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Invisible Men: Men's Inner Lives and the Consequences of Silence Hardcover – December 20, 2011

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“Michael Addis, a leading expert on the psychology of men, gives us a lens through which to see and understand the invisible men in our lives and provides a set of powerful tools to overcome the forces that keep men invisible. The messages and strategies in Invisible Men are unique and invaluable for men and for all the people who love them.” ―Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology, Yale University and author of Women Who Think Too Much

“The world would be a better place if everyone--men and women--read this groundbreaking book on the silence and invisibility that surrounds the lives of so many men.” ―Terry Bradshaw, Hall of Fame NFL Quarterback and FOX Sports Broadcaster

“Thoughtful, articulate, and most importantly, compassionate--Michael Addis gives a name to the problem that affects so many men and their partners, and helps us understand what we can do about it.” ―Professor of Psychology at the University of Mary Washington, and author of The Masculine Self

“In Invisible Men, Dr. Michael Addis puts his finger on a critical part of the male experience, namely, keeping our vulnerable inner lives hidden. This is an important and critically needed book for every man, and every woman who cares about boys and men in her life, and who wants to understand and loosen the vice grip of invisibility and silence.” ―James Mahalik, Professor of Counseling Psychology, Boston College

About the Author

Michael E. Addis, Ph.D., has published more than seventy articles and books. He is a recipient of the American Psychological Association's David Shakow Award and the New Researcher Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies. Addis is a professor of psychology at Clark University in Worcester, Massachusetts, and lives in central Massachusetts.


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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Times Books; 1 edition (December 20, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0805092005
  • ISBN-13: 978-0805092004
  • Product Dimensions: 6.5 x 1.1 x 9.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2.1 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (8 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,593,426 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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A lot of popular nonfiction is padded, and INVISIBLE MEN is no exception. Still, it's a worthy read that offers some good insights.

Like so many people who write about gender and gender roles, Addis goes to the usual extreme of implying very strongly that all differences among the sexes are socially constructed. No doubt that's true to a large extent, but there's no such thing as a human raised without a social structure around him or her. For this reason, any effort to eliminate the reality of socialization with the stroke of a theoretical pen comes across as forced, and that's the case here. Addis focuses a great deal on all the harm that male socialization does to men, but never mentions any of the benefits (and there have to be some - right?). There's also the implication that fathers who try toughen their sons up are hurting them; but Addis might have considered the idea that most fathers know how tough the world is, and they know that you have to be tough so that you don't get eaten alive. But I don't see this reality acknowledged anywhere.

I'm being a little tough on the book, but the author's heart is in the right place, and despite my criticisms, I found myself agreeing with a lot of what he says. He talks about the three types of silence men experience - personal, private, public - and while I found the 3 Ps a little too perfect at first, the more I thought about it, the more I saw the value of thinking in these terms. Addis redefines homophobia as not "fear of homosexuals" but rather "fear of the same (i.e., men)" or "fear of being femmed" - and that's a powerful way of looking at the term. For me, though, the most insightful analysis was the idea of social policing, of male behavior that keeps other men in line with the accepted tenets of masculinity.
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I've already started reading this book while on vacation, so I was glad to order it and continue reading at home. This book provides a remarkable inside look to men's lives. Michael Addis informs readers of the many ways men have been silenced, and how normal it's become. It even provides ways for readers (men and their partners alike) to overcome the issues that follow men's silence. Great read so far!

The book itself came packaged well, very quickly and in pristine condition! Happy customer.
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In the first few chapters I felt that this book was geared toward making men look stupid. The author's intent wasn't meant to do this, but you didn't understand that until the last two chapters of the book.
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I have been working in the medical field as a RN for over 30 yrs and I have taken care of a variety patients with many different personalities and diagnoses . I have found that men have a tendency to hold in their emotions and try to be strong even if they are sad or in pain. Dr. Addis wrote a well researched and informative book that helps us to understand what men are feeling and he provided strategies to help them improve their lives. The book was written not only for the medical profession but for the layperson who needs assistance with their lives or have a friend or family member that may be struggling. I thought that I understood my patients but reading the book gave me a new perspective on the feelings of men and how to deal with their emotions when hospitalized. The author provided case studies and advice that is useful for men, women and couples. The book is entertaining, easy to read and concise.(Reviewed by Eileen- Melissa's Mom)
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