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The Judas Syndrome: Why Good People Do Awful Things Paperback – February 1, 2013
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- Item Weight : 9.6 ounces
- Paperback : 160 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1426751095
- ISBN-13 : 978-1426751097
- Product Dimensions : 6 x 0.37 x 9 inches
- Publisher : Abingdon Press (February 1, 2013)
- Language: : English
- Best Sellers Rank: #571,791 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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I used to be a fear-driven enabler and when I was in the midst of being this way, I was always convinced I was doing the right thing, even though it felt awful. I ended up doing stupid things that I knew were wrong, but felt I had no other choice. This book helped me be more aware of what I was doing and I tell myself that being fearful and acting on that fear is not going to help. There is another choice and that is having faith. I've started to "let go" of things I can't change or have no responsibility for. Things will either work out for the best or they will "blow up." Sometimes things need to "blow up" before they get better and I find that easier to accept now. I'm in a better mood and when I'm in a better mood, my actions reflect that. People around you notice. Although I still have fearful thoughts creeping in now and again, I am aware of them and don't feed into them or act on them. I have this book to thank for that.
Another great point this book makes is how our true character reveals itself during hard times. A lot of us like to think we're good people, but when a bad situation arises, we start doing awful things. We like to think of ourselves as victims of circumstance, but in reality, our characters were tested and we aren't as "good" as we thought we were. Thinking about it this way really changed my perspective. I have a stronger urge to work on my character so that I'm not just a "good" person during good times, but that my character can stand up to toxic people and situations.
The book is easy to follow, but it's not dumbed down or "cheesy" like some Christian psychology/self-help books tend to be. There are no cliches or "feel good" stories. I've read Dr. Simon's other two books, which are great and HIGHLY recommend those as well. As I read his work, I'm constantly having moments where I think, "So THAT's what's going on!" or "So THAT's why that bothers me so much!" His work is great at exposing things for what the really are.
After a while, I got up the courage to confront two manipulators in my life right after they used a strategy on me. I told them that they were manipulating me and described the strategy to them. They both looked at me in shock and said nothing. This was two different scenarios. I was happily surprised to find that by identifying and confronting it, the person was surprised and then didn’t try to use it on me again. I’m hoping it brought some light to the subtle form of deception they were using and that they are growing as a person from this. If you haven’t read that book, be sure to get it! It was so impactful I quoted him in my own book on Breaking Negative Patterns.
Back to The Judas Syndrome, I think I’ve highlighted more than half the book, to go back and re-read. Love this material… Dr. Simon… Keep up the good work!
If you are familiar with Dr. Simon's work as I am, here's a more in-depth review:
I have been reading Dr. Simon's work for the last several years. "In Sheep's Clothing" and "Character Disturbance" have helped me change and grow in such positive ways- and helped me see where my perceptions of people have been off. In addition to assisting me in becoming more empowered to protect myself from those who might try to do me harm, these books have also helped me take a closer look at myself and where/how I can work on things to be a better person, as we all can. The Judas Syndrome takes it to the next level- because How can we change who we are without looking to a Higher Power for guidance, and also for strength, courage, and faith in ourselves?
There are some key differences between this book and Dr. Simon's previous work: First off, his first 2 books gave helpful examples of folks who have problematic behavior to some degree. This book, the vignettes/scenarios don't put an emphasis necessarily on folks who are clearly needing to work on character development- rather, there are these great examples of folks who have the best of intentions, and, but have gotten themselves into problematic situations in large part due to losing touch with their faith. Also, where Dr. Simon touches upon faith, Sprituatlity, a Higher Power, and submission to a higher authority in his previous books, these concepts are not the central theme. In The Judas Syndrome, you will find this theme woven throughout. This is challenging- in such an amazing way! You will be called upon to better yourself and reclaim your own faith. In other words, this book is more about you working on YOU and not neccesarily paying so much attention to folks who are creating problems for themselves. If you're ready for that, this book is a must.
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Das Buch an sich liefert sehr interessante Infirmationen zu den Gründen, weshalb Menschen Andere enttäuschen. Es ist auf jeden Fall eine Lektüre Wert.