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- Publication Date: April 3, 2013
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- Language: English
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I am concerned that others might believe this is an officially sanctioned guide. I found the generalizations of "Humanists feel..." and "Humanists think..." a bit stifling. The viewpoint and some of the advice seemed overly simplified in addressing the complexity of human feelings and individual thought. I also did not respond well to the sometimes overly casual tone, considering the title. For example: "Feel free to get your tears and snot on the offered shoulder." (Eeek...)
The best part about the book for me was the Resource section, which I will make use of. Had she written the book as a personal memoir, I could have forgiven some of its shortcomings. As it is, I would prefer to see such a guide be written by people with a more nuanced, mature, and broad experience in Humanism, as well as in the realm of loss and grieving.
There's no easy way to deal with grief. According to every major religion, the only way to get past grief is to imagine that those you have lost are "in a better place" in which you may one day see them again, and that the loss was part of a larger, cosmic plan for everyone's lives. Many find little consolation in this view, however, because it does not address the feeling of loss you are experiencing at the time and merely offsets the feelings with others you are supposed to embrace in the place of the grief. Still, for many such a small measure of hope can be comforting in turbulent times. Those who lack religious belief, however, have a different problem in that we cannot find comfort in what we believe to be false hopes. How, then, can the non-religious grieve, and how can they find a path through that grief to find happiness in their lives once again? That is the question Jen Hancock addresses in her short book, The Humanist Approach to Grief and Grieving.
Jen approaches the subject not as someone offering a salve to medicate you out of your worries, but as someone who knows grief personally and is now offering to pass the torch gained by her experiences on to others so that their ways may be lit. She shares a heartbreaking personal story, but refuses to take the easy path of clinging to false hopes and instead embraces reality: she will never get to watch her daughter grow up and live her own life, and will never meet up with her in any afterlife either, but she can better honor her daughter by choosing to live on and to allow happiness in her life once again than by wallowing in the loss forever. This is a crucial part of the essence of Humanism: life is for the living, so embrace it and move forward.
At first I was confused by the book's format; it is short, in fact strangely so at roughly 30 pages for the copy I read, and most of its content is in the form of essays that originally appeared elsewhere. You can read the entire thing on a single metro ride, as I did. As I read, however, I grew to like the way that choice broke the book into quick and digestible pieces, with a different moral and different tips for each section, even if I still wished it was more incorporated into a single narrative and less a collection of other works. Grief is experienced in different ways by everyone, so at the very least breaking it up this way allows one to focus on the components most important to them, and the length makes it quick to absorb in a time when you may not be able to put extended focus on reading. I appreciated that the tips given were basic and easy to follow, but also that they didn't pretend to be a panacea but instead focused on steadying your footing to continue on your own healing path.
In the end, this is a good book, although it could still use some fleshing out and a good copy editor. I would recommend it as a tool in the kit for celebrants and counselors looking for material on addressing grief without resorting to religious illusions, and as a more grounded beacon of hope to those experiencing loss of their own. Another reviewer pointed out that there is no single approach to Humanism, and thus no single approach to grief; this is certainly true, but one of the problems faced is that Humanist grief is a topic not well addressed anywhere else, so if you find it isn't the perfect fit for you, perhaps you should use this book to begin a wider discussion of the topic rather than complain about it being incomplete.