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It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and  Connect to Your Authentic Self by [Jacobs Hendel, Hilary]

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Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a highly accomplished therapist who practices a form of psychotherapy that is based on processing our core emotions. This type of psychotherapy uses a modern approach that has moved beyond more conventional psychodynamic psychotherapies. This new form of psychotherapy is known as "Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy." It stands in stark contrast to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which places predominant emphasis on the impact of thoughts on behavior. Hendel is a practitioner of an accelerated form of experiential dynamic psychotherapy, AEDP, that was developed by Diana Fosha in New York.

What is unique in this book is Hendel's mission to take these psychotherapeutic tools and to present and rework them in a way that can be used by individuals on their own. This is a little bit like Penn and Teller showing us how a magic trick is really done! But she has a more important goal to bring these methods to a wide audience that may have little access to, or may not require formal psychotherapy.

Hendel reveals herself to be a passionate and effective healer by relevant clear case examples that give a most enlightening portrait of this therapeutic method. Equally disarmingly she is able to translate the method in ways that individuals can use for themselves. This is achieved by the case examples and exercises that readers can practice using the Change Triangle. The Change Triangle embodies many complex psychotherapeutic ideas that Hendel has distilled into an easily understood self-help approach. This is the genius of this book, converting formal psychotherapeutic strategies into a self-help toolbox.

I learned a lot from this book. It deepened my appreciation for AEDP and I enjoyed and learned from Hendel's canny grasp of this method. I also found the book therapeutic by working through some of the exercises.

In particular, I found the section dealing with the inhibitory emotions of shame and guilt outstanding. Shame is very common and often very toxic inhibitory emotion and can be really difficult to deal with and overcome. Hendel's discussion and demonstration of the method are powerful and healing.

This book is not only an excellent self-help resource for anyone dealing with powerful emotions such as grief, sadness, fear, anger, guilt, shame and anxiety it is of great value in educating new and experienced therapists in the application of emotion-focused experiential therapies. -Alan Eppel  Professor of Psychiatry and Psychotherapy Supervisor in the Department of Psychiatry & Behavioural Neurosciences, McMaster University, Hamilton, Ontario.

About the Author

Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, received her BA in biochemistry from Wesleyan University and an MSW from Fordham University. She is a certified psychoanalyst and AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor. She has published articles in The New York Times and professional journals. Jacobs Hendel also consulted on the psychological development of characters on AMC’s Mad Men. She lives in New York City.

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  • File Size: 16911 KB
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  • Publisher: Spiegel & Grau (February 6, 2018)
  • Publication Date: February 6, 2018
  • Sold by: Random House LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0725F8MQY
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