- Paperback: 240 pages
- Publisher: NavPress (March 29, 2007)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1600060544
- ISBN-13: 978-1600060540
- Product Dimensions: 5.4 x 0.7 x 8.1 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 27 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #520,699 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Inside a Cutter's Mind: Understanding and Helping Those Who Self-Injure Paperback – March 15, 2007
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Dr. Earl Henslin has a doctorate in clinical psychology and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Dr. Henslin speaks nationally and internationally on relationships, addictions, and the neurobiology of relationships. He is the author of four books.
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WHAT READERS CAN LEARN FROM THIS BOOK
1. How and why self-injury begins (Everyone has a coping mechanism), including:
(1) To release emotional pain when I cannot cry
(2) To make my unending emotional pain a temporary physical pain
(3) To control something, and
(4) To quiet my racing thoughts.
2. How cutters use seclusion and privacy to establish routines of cutting themselves.
3. That removing all sharp objects is not helpful to a cutter because he will find something else to cut with.
4. Environmental and physical conditions that often accompany self-injury, including: Depression, low self-esteem, eating disorders, parent/child conflict, manipulation and/or habitual lying, oppositional defiance, aggressive behavior, suicidal ideation, a history of sexual abuse, PTSD, dissociation, and addiction.
5. How a cutter can change from a momentary impulse to cut, to doing something else that is a healthy alternative, such as walking a dog.
6. How a cutter can sometimes use dissociation to space out during acts of self-injury in order to block out the pain of hurting herself.
7. How cutting releases the body's natural painkillers (endorphins, dynorphins, and enkephalins) which are 8 to 10 times stronger than morphine. How some cutters crave the releases of these chemicals because they make them feel happy, content, and normal.
8. Why its difficult for some cutters to let go of destructive thoughts.
9. Fifteen possible signs of self-injury, including wearing long sleeves in hot weather, having friends who self-injure, self-condemnation, resistance to visit the doctor, and outbursts of anger or tears.
10. How to help a cutter endure feelings of loneliness, loss, rage, remorse, and disillusionment, without acting upon them.
11. How to be empathetic to cutters and help them without using shame or guilt messages.
12. How to help a cutter identify and express feelings of anger, fear, guilt, or hurt.
13. How to help a cutter manage stress in non-destructive ways such as exercise, reading, hobbies, and prayer, instead of destructive ways such as sexual promiscuity, drinking, drugs, or self-injury.
14. How, according to Christian teaching, Jesus Christ bled and died one time, for every reason a cutter "needs" or "wants" to cut.
15. How cutting can never satisfy the ache within.
16. How God's grace helps a cutter overcome shame by accepting the cutter fully and irreversibly. How grace takes away a cutter's rejection and abandonment and imparts worth and value. How grace gives a cutter power to face fear and pain.
17. How cutters should express to God what they truly feel, think, and desire, even their fear, rage, self-contempt, and doubt in God.
18. How Christ truly understands cutters because He Himself experienced unimaginable pain, grief, and abandonment.
20. How the Bible confirms that "God is grieved when we fail, but God quickly draws us to His forgiving heart and accepts us just as if it never happened." (Psalm 103:10)
In summary, although this book seems to be slanted more toward family and friends of self-injurers, it has been a great encouragement to me. It is very informative, but does not trigger me to hurt myself as I've heard some other books on self-injury can. I found I did need to get help, but this book gave me the confidence to reach out for it.
* The insights are deep yet written in a simple way
* Contains both practical and theoretical knowledge and techniques
* (for Christians) Written with a Christian mindset
* Affordable price
* Plenty of stories
* (for Kindle 6") Pictures come in really small and hard to read [not too many pictures though]
* Was wanting more practical tools for reaching out
* (for Secular) Contains a Christian mindset and will remind you of it often
Overall, this is a good book for a good price and is worth the read. If you are going to use this as a tool to reach out to people who cut, then this book is for you. If you want a book that goes in depth with scientific studies and the theories of why people do this, then, even though this book contains some studies, you might want to look elsewhere. Otherwise, it is a great book and is worth the time and money.