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4.4 out of 5 stars
Just Like His Father?
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on May 21, 2017
Outstanding book and in great condition
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on February 26, 2011
For those that want to dedicate their lives to helping their children be really happy and make others happy, and also that have realised that emotional intelligence is more important than IQ, a great tool to guide you.
Simple measures described in the book may make a lot of difference in your child's future. I'm very happy to have purchased it.
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on November 12, 2015
Great advices!
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on August 16, 2011
I bought this book in 2008 from Amazon for the cover price. (Around fourteen dollars.) I am just wondering why the price has skyrocketed to anywhere between forty-five to one hundred fifty dollars. Can anyone explain this to me?
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on June 10, 2012
Before running from the price here, this book can be found at the author's website new for $14.95

Author and Psychiatrist Liane J Leedom M.D. wrote this book as a manual for parents of children at a higher genetic risk of antisocial personality, addiction, and ADHD. Her background in psychiatry, and also as the former spouse of a sociopath, makes her a good candidate for the author of such a book.

In the introduction of this book, the author talks about the role of genetics when it comes to disorders, and also about prevention, while giving some of her background in this field. In the next chapter, she covers nature versus nurture and asserts that a child's outcome is not genetically determined, but that genetics only play a factor in the outcome and that parenting can certainly bend and shape that outcome. She also introduces her concept of the Inner Triangle, made up of Ability to Love, Impulse Control, and Moral Reasoning Ability, and relates the Inner Triangle back to the relationship it has with antisocial personality, addiction, and ADHD.

In all three of these (antisocial personality, addiction, and ADHD), Dr. Leedom says that the Inner Triangle is not fully developed, or not functioning properly. When you look at the three components of the Inner Triangle, you can see the connection.

Ability to Love is about forming attachments to other people, and forming empathy. This ability is greatly impaired in people with antisocial personality disorder and in addicts. In this book, the author dedicates 62 pages to covering this topic. She goes into detail on what ability to love is, how it develops, and how to recognize it (or a lack of it) in your children. She also includes, very importantly, how to repair your relationship with your child, with age specific recommendations. I found her ideas to be very thoroughly stated, and I was glad to see this being broken down into age groups of how ability to love develops and manifests itself at each stage of a child's life through adolescence. Perhaps most helpful to me was the section on the first year, where warning signs can already be noticed. The author takes you step by step at each age group and helps you understand how to teach your child to have affection and empathy for other people, a trait that many parents take for granted, but which a parent of an at risk child can not to take for granted.

Impulse Control is the next point in the Inner Triangle which must be developed in order to produce healthy adults. This chapter is also very in-depth, spanning 60 pages to cover a multitude of topics. The author suggests teaching impulse control primarily through rewards and setting limits, and she offers step-by-step instructions for setting and enforcing limits. Possibly the most difficult advice for some parents to follow here will be a statement she makes about enforcing consequences, in all capital letters: DO NOT NEGOTIATE. She describes the different kinds of consequences parents can use, and offers some more specific tips on limit-setting with teens and older children. Impulse control as it relates to emotion, and specifically anger, is covered, followed by a section on impulse control when it comes to food and comfort.

One thing I really liked about this chapter was what she had to say about the strong-willed child. The so-called strong-willed child actually does not have good will-power, but has a lack of impulse control and a strong drive for social dominance. The topic of social dominance is also covered thoroughly toward the end of the chapter, and definitely relevant to the at risk child. Another topic she covers in depth is teaching impulse control when it comes to entertainment, and teaching an at risk child to enjoy entertainment that is not all thrill-seeking, such as playing a musical instrument or a game like chess. These children need guidance to learn how to slow down, or they will find themselves bored when they're not being over-stimulated, and place themselves even more at risk for these behaviors.

The next chapter covers Moral Reasoning Ability. This is a much shorter chapter; it is only 16 pages long, but still covers a lot. Dr. Leedom starts out by explaining that moral reasoning ability is unique to humans, and then goes into the stages of moral development, which starts at the point of "I should always get what I want," and ends at "I should do the right thing." Believing "I should always get what I want" is the normal state for an infant, but unfortunately for some at risk children, development never proceeds past this point even in adulthood. The author claims that moral reasoning ability develops when parents train impulse control. This chapter continues with the importance of the parent-child bond, asserting parental authority, and teaching respect. I found the ideas presented here to be very practical for parents to apply.

After this, the Inner Triangle is revisited in chapter 6. The author goes a little more in depth on some of the personality traits that are characteristic of people who form antisocial personality disorder, and she gives this assessment: "Fearlessness and the lack of a strong bond with parents prevent the development of conscience, which usually occurs prior to age five." Improving all sides of the Inner Triangle can help to build this bond with parents and overcome the complications of a fearless child. The sides of the Inner Triangle are covered again in brief, and then the author adds points to the triangle. Between Impulse Control and Moral Reasoning, one develops Guild. Between Ability to Love and Moral Reasoning one develops Good-ness, and between Ability to Love and Impulse Control, one develops Peace.

Something that I am glad she also included in this chapter is a brief section on Environmentally-Induced Antisocial Personality Disorder. I am glad this was included, in part because most of my previous study on this topic was related to non-genetic factors resulting in APD, but also because I think other parents need to know the potential risk factors, if genetics is not a concern.

As a final point in this particular chapter, the author discusses the question of whether APD is an Illness, or Evil. I expected a psychiatrist to tout it as an illness, but I gained a lot of respect for this author when concludes that psychopaths (aka sociopaths or individuals with antisocial personality) are indeed evil, and not simply suffering an incurable illness. They are consciously responsible for their actions.

In the next chapter, the author covers addiction more in depth. She states that addiction starts with an impulse, and briefly touches again on parenting and prevention. Recovery is discussed, followed by information on addiction progressing to antisocial personality disorder.

Chapter eight is specific to the special needs of a child with ADHD, and I think parents of an ADHD child would find this chapter (and the whole book) very helpful. There are tips on helping your child socially and academically. She also addresses the topic of medication, and offers hope and insight for parents who are concerned about their child developing APD.

Next comes the parent's Inner Triangle, and I am so so glad this was brought up in the book, because it is also vital (in my opinion). This chapter walks you through your own Impulse Control, Ability to Love and Moral Reasoning Ability, and relays the impact of parenting strengths and weaknesses on the development of children. She discusses the problems that can arise from bossy parents, as well as pushover parents. She also readdresses spanking and yelling, and then gives a brief summary of effective parenting. Finally, there is a note and reminder not to get involved in a blame game for a child's behavior, and states as many mothers already know that blaming mothers is unproductive and often destructive. She urges people instead to stop blaming and start taking responsibility.

The next two chapters are Questions From Parents, and How To Get Help From Professionals. The Q&A from parents actually had some of my exact questions in this chapter, and I found the chapter on choosing a professional to receive help from to be very thorough and informative.

On Having Loved a Psychopath is the final chapter, and a good closing for this book. In this chapter, I could really relate to the author, particularly when she says, "I enjoyed the time I spent with a psychopath. I enjoyed our family life, our quiet times and our holidays. I was attached to him and I loved him." Unfortunately, the psychopath's feelings are shallow, and part of a plan to manipulate. Some are more dangerous than others, but the lack of a conscience makes all of them emotionally dangerous.

This book was in my opinion an excellent read and an excellent guide for any parent whose child may be at risk. This book was so rich with information that it was in some ways difficult to review, since my reviews tend to at least in part be summaries. One thing I really appreciate about this book is that it teaches positive parenting strategies and attachment. There is an emphasis throughout the book that punishment is detrimental to the at risk child, and specifically unproductive for these children, which is a point that I think some parents have difficulty taking to heart. However, to parents willing to understand the reasoning behind non-punitive parenting practices, and look more at the long-term relationship with their children, I think this book offers an excellent plan of action.

I received a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
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on December 5, 2006
This is a very interesting book that revolves around a crucially important discovery close to my own heart: that biology is not destiny.

Liane Leedom is a psychiatrist who gives a candid account about her realization that at least one of her own children had a strong genetic loading for sociopathic personality disorder and attention deficit disorder. So she set about plowing the scientific literature, as well as using her clinical experience to see whether there was any way to prevent the child from falling victim to a lifetime of personal problems.

The result is a large number of useful practical pieces of advice about helping the child, adolescent and adult at risk of developing a specific psychiatric problem with a strong genetic component. The text is broken up by a great many nicely chosen and appropriate illustrations.

Liane talks about an interesting model, which is that the core problems of antisocial personality disorder are:
1. Poor impulse control
2. An inability to love
3. Poor moral reasoning

This is a novel and interesting way of thinking about the problem that developed out of study of twins that was published last year. None of us yet knows whether this model is accurate, but it does provide a useful framework for some of the advice that follows.

I like this book very much, so why only four stars? I fear that the first chapter may put off many people: it, and indeed much of the book is in serious need of an editor and a proofreader. Throughout the text she usually, but not always, uses bold type for "at risk" so it's difficult to work out why sometimes she does and sometimes she doesn't. Many other things are bolded so it gets a bit confusing.

I like that she has provided some scientific references to support her statements, but sadly they are rather disorganized. Some of the same scientific papers are cited several times and in some places single numbers refer to several citations. A lot of research is mentioned, but I kept wanting Liane to tell me what she thought and how the different pieces of research tied together.

This is a good book as it stands, but unless you really know the field, you may want to skim through the first chapter and head straight for the advice sections. With some editing, proofing and rearranging the book could be excellent.
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on December 9, 2014
This book is extremely helpful in understanding characteristics, management and societal perceptions of antisocial behavior and ADHD. It is a practical approach to overcoming obstacles that are indicative of "at risk" children. The content is well written and allows the reader to easily reference main points due to bolded text and chapter titles. The information found in this book is helpful to any parent or loved one responsible for guiding an antisocial and ADHD child through life's many challenges.
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on August 8, 2008
"Just Like His Father?" is written by Dr. Leedom, a psychiatrist. She has done an excellent job of searching the scientific literature and using her own experiences to write this very readable and helpful book. It includes straight forward advice for helping parents form good healthy bonds with their children. Professionals will like this book, as well and may want to recommend it to clients. I certainly will.
Dr. Kathryn Seifert author of How Children Become Violent: Keeping Your Kids Out of Gangs, Terrorist Organizations, and Cults
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on October 24, 2006
The author, a trained psychiatrist and a single mother of three, has written in accessible language a much needed compendium of current scientific knowledge regarding two pernicious mental health disorders: the Antisocial Personality Disorder (psychopathy) and Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Both have a genetic component, though how decisive is still disputed. But the book goes way beyond a laymen's introduction. It addresses the needs of parents of children at risk - offspring of patients with either disorder. The book provides practical, hands-on advice on how to screen for warning signs and how to prevent the disorder from fully developing. It is a commendable and impressive feat that the author succeeds to proffer a whole new psychodynamic model without once resorting to obscure lingo and psycho-babble. Parents with children diagnosed with Conduct Disorder or Oppositional Defiant Disorder (usually the precursors of the Antisocial Personality Disorder) or with ADHD would greatly benefit from this tome and are likely to find it a source of calm, friendly, and authoritative reassurance. Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
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on January 8, 2007
Good parenting guide to understand, love and cope with a difficult child, or any child for that matter. Gives readers good positive reinforcement and redirect focus on the child while in a difficult situation, spiritually helpful.
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