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Ending compulsive sexual behavior is just the beginning.

Drawing on personal and professional experience, psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with brokenheartedness and trauma. He offers strategies to cultivate sustainable sexual sobriety, sharing his own healing narrative, as well as those of others who’ve chosen to bare their truths. No one is ever too hurt or isolated to achieve reliable relationships and emotional intimacy. This is a guidebook for every person seeking long-term healing from sex addiction.

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"Susskind provides a roadmap for living life to its fullest while healing from this debilitating addiction." ―Robert Weiss, Author of Sex Addiction 101

"As daunting as recovery can seem, this book helps readers gain a sense of calm by recognizing key issues that will move them forward in their lives."―Claudia Black, PhD, author of Deceived and Intimate Treason

"Going beyond current tension around out-of-control sexual behaviors, such as whether we should link sexual compulsivity to a pathologizing, disease-oriented model, Susskind addresses the need for humans to learn how to connect, love, and thrive in intimate relationships."―Patti Britton, PhD, MPH, clinical sexologist, sex coach, and author of The Art of Sex Coaching

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Andrew Susskind is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Somatic Experiencing and Brainspotting Practitioner, and Certified Group Psychotherapist in private practice since 1992. His ability to relate compassionately to people experiencing addiction, trauma, and codependency stems from his own recovery. In 2014, Susskind released his workbook From Now On: Seven Keys to Purposeful Recovery. He is based in Los Angeles.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Central Recovery Press (June 11, 2019)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Paperback ‏ : ‎ 232 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1949481069
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1949481068
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 9.6 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6 x 0.6 x 8.9 inches

Best Sellers Rank: #806,736 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Andrew Susskind, LCSW, SEP, CGP is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Brainspotting and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Certified Group Psychotherapist and Author based on the Westside of Los Angeles since 1992 specializing in trauma and addictive, compulsive behaviors. His book It's Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction was released by Central Recovery Press (2019) and joins his workbook From Now On: Seven Keys to Purposeful Recovery.

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L Quinn

Invaluable resource for Sexual Healing

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on October 15, 2019

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“It’s Not About the Sex” is a welcome find for people who are in recovery from sexual compulsivity as well as the therapists and coaches who are helping them. It’s the first and only book I’ve seen that addresses what one does next when the acting out has stopped, and one is focused on a life of creating meaningful, intimate relationships. Every chapter is filled with Susskind’s compassionate insights and thoughtful suggestions to help his readers and their therapists design a life of promise and hope. I enjoyed Susskind’s questions in each chapter to people in recovery and their honest and forthright answers. He does not present one true path for achieving emotional sobriety, but instead looks at how real people go about the challenging task of rebuilding their lives. He also suggests clear “action steps” at the end of each chapter for recovering people who may not have the benefit of a therapist or coach to guide them. I particularly enjoyed how Susskind focused each chapter on a particular aspect of sexual sobriety. Susskind’s chart in his chapter “Breaking Down Walls” that compared “Authentic Intimacy and Love” vs. Pseudo-Intimacy and Love” is a welcome addition to me in helping clients have a workable definition of healthy intimacy. I feel certain that “It’s Not About the Sex” will be an invaluable resource for both me and my clients for years to come.

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Eddie Capparucci

The Perfect Follow-up in Rounding Out Sexual Addiction Therapy

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on September 14, 2019

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Andrew Susskind has written a book that was much needed in the sexual addiction recovery field. While much has been written about recovery treatment little or nothing has been explored in the area of continuous self-care. Using insightful case studies, Andrew explains how long-term recovery involves the restoration of the nervous system. He also outlines various treatment options including somatic therapy that can serve to empower individuals who are on the road to recovery. He does an excellent job in taking some complex science regarding the neurological system and presenting it in an easy-to-understand format. Anyone who works with this client population, as well as those on the road to recover would benefit from reading this must-read book. Eddie Capparucci, LPC, C-CSAS, CPCS

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Joanne Barron

Must read this important book!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on December 11, 2020

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This book is a must read for therapists and clients alike. It goes beyond the behavior to the core issues and offers hope and healing for those who have suffered. A must read for anyone working in this area.

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Edward H

Incredibly useful for sustaining recovery

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on October 3, 2019

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I would highly recommend this book to anyone struggling themselves, as well as partners and loved ones. There are many books out there that provide tools and strategies to obtain sobriety, but Susskind dives into the underlying issues that must be addressed and healed to sustain recovery. He creates the patchwork and road map to build healthy and intimate connections.

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edward p omalley

And it’s not JUST about sex

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on July 21, 2019

I came by this book from a friend. When they suggested I said ok but I rarely go in for self help type books. But I gave it a shot.

My orientation for recovery is a 12 step model with clinical additions. Very quickly I came to see that this book fit that model.
This book, like any good book of its type, can be read across any obsessive disease. You can center on sex addiction, cooccurring diagnoses, or opioid use disorder with the same level of application.

The title informs that sex is only symptom of underlying causes.
These underlying causes trigger sexual compulsions and/or substance use, emotional, behavioral obsessions. A feature of the text that makes it pragmatic is a series of action steps at the end of each chapter which help to shed practical light on the work involved.

Susskind cuts across the clinical grain by freely disclosing personal stories. This disclosing has been a staple of 12 step work which builds rapport with any suffer of like minded ilk. It serves to the make the book more human and heartfelt vs theoretical. And as some of us know a real fix is what we need not some iffy theory.

Thank you very much Mr. Susskind. Much appreciated.

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Steven Karbelnig

This book is for everyone!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on August 29, 2019

While this book focuses on recovery from sexual addiction/compulsion, it has universal appeal. It is helpful not only to people in recovery from other addictions, it is really about improving the quality of your life, whether dealing with an addiction or not. Andrew brings a wealth of professional and personal experience to the pages of his outstanding book and talks to the reader in a very friendly and empathic tone which clearly adds to its appeal and effectiveness. The book is filled with interactive, insightful and highly useful exercises as Andrew walks the reader towards deeper recovery and awareness, with the focus on improving the quality of one's life and one's relationships. As someone who has worked in this field for many years, I find that this book is one of the best resources to be written on the topic and the first that deals with long-term recovery and improving one's life in such a straightforward, pragmatic and "user friendly" way. Do not pass this up.

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C. Nathan Bergeron

A must read!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on July 6, 2019

I just had to write a review. It's Not About The Sex; Moving from Isolation To Intimacy After Sexual Addiction" is a gift to all therapists who work with clients recovering from sexual compulsion/addiction. In fact, it's a gift to anyone recovering from any addiction. It shines light on topics not often talked enough in the world of recovery; especially the heartbrokenness caused by trauma, which lead to sexual addictive behaviors as a coping mechanism. Susskind's compassion helps lift the veil of shame and guilt, and empowers the reader on his/her journey towards greater connection and intimacy! A well written and thoughtful read! A must read!

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Andrew Gates

hope and healing

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on September 16, 2019

Everyone can learn something valuable from this brilliant book that explores feelings and experiences when struggling with addiction! Whether it be sex, drugs, food, etc this book provides a deeper understanding of this stigmatized label! Thank you Andrew, for helping to destygmatize addiction and bringing light and hope! I will be sharing with many!

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