- Paperback: 288 pages
- Publisher: Tyndale Momentum (September 18, 2018)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1496430476
- ISBN-13: 978-1496430472
- Product Dimensions: 5.6 x 0.7 x 8.3 inches
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- Average Customer Review: 217 customer reviews
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It's All Under Control: A Journey of Letting Go, Hanging On, and Finding a Peace You Almost Forgot Was Possible Paperback – September 18, 2018
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Blogger Lee (The Happiness Dare) asks women to let go of a striving attitude in this stirring call. Addressing her readers and her overachieving former self, she writes, “You are the sort of woman we can count on to meet a work deadline, organize a food drive, take in the neighbors’ kids during an emergency, drive your coworker to chemo, counsel a friend at 3 a.m.” She then turns to scriptural and personal examples that explore the reasons and mechanisms for letting go of control and allowing God to work. Her description of her relationship with her two daughters is poignant as she explains that she needed to stop “helping” them so much; they had to learn and make mistakes for themselves. Lee’s most helpful piece of advice is her “Do, Delegate, or Dismiss” plan for getting through daily tasks, which she lays out in detail. She also defines three types of women―the Driver (planner, predictor, group leader), the Devoter (caring, generous, loyal, zealously doting), and the Darling (rule follower, detail minded, self-controlled)―and dedicates chapters to each group. Lee’s book of advice and encouragements will appeal to Christian women who feel overburdened by a hectic life. (Publishers Weekly)
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Jennifer Dukes Lee shares how control had become a coping mechanism to numb herself from the pain of life. She discusses the unhealthy affects control has upon us and how it can break us down, piece by piece. There’s a cost to control. This quote by Jennifer summed it all up for me. “I can’t begin to tell you how I willingly withstand the pressure of believing I have to be “in control,” reliable, on top of all things—and how often that self-pressure completely breaks me. I’ve learned to hide the fractured debris of my overworked life.” This resonated with me on so many levels!
I couldn’t put the book down! I highlighted and journaled my way through the powerful truths and nuggets of wisdom. Jennifer Dukes Lee gently guides the reader through her Crack the Control Code plan and accepting the invitation from Jesus to live our lives in a new way. I say yes to Jesus because everything in my life is not fine, even though I tell everyone it is, including myself. It’s All Under Control is about getting our control, under control, surrender, and accepting God’s best for us.
I loved Jennifer’s description of surrender, “Surrender is willfully accepting and yielding to God’s plan for your life—no matter the cost.” It’s about being who God created us to be, living intentionally, and finding the peace we all long for.
I had so many “me too” and “aha” moments throughout the book. I experienced revelation, introspection, and hope of being able to untangle myself from unhealthy control. This quote by Jennifer Dukes Lee drove it all home for me, “I want depth but I stay stuck in the shallows—because I’m strung so thin. My desire to love well is why I say yes too often.” Yes, and Amen!
Jennifer walks alongside the reader as she shares her personal stories. I love the Bible verses, characters, and stories she shares throughout the book. “It’s All Under Control’ has useful tools to implement the Crack the Control Code plan; The Three Control Characters, The Decision Tree, and a Control Code Continuum. They are all highly effective and easy to follow.
“It’s All Under Control” is a must-read for so many beautiful reasons. I absolutely love Jennifer’s honest and engaging writing style. I’m confident this book will speak to the hearts and souls of other women as it did me.
“This is what she does—she keeps it all under control, and she is under control, thank you very much. Smiling, even in the trenches. And always, fine, just fine.
“I got this,” she says. And a lot of people believe her.
But she doesn’t “got” this. Her outward fine does not match her inner fatigue.”
Does that sound familiar? It does to me. I have lots of friends who feel the same way too. We’re all working hard to keep up with what we perceive as everyone else’s expectations, all the while simmering under the surface. Jennifer understands how we feel and she doesn’t ask us to push aside our feelings of responsibility and ambition to become a better Christian.
Unlike so many other books intending to help busy women create a more peaceful home and family atmosphere, Jennifer isn’t trying to change the fundamental way you were created. In fact, she celebrates those of us who really were created to be strong, busy, Type-A women. She acknowledges all the things we’re really good at and the impact we make in our lives. It’s refreshing to read a book and not feel like the author is trying to ask you to sit quietly and shove your ambition back into a box.
The greatest gift this book offers is an author who skillfully delivers encouragement to use our natural gifts well while also challenging us to become better. She doesn’t shy away from the truth about how strong women can be controlling and downright difficult when we’re unhealthy. She’s absolutely correct that there are many different reasons we try to maintain control over various aspects of our lives as well. Like a friend sitting with you on your couch, she talks you through how you’re feeling and where you want to go. You’ll find everything you need to start making helpful changes in your life.
I appreciate her candor, humor, and compassion throughout this book. She obviously cares about her readers and is committed to helping each one do the hard work of self-evaluation. Jennifer Dukes Lee is the cheerleader every strong-willed woman needs to help her believe in herself, understand that she doesn’t need to do everything, and learn to rest well so she can conquer the world again tomorrow.
Jennifer has given me permission not to apologize for being busy anymore. That’s right. I can be in the kitchen serving AND still become more like Christ. I need to keep choosing to get up early and avoid productivity when it clouds God’s presence in the morning while I’m reading His word.
Surrender for me doesn’t mean to leave all of my obligations behind. It means stepping forward in faith, hanging on to what God has called me to do (take up my cross) even if its hard. It is finding the balance.
Life is all about the balance. There is no right way or wrong way, but for so long I’ve wanted to be a better Christian and not focused on my relationship with God. Developing a close, intimate relationship is something I’m still learning how to do with the Creator of the Universe. I’m not quite sure what to do or how to go about doing it, but I can tell you this: the time spent in God’s word has never been wasted.
Not one time.