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How to Hug a Porcupine: Negotiating the Prickly Points of the Tween Years Paperback – July 23, 2008
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"Ross's central metaphor, 'tweens' as prickly-but-loveable porcupines, is funny and effective, and her writing style is easy-going, making this an accessible and practical primer." ---Library Journal --This text refers to the Audio CD edition.
About the Author
Julie A. Ross, M.A., is the author of Joint Custody with a Jerk and executive director of Parenting Horizons, an organization that offers regular workshops for parents and teachers as well as private counseling. She has appeared on “The Daily Show with Jon Stewart,” “Today,” “The Montel Williams Show,” and others.
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My only caveat would be to take the last couple chapters with a giant grain of salt, as they are outdated. It would be ideal if the author updated the book. The chapter on technology references Myspace and Friendster, which gives you some idea of how dated the book is (were they still relevant even in 2008?). And the chapter on sex ed suggests, albeit reluctantly, that it might be OK for parents with religious concerns about homosexuality to tell their gay tweens/teens that it's OK to be gay as long as you live your life without ever acting on those feelings. At best, an anachronistic message.
But...there is so much good advice about interacting with your tween in this book. Just give those sections a pass to gather the gold in the other chapters.
From the first chapter, I was exhaling sighs of relief, thinking to myself, 'OhthankGod, I'm going to get this right now.' And it's working. No self help, no threats, just good old fashioned perspective on parenting a "tween" (not my favorite term).
But I'm sure these words of wisdom and smart guidance don't end at 'tween'; they carry over into young adulthood and beyond.
It's good advice, good guidance that makes a lot of sense! Wish my folks' had this when I was 13!
While every example obviously won't suit your family situation, you will be getting a real dose of reality about the issues your children and their friends (and their friends' families) will be dealing with.
Ms Ross approaches every issue with common sense and clear thinking. In several cases, I couldn't see myself handling the issues the way they were handled in the examples, but seeing how someone handled them is invaluable in thinking about what might be best in your family.
The sections on drugs and sex were especially valuable for two reasons: 1) the advice was clear and sensible, and 2) if you think you can skirt the issues, or avoid tackling them head-on, you won't after you read this book - as Ms Ross guides you through the issues and various ways to handle them, she also makes clear exactly what is at stake for your child and his or her personal safety and happiness.
If you are a concerned parent, you will find this highly intelligent book filled with thoughtful advice and interesting perspective on how other parents in this generation are dealing with this generation's issues.
I've read lots of advice books, and none of them are perfect. But this is the one that left me with the clearest plans for dealing with critical Tween issues. Parenting isn't about reading a book and doing what it tells you - it's about understanding issues, and figuring out how to deal with them in a way that best suits you and your children. Ms Ross' book is a wonderful resource for intelligent,thinking parents.