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The BEST Book on the market!!! Don't waste time buying the other books.
on January 2, 2014
I must say I 've been a proud supporter of this book. Even my daughter's play therapist was impressed and decided to look into this book and recommend it to her other clients. This book is way more worth than what you could ever imagine. After spending much money on insurance deductibles, co-pays, play therapy sessions, ADHD evaluation sessions, etc for a 4 year old who had the school calling me at work on a daily basis for her defiant behavior....I read at least 8 different parenting books, tried different things over a period of 8 months, and even consulted with a well-known ADHD- ODD expert, who's name I won't mention..but recommended methods that basically mimicked the content of this book. It turned out that my little one was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder, a form of ADHD, and because she is sharp as a whip..so many teachers and family members ignorantly doubted any form of ADHD, mistakenly thinking that ADHD affected one's level of intelligence, when it doesn't necessarily. This was the last book I read, tried and found it more effective than any other previous options I ran across.
If you don't have money for anything else, start here. Haven't had a phone call at work since. Knowing how to best parent my 4 year old (as a single mom of a kid who visits with her defiant and disagreeable dad every other weekend) and confidently guide her in a way that let's her be the firecracker she is (with the proper boundaries, rewards, and consequences that she can understand and respect)...now that's a peace of mind that is priceless.
All the other random advice from those teachers and school officials who have been dealing with kids for 20+ years, would not work with my kid. Even my own grandmother and mom both admitted this was an issue that was way out of their league, since I was a quiet child and had a 4 year old that thought she was born a rock star and that rules, expectations, and guidelines were optional when in the classroom setting with teachers who wouldn't enforce consequences consistently like mommy would. These teachers acted as if they were afraid of my kid, timidly begging her to listen instead of requiring her to do what she was told in order to do something else she liked later. My kid can smell fear in other adults and eats it for lunch. LOL
Please don't mind my enthusiastic rambling, but when I was walking thru this journey, I needed a review like this to meet me where my family was at the time and give me hope, when others just threw up their hands and said "I don't know what to say other than boy, do you have your hands full." Hopefully, this will help someone else too.