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KEEPING THE LOVE YOU FIND: A Personal Guide Hardcover – February 1, 1992
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However, I find his assertion that complete healing is only possible within the context of a committed marriage to be a complete fallacy, and I base this assertion on experience, on individuals I know who have made incredible healing breakthroughs as single people. Yes, the guarantee of a committed lifelong partner and a commitment to each other's healing creates a stable and permanent environment for healing and growth to happen, but such healing and growth is possible outside the context of a marriage. It may involve more work and more commitment on the part of the individual, but believe me, its possible.
I was always a hold-out on getting therapy until I had a second affair on my wife. At that point, the pattern of things I was doing became very obvious, but I didn't understand why I kept wanting to make sure I had an escape route from my relationships.
On the advice of my counselor, I went to pick up "Getting the Love You Want" guide for couples, but I also picked up this book as I felt it focused more on the individual. It made sense to me that if I didn't straighten myself out, how could I work on a relationship. I've thoroughly enjoyed working through this book (about 1/3 though so far) and it's written in a way that, for me, sparks thoughts constantly. I've noticed much more about myself than I ever did before and I feel like I'm getting the understanding I need so that I can move forward in being able to be in a mutually healthy relationship. Even in the beginning 1/3 of the book, I now see that the kind of person I marry (twice) and the kind of person I had an affair with (twice as I said before) are quite different from each other but EXTREMELY consistant to the other in their category. But I also see consistancy throughout all the people involved as well.Read more ›
A bit of warning though, Dr. Hendrix's book could leave you depressed at times. The exercises are very personal in nature and can reopen old wounds, traumas, etc. In the middle I asked myself "Is there any hope for me?" Hendrix answers with a firm, undeniable yes. And its true.
I would recommend it to anyone at any age who is willing to do some soul searching, emotional understanding, and self awareness.
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This book is for those who what to truly explore themselves. There are a lot of assignments throughout the book. Read morePublished 4 days ago by Jessica Mala
Wonderful book that gave powerful insights into my relationship history. It delves into childhood relationships, attachment patterns, and wrapped it up neatly in little exercises... Read morePublished 14 days ago by Kristen S. Smith
Probably would have been a great book but the one I got was so full of writing that I couldn't read it and had to send it back. Be aware of getting used books!Published 26 days ago by Nancy M
I haven't read it yet but I read Getting the Love You want, and I really enjoyed it! So I'm expecting this one to be awesome too! I read it in one seating!Published 2 months ago by pastora hernandez
Another important book to have in your library. Definitely a good read over and over, and over again...Published 2 months ago by thatgirl
Very damaging advice for the many of us needing to leave abusive relationships. All relationships should not be salvaged or tolerated.Published 4 months ago by Jill Leeper
So helpful for the single who is dating and working hard to attract the right person and achieve clarity in understanding what is right for them! Read morePublished 4 months ago by The Marriage Restoration Project- Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin
Some great ideas here but who is going to go through all the steps he suggests as a self-help approach? Read morePublished 5 months ago by Lucy G. Yaldezian