From the Author
The auther intended to bring to yourdisposal, fun characters and notions ( alarm, puzzle) to enable you to conveyimpulse and emotional control notions to you child. You can use them ineveryday life, based on the following learning points :
- Wrinkles is the 'younger' more evolved part of the brain, dealing with complex processes like: planning, problem solving, impulse and emotional control. Explain to your child, that he also has such a part in his brain, and 'his' Wrinkles part of the brain is also growing, just like him, and that it gets stronger with practice.
- Flappy represents the more primitive part of our brain that primarily deals with survival. You might find it useful, to explain to your child that given his crucial role in ensuring survival, sometimes 'our own' Flappy, does not make a difference between an actual life threatening situation and a situation they perceive as a threat because one of their needs is not fulfilled, and they don't yet have the resources and practice to request the fulfillment of those needs in an appropriate way.
- In the story this unfulfilled need is represented by means of the puzzle. The entire point of the story is to help kids progressing down from a perceived threat (alarm) to a calm state, where one understands what happened to them (puzzle is solved)
- Red sparkle heroes - represent the connection of a child to a parent or primary care giver. Studies show that connection between parent (primary care giver) and child, is a key component that acts as catalyst to restore integration in the brain, which means that the specialized parts work together. This is what in the book is represented as a staircase paved with hearts, which ultimately enables Wrinkles and Flappy to meet, and work together.
Encourage your child to remember that you are by his side, and feeling his feelings are normal and accepted, and that the thing that needs practice is his response to the big situation.
Encourage your child to developimpulse control. When reading the story, and Wrinkle's presentation,discuss with your child about what it would mean in practical terms to 'holdthe breaks to the muscles and heart', saying for example 'yesterday when wehad to leave the park, you started screaming and throwing away your toys; whatmight have you done differently, if you hit the brakes on your muscles and usedyour words instead"
Help you child practice thinkingabout the consequences of his action; you can use the prompt in theillustration where Wrinkle's is introduced: his crystal ball. You mightsay to your child 'if you were to have a crystal ball that could tell you whatfollows after you do ...., what would you see in the crystal ball'?