] easy read Don’t expect a tell-all filled with rock and roll debauchery This is the calm family-man rocker advice book This book isn’t for everyone but many will find something in it that appeals to them.”
Rolling Stone, 6/3/15
A time-hopping memoir that chronicles [McKagan’s] life between a tour with a cover band featuring Slash to his temporary reunion with Axl Rose last year. Although the tome is not a self-help or advice book per se, it's littered with entertaining and hilarious aphorisms.”
Brave Words, 6/17/15
Full of unbelievable revelations Advice is plentiful throughout.”
McKagan is a gifted writer and his stories are humorous and charming If you're looking for a light and entertaining read with a peek into rock and roll, you'll enjoy this one. Or, if you need some advice on how to deal with your teenage daughter or perhaps some tips on home maintenance, you'll also want to add this book to your collection.”
Publishers Weekly, 6/29/15
A hybrid memoir/self-help book that addresses a pressing issue for rock stars and those who party like them: how do you live after putting the bottle down?”
Praise for Duff McKagan's previous book, the New York Times bestseller It's So Easy (and other lies)
"You'll read this memoir from the former Guns N' Roses bass player for the sex, drugs, and rock and roll, but you'll remember it for what comes afterrecovery, family, and fulfillment."Los Angeles Magazine
"In a book that mourns friendships and talent lost to drugs, McKagan's transformation is a relief and an inspiration. He writes with honesty and even humility, seemingly refreshingly devoid of rock star egomania."Shelf Awareness
"Honest, well-written... McKagan is surprisingly self-aware and candid, and he doesn't let himself off the hook easily."Publishers Weekly
"McKagan has a nice eye for details and a surprisingly good memory. He's proudly raw and harsh, refusing to hold back in terms of language and content.... Fans will be thrilled by this honest, detailed memoir."Kirkus Reviews
"Fans will love the descriptions of the struggles and early triumphs of Guns N' Roses, but McKagan's descriptions of his equally driven efforts at self-transformation are just as compelling.... Rock fansand would be rockerswill find much to savor here."Library Journal
"McKagan recounts his [tale] with flamboyance and an engaging wit."Booklist
Heavy Metal ICU, 8/29/15
An extremely entertaining and oddly enough, an informative read.”
An absolutely astounding, brave, and gut-wrenching book If you read one book this year, make it Dark Days.”
South China Morning Post, 9/5/15
[A] moving book Gritty and believable, the book reveals the life of a budget rock star’ and what it's like to have a drink problem. It succeeds by sharing insights into common human suffering.”
RollingStone.com, 10 Best Music Books of 2015,” 12/21/15
Engaging Whether he's detailing the superfandom he shares for the Seattle Seahawks with Alice in Chains' Jerry Cantrell, rattling off a list of albums every man should own (Sabbath's Paranoid, Bowie's Diamond Dogs) or laying down the Number One rule of hotel cohabitation (don't poop in the room), McKagan is an unfailingly graciousand entertainingguide.”
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"How to be a man (and other illusions)", however, is a medium enjoyable read. Why is this?
1) The book repeats a number of things that have been said before. If you have read the previous book, or even some of his columns in Seattle Weekly, you will tend to think, "Oh, that!" in a number of places. I suppose that this was to be expected - there's only so many things you can say about any one person's life. Putting out two books on yourself in a spell of a few years only is an ill-advised decision. If Duff had waited for another few years, it would have been more interesting to see how his perspective on certain things might have changed.
2) There are a lot of "fillers". There is, for instance, an epic list of albums that every man should know. They're in alphabetical order, so if you enjoy reading dictionaries, you will love this chapter. The pages and pages of recommended books are equally frustrating. I understand that Duff would want to include these things. But a list of 20 would have been quite sufficient, and would have made the individual recommendations more significant.
3) I am genuinely happy that Duff's life has turned out the way it has. Like I said, he is an inspiration in many ways. I am glad he loves his family. This is how it should be. Does this make for a good life? Yes. Does it make for an interesting read? I am not so sure.
Still, I enjoyed Duff's style. He is funny with more than a hint of irony. I also appreciate him taking an open stand on a number of important topics. I do hope that this is not his last book.
And after all - I'm a woman, so maybe I am just not the targeted reader! ;-)
Decided to buy this one and can say that it is a good read. Very insightfull. Now want to buy Slash's book too.
Just to see a drug and alcohol addict completely transform his life and now be a successful husband/father/business man and still be a rock star, you don't read a lot of those stories. They don't usually end well. But I think you can take the advise from someone who's done it, which is in this book.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Duff McKagan and his books!5 STARS! Love his writing!Very interesting all over again!Published 1 month ago by Ionela Alexandra Paraskiv
So happy Duff turned his life around and remains dedicated to his family and art. As others have said, the book is so-so. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Denise Mussehl
My husband and I are enjoying this book full of hard earned wisdom and enlightenment. I appreciate Duff's transparency and willingness to share the realizations of his hard mined... Read morePublished 2 months ago by C. S. Iglesias
After celebrating his 50th birthday, Duff McKagan shares life advice based on his own experiences.
If you enjoyed his first book, you will like this one too.
I got this in the actual hard cover book for a friend's birthday. One of their favorite rock bands in Guns-n-Roses. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Bran Olen