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From the Author
This book will help you understand and accept the painful truth about why you have remained loyal to people who profess their love for you, but who, at the same time, hurt you--over and over again. It will guide you and hopefully help you recognize why you keep falling prey to the same empty promises that never come to fruition, and why your own happily ever after is nothing more than a revolving, disappointing delusion. You will also be compelled to admit the unthinkable: you are as much a victim of, as you are at fault for, your dysfunctional relationships.
Since knowledge is power and reading this will teach you what you need to know, expect to feel inspired and excited. This book will become an indispensable resource as you begin to learn why you keep falling in love with someone who, in the beginning, seems virtually perfect and, in an instant, becomes your lover, best friend, and confidant--your soulmate. It will equally help you understand why these soulmates eventually take off their masks to reveal their harmful, and sometimes malignant and narcissistic, true selves.
About the Author
Ross's Human Magnet Syndrome books (2013 and 2018) soldover 75,000 copies and have been translated into Spanish, French andCzech. His latest book, "The Human Magnet Syndrome: The CodependentNarcissist Trap," a complete re-write of his first HMS work. Both areconsidered groundbreaking books on codependency, narcissism and thetreatment for narcissistic abuse.
Ross is a YouTube celebritywith over 12 million video views and 110,000 subscribers. His videosinform and inspire a global audience interested in codependencyrecovery, narcissism, trauma recovery and narcissistic abuse. His workon codependency, narcissism, trauma, Self-Love Recovery™, andhis"Codependency Cure™" has earned him international recognition. TheCodependency Cure reformulates, redefines, and ultimatelyrenames"codependency" to "Self-Love Deficit Disorder™."
Hislatest"Codependency Cure™" work, like The Human Magnet Syndrome, breaksnew ground in the mental health fields. It reformulates, redefines, andultimately renames "codependency" to "Self-Love Deficit Disorder™," atrauma disorder, shame and pathological loneliness problem and animpossible to quit addiction.
All of Ross's educational andpersonal development products and services are featured in his Self Love Recovery Institute company (SelfLoveRecovery.com)
- File Size : 3477 KB
- Publisher : Morgan James Publishing (June 5, 2018)
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Publication Date : June 5, 2018
- Print Length : 265 pages
- Language: : English
- ASIN : B07D99945P
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Enhanced Typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Not Enabled
- Lending : Not Enabled
- Best Sellers Rank: #69,566 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
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Ross Rosenberg is a licensed therapist who is an expert on these topics (and many others). In this book, he explains the origins of both Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Codependency or Self Love Deficit Disorder (as he has renamed the term). With his "Human Magnet Syndrome" theory, he explains how and why we attract and are attracted to, our romantic partners. He explains in a way that is easy to understand, why codependents attract narcissists and why narcissists attract codependents.
Consciously, we may know what we are attracted to in a mate, but buried deep in our subconscious, is an invisible force (that we are not even aware of) that was programmed into us as young children when we experienced childhood trauma, which pulls us toward/attracts us to a person with traits that complement our traits. We were conditioned as young children to be attracted to some people and not others. Subconsciously, we are recreating our childhood trauma in an attempt to heal it, and we are not even aware that is what we are doing.
All we know is there is intense, irresistible chemistry. Someone who is high on the narcissistic scale will strongly attract someone who is high on the codependent scale and someone who is high on the codependent scale will strongly attract someone who is high on the narcissistic scale. This is why we have explosive fire work chemistry with some people and not others. Narcissists will not attract narcissists and codependents will not attract
codependents - they actually repel each other, which is why there is no chemistry.
If you are on a healing journey and you are trying to recover from a toxic relationship, I not only highly recommend this book, but I also highly recommend you read any articles and books written by Ross Rosenberg that you can get your hands on, watch all his YouTube videos and go to any retreats he offers. This man is the REAL DEAL! He gets it! This is time and money well spent!
Ross helped me understand and uncover so much that I didn't realize before, about my family/upbringing and about myself in general. After leaving my 4.5yr relationship with a narcissist two months ago, this book was exactly what I needed to begin moving forward.
Ross has incredible talent with writing, and such powerful knowledge and wisdom - and I'm so happy he's sharing it with the world.
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Pathological Narcissists are described here as being attracted to their polar opposites on the Personality Spectrum, namely, Co-dependents. I prefer to use the term Empaths. There are individuals with the Empath/Caretaker form of Attachment Disorder who are somewhat different from Co-dependents, but nonetheless attract Pathological Narcissists. I would recommend the books of Les Barbanell for that distinction. The general idea is that people with too much empathy attract those with too little. How is that for the unfairness of life? The better you behave (coupled with a game-changing lack of self-love), the worse you are likely to attract in return. Love does not solve everything. Bursts a few balloons.
One conclusion from the author I would beg to differ with is this. I have known Pathological Narcissists to attract other Pathological Narcissists. These relationships do not fare any better than Narcissists/Empaths. My point, however, is that a polar extreme on the Personality Spectrum can attract either a like extreme, or an opposite extreme. The author writes of only opposite extremes. Do self-love-deficit Empaths sometimes attract other such Empaths? LikeIy, though these relationships are not going to be fulfilling or permanent either.
Re-enactment Compulsion is at the heart of this phenomenon. You relate romantically, as an adult, to what was programmed into you during a dysfunctional early childhood (or a healthy childhood, for that matter). You will be attracted to a partner who treats you in what you learned to see as the norm -- the way your significant caretaker in early childhood treated you. If you wish to break this pattern, you must first become self-aware. No shortcuts.
Most of the notes I made in my Kindle version of this book regards typos:
7% trauma would be permanently (hid)
8% consequence of her retaliatory (retaliatory) anger
10% which (command) his immediate attention
11% tried to be (affection) to her
12% brought out the worst side ( ) my father's