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About Kevin FitzMaurice
Whether as a person's counselor or as a founding member of facilities for the homeless, Kevin Everett FitzMaurice, M.S., seeks to make others' lives better by helping them improve how they function. As a volunteer, he supports community services to improve others' living conditions. As a counselor, he counsels in the traditional sense: advising, directing, and nudging--or pushing--others into facing and resolving their issues.
Mr. FitzMaurice has a variety of formal and advanced training in counseling, which includes Addictions Counseling, Family Therapy, advanced Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), and over 1,650 hours of diverse training for continuing education units (CEUs). To make the best use of that extensive training, he takes an integrative approach, grounding himself in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (REBT and CBT) and using the other theories to build upon that one core theory, rather than focusing on multiple theories and mastering none of them.
After more than twenty-five years in counseling, Mr. FitzMaurice has worked in the substance abuse field, directed two community mental health programs, and spent many years counseling in private practice. In that time, he has refined many principles for and methods of counseling. He now puts those methods, principles, and techniques into book form to share them with a broader audience, so more people can benefit than he can reach in person. Currently, he has more than forty books written, more than thirty of which are available worldwide as e-books from Amazon, Barnes&Noble, Google, Kobo, and Apple.
The philosophical odyssey of Mr. FitzMaurice began in the late '60s. It has remained a mostly self-taught pursuit, with little formal training or education in philosophy. The odyssey started with Western philosophy and a study of pragmatism and atheism. For example, he read every work of Nietzsche that had been translated into English at that time. From there, he moved to the study of Zen, Buddhism, Hinduism, and a misguided experimentation with psychedelics to achieve states of superconsciousness. He continued into Eastern philosophy, pursuing Taoism and J. Krishnamurti.
Next came a study of Christianity that consisted of seven readings of the Old Testament and nine readings of the New Testament, from cover to cover and word for word. This study was followed by a formal survey of Western psychology. The ongoing influences for FitzMaurice's thinking continue to be Christianity, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), General Semantics, and an Eastern combination of Taoism, J. Krishnamurti, Yoga, and Zen.
Academic Credentials: Master of Science (M.S.) in guidance and counseling, with a specialization in agency counseling, from the University of Nebraska. Associate of applied science in human services--chemical dependency counseling (with honors), from Metropolitan Community College.
National Certifications: National Certified Counselor (NCC) [active for 20+ years, now expired]; Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor (CCMHC) [active for 20+ years, now lapsed]; Family Certification in REBT; Primary Certification in REBT; and Advanced Certification in REBT.
State Certifications: Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor and Certified Gambling Addiction Counselor in the state of Nebraska. Both were allowed to lapse.
State Licensure: Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Oregon [lapsed in 2018]; previously Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner (LIMHP) in Nebraska; and previously Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Iowa.
Community Service: One of the founders of the Francis House, Siena House, and Stephen Center homeless facilities still in operation in Nebraska. Organizer of free yoga classes for 4-5 years in his local community before moving.
Recommended Organizations for World Change: Fellowship for Intentional Community (ic.org), The Cohousing Association of the United States (cohousing.org), The Federation of Egalitarian Communities (thefec.org), Global Ecovillage Network (ecovillage.org), NuMundo (numundo.org), North American Students of Cooperation (nasco.coop).
READING LIST FOR 7 STEPS TO SANITY
Note: You can move around the steps and work on any one; however, progress does depend on doing each step.
Step 1: Practice Emotional Responsibility
The first step on the path to sanity is emotional responsibility.
1. To begin your understanding of emotional responsibility, read "Secret of Maturity, Fourth Edition."
2. To advance your understanding of emotional responsibility, read "Garden."
3. If you want to focus on your attitude and emotional responsibility, then read "Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition."
4. If you are stuck in drama games as a lifestyle or if your family is stuck in a cycle of dealing with social services or the criminal justice system, then read "Garbage Rules." This book is also appropriate for those in early recovery, self-help, and 12-step groups.
5. Professionals who want to advance their counseling skills regarding emotional responsibility should read both "Garden" and "Not."
6. Anyone who wants the highest level of emotional skill and maturity should read "Stiffer: Stoic Mind."
Step 2: Upgrade Coping & Problem-Solving
Coping and problem-solving skills are needed at every stage on the path of returning to sanity. We are not born with these skills, and few of us have been formally taught them. Therefore it is logical and practical to pursue a complete understanding of them.
1. "Stress for Success, Second Edition" will help you to learn how to make stress work for you instead of against you.
2. "Breathe" will give you easy and simple exercises to instantly calm and center yourself in any situation.
3. "Garden" will teach you advanced coping skills that you can practice until they become habits.
4. "Problem Solved! 3Rs" will help you master problem-solving skills using a tried and true system.
5. "World Within: The Inner Life" will teach you about your inner life and how to make it work and keep it working positively and productively.
6. "Not" addresses the underlying problem of why coping and problem-solving fail.
Step 3. Discover & Reduce Ego Control
The third step on the path to sanity is to recognize the ego as the problem in all things.
1. To begin to understand how ego is your problem, read "Ego." This book requires you to be aware of your self-talk (inner dialogue).
2. To become more aware of your self-talk, first read "Garden."
3. To support and reinforce the work you learn to practice in "Ego," read both "What's Your Story?" and "Journal Journey from Ego."
4. To gain more insight into the false beliefs and thinking errors of self-esteem and ego, read "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition."
5. To understand the ego in social relationships, read "Games Ego Plays."
6. To develop greater insight into ego and skills in spotting ego, read "Ego Playground."
Step 4. Rediscover Authentic Self
The fourth step is to strengthen your understanding of your original nature.
1. Learn how you are not your self-talk by reading "Ego."
2. Strengthen your understanding of your original nature by reading "Self: Who Am I?"
3. Strengthen your understanding of your identity by reading "World Within: The Inner Life."
Step 5. Upgrade Thinking Skills
Thinking skills are needed at every stage of life. We are not born with these skills, and few of us have been formally taught them. Therefore it is logical and practical to pursue a complete understanding of thinking skills.
1. "Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition" will help you to develop thinking skills in relation to your attitudes.
2. "Discovery Demands 5TP" will help you build your perspective-taking skills, which will empower you to be able to see more sides to any issue or problem.
3. "Garden" will teach you thinking skills from a CBT and REBT perspective.
4. "Not" addresses a specific and pervasive thinking problem (no-ting).
5. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to recognize self-defeating belief systems.
6. "We're All Insane! Second Edition" will help you to understand and apply General Semantics principles to the development of your thinking skills.
7. "World Within: The Inner Life" will teach you about dialectics, duality, triality, the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP), and advanced thinking skills.
8. "Stiffer: Stoic Mind" will teach you the nature of thinking and emotions and how to make them both work for you.
Step 6: More Responsibility & Less Ego
These books support and reinforce your learnings about emotions, ego, and self in various ways. All of these ways will help you to stay on the path of increasing your emotional responsibility and lessening your time spent on ego.
1. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to face and surrender self-esteem, faulty belief systems, thinking errors, and games.
2. "We're All Insane! Second Edition" will help you to understand and apply General Semantics principles to your practice of recognizing, removing, and replacing your ego.
3. Other titles are collections of ideas and sayings that will help you to understand all of the principles of these steps from various perspectives and through different expressions. These include "Acid Test," "Anything Goes," "Something For Nothing," and books in the "3D: Daily Dose of Discernment series."
Step 7: Improve World & Communication
These books will improve your communication skills and help you to understand and deal with social systems.
1. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to face and surrender socially accepted insanity.
2. "How To Govern Anything" is for those who want to discover and practice a saner system of governing any size organization or country.
3. "Carl Rogers, Control Freak" is for professional counselors interested in applying Carl Rogers' primary technique.
* Share, Encourage, & Support: Please help others to recognize and walk the path of emotional responsibility and ego reduction by recommending our books and practices. Thank you.
Mr. FitzMaurice has a variety of formal and advanced training in counseling, which includes Addictions Counseling, Family Therapy, advanced Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), and over 1,650 hours of diverse training for continuing education units (CEUs). To make the best use of that extensive training, he takes an integrative approach, grounding himself in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (REBT and CBT) and using the other theories to build upon that one core theory, rather than focusing on multiple theories and mastering none of them.
After more than twenty-five years in counseling, Mr. FitzMaurice has worked in the substance abuse field, directed two community mental health programs, and spent many years counseling in private practice. In that time, he has refined many principles for and methods of counseling. He now puts those methods, principles, and techniques into book form to share them with a broader audience, so more people can benefit than he can reach in person. Currently, he has more than forty books written, more than thirty of which are available worldwide as e-books from Amazon, Barnes&Noble, Google, Kobo, and Apple.
The philosophical odyssey of Mr. FitzMaurice began in the late '60s. It has remained a mostly self-taught pursuit, with little formal training or education in philosophy. The odyssey started with Western philosophy and a study of pragmatism and atheism. For example, he read every work of Nietzsche that had been translated into English at that time. From there, he moved to the study of Zen, Buddhism, Hinduism, and a misguided experimentation with psychedelics to achieve states of superconsciousness. He continued into Eastern philosophy, pursuing Taoism and J. Krishnamurti.
Next came a study of Christianity that consisted of seven readings of the Old Testament and nine readings of the New Testament, from cover to cover and word for word. This study was followed by a formal survey of Western psychology. The ongoing influences for FitzMaurice's thinking continue to be Christianity, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), General Semantics, and an Eastern combination of Taoism, J. Krishnamurti, Yoga, and Zen.
Academic Credentials: Master of Science (M.S.) in guidance and counseling, with a specialization in agency counseling, from the University of Nebraska. Associate of applied science in human services--chemical dependency counseling (with honors), from Metropolitan Community College.
National Certifications: National Certified Counselor (NCC) [active for 20+ years, now expired]; Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor (CCMHC) [active for 20+ years, now lapsed]; Family Certification in REBT; Primary Certification in REBT; and Advanced Certification in REBT.
State Certifications: Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor and Certified Gambling Addiction Counselor in the state of Nebraska. Both were allowed to lapse.
State Licensure: Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Oregon [lapsed in 2018]; previously Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner (LIMHP) in Nebraska; and previously Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Iowa.
Community Service: One of the founders of the Francis House, Siena House, and Stephen Center homeless facilities still in operation in Nebraska. Organizer of free yoga classes for 4-5 years in his local community before moving.
Recommended Organizations for World Change: Fellowship for Intentional Community (ic.org), The Cohousing Association of the United States (cohousing.org), The Federation of Egalitarian Communities (thefec.org), Global Ecovillage Network (ecovillage.org), NuMundo (numundo.org), North American Students of Cooperation (nasco.coop).
READING LIST FOR 7 STEPS TO SANITY
Note: You can move around the steps and work on any one; however, progress does depend on doing each step.
Step 1: Practice Emotional Responsibility
The first step on the path to sanity is emotional responsibility.
1. To begin your understanding of emotional responsibility, read "Secret of Maturity, Fourth Edition."
2. To advance your understanding of emotional responsibility, read "Garden."
3. If you want to focus on your attitude and emotional responsibility, then read "Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition."
4. If you are stuck in drama games as a lifestyle or if your family is stuck in a cycle of dealing with social services or the criminal justice system, then read "Garbage Rules." This book is also appropriate for those in early recovery, self-help, and 12-step groups.
5. Professionals who want to advance their counseling skills regarding emotional responsibility should read both "Garden" and "Not."
6. Anyone who wants the highest level of emotional skill and maturity should read "Stiffer: Stoic Mind."
Step 2: Upgrade Coping & Problem-Solving
Coping and problem-solving skills are needed at every stage on the path of returning to sanity. We are not born with these skills, and few of us have been formally taught them. Therefore it is logical and practical to pursue a complete understanding of them.
1. "Stress for Success, Second Edition" will help you to learn how to make stress work for you instead of against you.
2. "Breathe" will give you easy and simple exercises to instantly calm and center yourself in any situation.
3. "Garden" will teach you advanced coping skills that you can practice until they become habits.
4. "Problem Solved! 3Rs" will help you master problem-solving skills using a tried and true system.
5. "World Within: The Inner Life" will teach you about your inner life and how to make it work and keep it working positively and productively.
6. "Not" addresses the underlying problem of why coping and problem-solving fail.
Step 3. Discover & Reduce Ego Control
The third step on the path to sanity is to recognize the ego as the problem in all things.
1. To begin to understand how ego is your problem, read "Ego." This book requires you to be aware of your self-talk (inner dialogue).
2. To become more aware of your self-talk, first read "Garden."
3. To support and reinforce the work you learn to practice in "Ego," read both "What's Your Story?" and "Journal Journey from Ego."
4. To gain more insight into the false beliefs and thinking errors of self-esteem and ego, read "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition."
5. To understand the ego in social relationships, read "Games Ego Plays."
6. To develop greater insight into ego and skills in spotting ego, read "Ego Playground."
Step 4. Rediscover Authentic Self
The fourth step is to strengthen your understanding of your original nature.
1. Learn how you are not your self-talk by reading "Ego."
2. Strengthen your understanding of your original nature by reading "Self: Who Am I?"
3. Strengthen your understanding of your identity by reading "World Within: The Inner Life."
Step 5. Upgrade Thinking Skills
Thinking skills are needed at every stage of life. We are not born with these skills, and few of us have been formally taught them. Therefore it is logical and practical to pursue a complete understanding of thinking skills.
1. "Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition" will help you to develop thinking skills in relation to your attitudes.
2. "Discovery Demands 5TP" will help you build your perspective-taking skills, which will empower you to be able to see more sides to any issue or problem.
3. "Garden" will teach you thinking skills from a CBT and REBT perspective.
4. "Not" addresses a specific and pervasive thinking problem (no-ting).
5. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to recognize self-defeating belief systems.
6. "We're All Insane! Second Edition" will help you to understand and apply General Semantics principles to the development of your thinking skills.
7. "World Within: The Inner Life" will teach you about dialectics, duality, triality, the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP), and advanced thinking skills.
8. "Stiffer: Stoic Mind" will teach you the nature of thinking and emotions and how to make them both work for you.
Step 6: More Responsibility & Less Ego
These books support and reinforce your learnings about emotions, ego, and self in various ways. All of these ways will help you to stay on the path of increasing your emotional responsibility and lessening your time spent on ego.
1. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to face and surrender self-esteem, faulty belief systems, thinking errors, and games.
2. "We're All Insane! Second Edition" will help you to understand and apply General Semantics principles to your practice of recognizing, removing, and replacing your ego.
3. Other titles are collections of ideas and sayings that will help you to understand all of the principles of these steps from various perspectives and through different expressions. These include "Acid Test," "Anything Goes," "Something For Nothing," and books in the "3D: Daily Dose of Discernment series."
Step 7: Improve World & Communication
These books will improve your communication skills and help you to understand and deal with social systems.
1. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to face and surrender socially accepted insanity.
2. "How To Govern Anything" is for those who want to discover and practice a saner system of governing any size organization or country.
3. "Carl Rogers, Control Freak" is for professional counselors interested in applying Carl Rogers' primary technique.
* Share, Encourage, & Support: Please help others to recognize and walk the path of emotional responsibility and ego reduction by recommending our books and practices. Thank you.
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Books By Kevin FitzMaurice
Feeling-Intention Therapy
Sep 1, 2020
$4.69
Read Feeling-Intention Therapy to Discover--
- FIT Incorporates REBT & CBT to Go Beyond Both
- Master Your Intentions & Feelings
- Master Your thoughts & Responses
- 17 Diagrams & 8 Tables Make It Easy
- Master Your Heart & Mind
- This book presents the most comprehensive model available for understanding human feelings, intentions, thoughts, and responses.
- This book presents a new therapeutic system to advance the counseling profession.
- However, anyone familiar with Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) or Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) will find it comparatively easy to understand because FIT subsumes and builds upon those two models.
- We have made this book accessible for professional practitioners and those seeking personal improvement, self-help, and self-knowledge.
- Do you dare face your inner demons?
- Do you intend to overcome your inner demons? Then this book is for you.
- Do you dare to prioritize the intention to be awake, aware, and alive? Then this book is for you.
- Are you consumed by a desire to fully understand the workings of your mind? Then this book is for you.
- This book will help you to discover a revolutionary psychological approach for both self-help and professional help.
- Feeling-Intention Therapy (FIT) will teach you the twelve main factors controlling, influencing, and motivating human behavior.
- However, you only need to focus on five to make your life better.
- When you know and understand why you do what you do, you will also learn why other people do what they do.
- When you understand why you did what you did, you can more effectively and efficiently improve what you do next time.
- When you know how to change the factors controlling your behavior, you can help others change their behavior by teaching them to change the same factors.
- When others see you living a centered and meaningful life, then they will want what you have.
- Psychology has never been so complete or as clear and precise as it is in Feeling-Intention Therapy (FIT) because the order of psychological events is fully delineated.
- While being a major advance in psychological understanding and application, FIT does not claim to work on biological or sociological issues except insofar as they are secondary issues and side effects of what FIT does address.
- However, FIT is more than willing to work using a team approach wherein a group of professionals work together when helping a client, each one focusing on a different issue, communicating with and assisting each other as needed.
- FIT provides the map. You provide the territory.
- Your counseling practice provides the experience.
- Your experience of receiving FIT counseling provides the evidence.
- Your contribution provides the needed help for both the theory and others.
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Breathe
Aug 15, 2010
$3.99
Read Breathe to Discover--
- How To Practice Instant Yoga
- How To Stop Stress in 4 Seconds
- How To Instantly Short-Circuit Anger
- How To Instantly Change Your Attitude & Response
- How To Relax & Regain Composure in 4 Seconds
- How To Do Anything EMDR, TFT, or Tapping Does--Faster, Easier, & Better
- This book will teach you how to use your breath to center.
- To be centered is to be fully connected.
- To be fully connected is to be sane in an insane world.
- The method is called Mind-Move (M-M).
- You can M-M anytime, anywhere, and no one will know.
- By persistently practicing Mind-Move, you will become good at it.
- Mind-Move (M-M) is likely the easiest and fastest method you will ever find to help you to cope with stress, relax, sleep, meditate, strengthen your mind, improve concentration, let go of baggage, find internal balance, meet counseling goals, and meet your life goals in constructive ways.
- While some report taking only minutes to benefit from the exercise, others report taking only seconds.
- You have more peace inside and outside.
- You have better concentration and more mindfulness.
- You practice more productive problem-solving and coping.
- You have more productive stress and less destructive stress.
- You have more productive emotional and relational attitudes.
- The point of practice is so that you can easily Mind-Move under stress, distress, or duress.
- Mind-Move can center you so that you perform well under stress, distress, and duress.
- Musicians, athletes, and dancers all continually practice so that they can perform their exercises under pressure.
- You would do well to follow their example by practicing your Mind-Move exercises daily.
- From practice, the basic exercise can work for you in four seconds.
- Turbocharge your current exercises and practices with M-M.
- Any practices that you are currently using for concentration, meditation, mindfulness, relaxation, or yoga--will work better, deeper, and faster by adding M-M to them.
- You relax easier and faster.
- You sleep faster and deeper.
- You meditate easier and deeper.
- You feel more balanced in your being.
- You feel more grounded in your being.
- The first step of Yoga is centering your awareness in your body in order to get your awareness out of your thinking mind.
- The second step of Yoga is to then move your awareness from your body into your sensing mind.
- M-M is the practice of Instant Yoga because M-M moves your awareness out of your thinking mind directly into your sensing mind through your body.
- We still recommend yoga classes for their health and physical benefits.
- How to defeat stress.
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Games Ego Plays
Mar 26, 2014
$7.99
Read Games Ego Plays To to Discover--
- How To Win at Social Games
- How To End & Exit Social Games
- How To Relate Without Social Games
- How To Map Social Games & Strategies
- How To Know Game Players & Their Moves
- Over 40 Diagrams Make it Easy
- This book is about the psychological or ego games that people play with each other, both in private and in their social relationships.
- Wouldn't it be great to be able to get out of ego games, without conflict, when others intend to play them at your expense?
- Wouldn't it be great to be able to recognize an ego game from the start, so that you might either redirect the interaction in a healthy way or avoid being locked into a stressful and unproductive ego game?
- Wouldn't it be great to learn ways of relating that don't involve ego games, even though we are all conditioned and trained to play psychological games?
- Once you understand the structure and style of ego games, you will find them clear and straightforward enough to see in everyday life.
- You will discover the fundamental roles, moves, and motives in psychological games.
- You will become aware of how to play ego games so everyone wins, how to get out of ego games, and how to avoid playing ego games.
- Don't you want to become more aware of when you are in an ego game?
- Don't you want to see the motives of others who engage you in ego games?
- Don't you want to learn how to avoid entering or starting an ego game?
- Instead of wondering what just happened in an uncomfortable interaction, you can learn to analyze the ego game and better prepare for it the next time it rears its ugly head.
- This book will stimulate, enlighten, and challenge you to live ego-game free.
- Discover how to identify ego games before they suck you in, why people play ego games, who plays ego games, and when they play them.
- It's not just the people you love, hate, or know who play these ego games you'll find that you do, too.
- And you'll learn how to free yourself of your favorite ego games in order to be more effective and authentic in your relationships and career.
- While exposing the foolish ego games of another person brings pride, there is also shame in detecting your own ego games.
- Part of the aim of this book is to get you beyond the pride and shame that result from playing ego games.
- This book also presents another style defined as "Cooperation" as a way to relate without ego games.
- This book includes some materials from a counselor-training workshop previously presented by this author.
- The benefit of Using the Map of Social Games & Strategies
- The benefit of Knowing the Players & Roles in Games
- The benefit of Knowing the Rules of Games & Strategies
- The benefit of Knowing the Agenda, Intentions, Motives & Payoffs
- While this book is designed to stand alone, you might find it more easily digested if you first read
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Not
Mar 16, 2011
$2.77
Read Not to Discover--
- How To Live a Positive Life
- How To End the #1 Cause of Failure and Error
- How To Motivate More Efficiently and Effectively
- How To Stop Doing the Opposite of What You Want to Do
- How To Practice REBT More Efficiently and Effectively
- Don't feel a need for therapy?
- Don't have time for self-improvement programs?
- You can change your life by changing one thing now!
- Read Not to change your life by changing your relationship to no-ts.
- Not will give you twelve principles to improve the central-life-issue of how you deal with no-ts.
- Improving this one issue will positively impact every area of your life.
- If you want to improve your relationships, health, and happiness, then purchase and read Not today!
- Enjoy the ongoing benefits of improving your relationship to one constant life-issue.
- Not can help with parenting, teaching, coaching, managing, relationships, addictions, codependency, relaxation, problem-solving, emotions, anxiety, anger, depression, and stress coping, among other issues.
- Correct and incorrect no-t usage is the focus of this book.
- Twelve principles of no-t usage are presented and explained.
- No-t principles are ordered from simple to complex.
- The twelve principles overlap, so repetition and redundancy exist.
- Repetition is beneficial to learning the principles, understanding the principles, remembering the principles, the right practice of the principles, and making the principles your new habits.
- The no-t principles require your testing and proving in order to be effective for you.
- Fearlessly challenge them for the greatest benefit.
- Not is your opportunity to change one thing to change your life and impact all those around you. Read Not today!
- REBT practitioners use Not to understand how to update and refine your practice of REBT for greater effectiveness and efficiency.
- For example, use this book to understand why you should be looking for "should nots" instead of "shoulds."
- Also, understand how it is "nots" that cause things to be viewed as terrible, horrible, and awful.
- Philosophers can understand Not as an exposition on the nature of evil.
- Ever wonder why you do the opposite of what you want to do? Ever wonder why others do the opposite of what you want them to do?
- Read Not for the definitive answer.
- After you change your relationship to no-ts, your life will change.
- Changing your life for the better will promote positive change in all those you relate to.
- Progress is doing the bad less and the good more.
- Progress is doing the wrong less and the right more
- Practicing right no-t usage more and wrong no-t usage less is progress.
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Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition
Oct 8, 2011
$2.99
Read Attitude Is All You Need! to Discover--
- What Are Winning Attitudes?
- How to Choose Your Attitude
- How to Regain Your Attitude Power
- Rules to Use to Rule Your Attitudes
- Attitude Is All You Need! is about Attitude Power (AP).
- From reading it, you will discover how to increase your Attitude Power and how to decrease your attitudinal deficiencies and weaknesses.
- Don't you think that the time and energy spent on improving your attitude is worth the benefits to your relationships and career?
- Are you willing to learn rules for your sanity?
- Are you willing to learn rules for the management of your attitudes?
- You will learn many rules for managing your attitude.
- You learned a lot of rules in school for science and math.
- If you have a trade or profession, then you learned a lot of rules to be in that trade or profession.
- You may have learned rules in many areas such as: consulting, design, documentation, efficiency, ethics, handling, legal, materials, methods, processing, record keeping, safety, skill, tools, and various special procedures.
- Don't you think the time and energy spent on improving your mental health is worth the benefits to your relationships and career?
- Your methods of coping with stress can be used to understand some of the features and benefits of this book.
- You can obtain the following benefits by practicing the Attitude Power teachings.
- Attitude Power helps you to become more aware of your attitudes and the effects your attitudes have on you, your competence, relationships, and stress.
- Your awareness of your attitudes allows you to switch from ineffective or damaging attitudes to effective or helpful attitudes.
- Attitude Power can be used to lower your stress by helping you to choose a less stressful attitude.
- Attitude Power helps you to become responsible for your attitudes and stress.
- Responsibility regains control lost to victimhood.
- Your responsibility for your attitudes allows you to regain your personal power and to take charge of your attitudes.
- When you are feeling stress, you are more likely to look for internal methods of dealing with stress than to blame uncontrollable external sources; hence, you are better able to lower your stress.
- Attitude Power helps you to choose the most effective attitude for the situation.
- You also learn to choose to choose again after testing the results of your attitude choices.
- You can cope more effectively because your attitude not only does not get in the way of your coping--your attitude helps you deal effectively with the situation (a double win).
- Your stress is lower as you are more effective.
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Garden
Oct 5, 2010
$5.99
Read Garden Your Mind to Discover-
- How To Feel Better and Get Better
- How To Brighten Your Mind and Heart with CBT
- How To Practice CBT Self-Help
- How To Practice Guided Self-Help with CBT
- How To Improve Your Mood and Responses
- A garden is where you grow food and herbs to nourish and heal and flowers to please and inspire.
- A garden is where you protect and care for plants that provide you with multiple benefits in return.
- A garden is where you continually uproot the weeds that are interfering with the health and growth of your plants, herbs, and flowers.
- Gardening is caring for plants, so they might be healthy enough to produce value-flowers, vegetables, herbs, and fruits.
- Your mind is the soil in which sensations, thoughts, feelings, and attitudes take root.
- Whatever takes root in your conscious or unconscious mind produces fruit or results. Your conscious mind is the part of your garden you admit having.
- Your unconscious mind is the part of your garden that you hide in darkness because you do not want the weeds you grow there to be found and shame you.
- Be warned; you will get your hands dirty when you garden.
- You will see unpleasant weeds in your garden.
- You will get scratched and cut, pulling out your weeds.
- Suffering is unavoidable. Choose to suffer well.
- Understand that you will suffer from your weeds or suffer from pulling out your weeds.
- The suffering from your weeds is suffering badly, as it leads to a sicker garden.
- The suffering from pulling out your weeds is suffering well, as it leads to a healthier garden.
- You now have a clear and practical way to improve your life: the garden your mind analogy.
- By gardening your mind, you will improve your thoughts. By improving your thoughts, you will improve your feelings.
- By improving your feelings, you will improve your behaviors.
- And since your thoughts, feelings, and actions are an interconnected system, anytime you improve one, you help improve the rest.
- Synergistically, your mental, emotional, and behavioral health will enhance each other, all of which will enhance your relationships, peacefulness, focus, and life.
- Enjoy!
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Secret of Maturity: Fourth Edition
Jul 13, 2017
$5.99
Read the Secret of Maturity to Discover--
- How To Live a Mature Life
- How To Own the Power of Emotional Responsibility
- How To Stop Owning Garbage that Feels Bad
- 12 New Tables of Information
- More than Twice as Long as the Third Edition
- This book describes maturity in understandable and practical terms.
- If you want to know what it means to be mature, this book is for you.
- If you want to know how to live a mature life, this book is for you.
- If you want to grow up or know what it means to grow up, this book is for you.
- With all our means of communication and education, how is it possible that many fundamental concepts and principles continue to remain a secret or a mystery to most people?
- What kind of educational system can call itself "education" and fail to discuss and explore fundamental human qualities like maturity?
- The research for this book uncovered a myriad of ways of approaching the same basic answer for the secret of maturity: maturity is responsibility.
- Most of the answers to "What is maturity?" come from either psychology or philosophy.
- The answers are listed or briefly described throughout the text, but it is your job to decide what to do with all the answers.
- So be responsible for how you assimilate the answers and put them into practice.
- Quite a few of the paragraphs in this book summarize concepts that are expounded in entire volumes elsewhere.
- Since this book is so condensed, it will be most effective after it has been read and studied many times.
- Might we suggest that you first pursue those concepts that strike you as personally relevant?
- That will do you the best today because those concepts will be emotionally valuable to you.
- Read the suggested references to those concepts, and locate other related works at the library or through Internet searches.
- If you learn and apply the lessons contained in this book, results are guaranteed.
- Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she is in better health because he or she can handle stress better.
- Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better love life because he or she can handle interpersonal relationships and communication better.
- Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better career or work experience because he or she can better handle challenges, conflicts, stressors, work politics, and work pressures.
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Problem Solved! 3Rs
Nov 8, 2017
$5.99
Read Problem Solved! 3Rs and You--
- Discover How to Problem-Solve Simply
- Discover How to Problem-Solve Completely
- Discover How to Make Problem-Solving a Life Skill
- Results: Let Others Whine While You Fix It
- Results: Let Others Worry While You Fix It
- Results: Let Others Waste Time While You Fix It
- This book is about how to problem-solve using the 3Rs (Recognize, Remove, Replace).
- There are 31 illustrations counting tables.
- The 3Rs is a three-step solution designed to promote effective and efficient problem-solving. While the 3Rs are most natural to apply and understand as a method of problem-solving, the 3Rs are not limited to applications involving problem-solving.
- You can use the 3Rs to find closer approximations to some dream or ideal, to fix something that is broken or not working, to improve current business practices or systems, to make action plans for your life, to plan for change or disaster, and to cope with difficulties.
- A complete explanation of the 3Rs, along with definitions, is provided in the first chapter.
- The second chapter provides examples of the 3Rs in practice.
- The third chapter applies the 3Rs as a metatheory for counseling, shows how to use the 3Rs for relapse prevention and recovery, and demonstrates an advanced form of the 3Rs known as the 7Rs.
- The fourth chapter applies the 3Rs to the issue of self-esteem and how to thrive despite self-esteem.
- The fifth chapter helps with understanding and using emotions constructively.
- In this book, you are encouraged to solve problems genuinely by not removing only symptoms, but by also removing the underlying intentions, maintainers, payoffs, reinforcements, supports, supporters, and sustainers for problems.
- Examples of some of the issues addressed include: attitudes, ego, expectations, feelings, mental blocks, self-defeating habits, and self-esteem.
- A new paradigm or model for understanding feelings is also provided, and the 3Rs are applied to that model to help you to increase your healthy feelings and to reduce your unhealthy feelings.
- Many tables are included throughout the book in order to simplify and reinforce your discovery, learning, and problem-solving skill development.
- Referring to the tables can remind you of critical insights and the contents of entire sections, if not whole chapters.
- Better problem-solving produces better living and working. Solve problems better and live better today with the 3Rs.
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Ego
Jun 6, 2011
$5.99
Read Ego to Discover--
- How To End Ego
- How To Find Your Authentic Self
- How To Free Your Mind and Heart
- How To Reduce and Remove Ego
- This book is the first of its kind in the world.
- You will discover the real root of the ego.
- You will learn how to apply Western psychology to remove ego now.
- Instead of spending twenty years meditating to drop the ego, you can now uproot ego as fast as you are willing and able.
- The practices and plans in this book work with any ancient practices or techniques that you are now using or might use in the future.
- Get the freedom from ego you want now!
- This book provides you with a Seven-Step Plan to overcome the biggest problem in adult life: your ego.
- You will discover how the ego hampers your goals, health, and happiness.
- You will be motivated to live free of ego and to return to your original nature.
- You will realize how to recognize, remove, and replace the ego.
- You will develop three plans to live sane in an insane world.
- In Step One, you discover how the ego is the main problem in your life and the differences between ego and self.
- In Step Two, you learn how you keep ego alive in favor of self.
- In Step Three, you realize how to remove your methods for maintaining ego.
- In Step Four, you determine how to remove ego from your life.
- In Step Five, you discern how to replace ego with your authentic self.
- In Step Six, you understand how to replace your supports for ego with supports for self.
- Step Seven of the Plan
- In Step Seven, you learn how to develop three plans to make it all work.
- Plan #1 is an action plan to follow Steps 1-6.
- Plan #2 is a relapse plan to keep you on your action plan.
- Plan #3 is a recovery plan to get you back on your action and relapse plans if you fall off them.
- Are you teachable?
- Are you serious about giving up ego now?
- Are you ready, open, and willing to learn how to give up your ego?
- Buy are read Ego today and Enjoy living with less ego!
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The Secret of Maturity, Third Edition
Nov 13, 2012
$0.99
Read The Secret of Maturity to Discover--
- How To Live a Mature Life
- How To Own the Power of Emotional Responsibility
- How To Stop Buying into Garbage
- This book describes maturity in understandable and practical terms.
- If you want to know what it means to be mature, this book is for you.
- If you want to know how to live a mature life, this book is for you.
- If you want to grow up or know what it means to grow up, this book is for you.
- With all our means of communication and education, how is it possible that many fundamental concepts and principles continue to remain a secret or a mystery to most people?
- What kind of educational system can call itself "education" and fail to discuss and explore fundamental human qualities like maturity?
- The research for this book uncovered a myriad of ways of approaching the same basic answer for the secret of maturity: maturity is responsibility.
- Most of the answers to "What is maturity?" come from either psychology or philosophy.
- The answers are listed or briefly described throughout the text.
- It is your job to decide what to do with all the answers.
- Start practicing what you understand, and more will come to you.
- Quite a few of the paragraphs in this book summarize concepts that are expounded in entire volumes elsewhere.
- Since this book is so condensed, it will be most effective when it is revisited after more experience of practicing maturity.
- Might we suggest that you first pursue those concepts that strike you as personally relevant?
- They will do you the most good today because those concepts will be emotionally valuable to you.
- Read the suggested references to those concepts, and locate other related works at the library or through Internet searches.
- If you learn and apply the lessons contained in this book, results are guaranteed.
- Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she is in better health because he or she can handle stress better.
- Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better love life because he or she can handle interpersonal relationships and communication better.
- Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better career or work experience because he or she can better handle challenges, conflicts, stressors, work politics, and work pressures.
Stiffer
Jul 9, 2019
$5.99
Discover the System for a Stoic Mind--
- How To Recognize a Stoic & Stiff-Mind
- How To Remove a Weak Mind
- How To Replace a Weak Mind with a Stiff-Mind
- How To Use the 3Rs for Freedom from Ego & Weakness
- How to Use the 5TP for Perspective & Balance
- This book is designed to stiffen your mind to injuries and insults to the point that you can learn to be psychologically free from them. The wisdom of the Stoics can be understood as, in practice, acquiring a stiff mind, mental attitude, or outlook.
- A stiff mind results in stoic calm and leaves one free to serve virtue despite hardships and struggles that distract and disturb minds that are not stiff or Stoic.
- Won't it be great to finally be able to ignore those who intend to hurt you for the purpose of manipulating or punishing you? Won't it be great to have such a stiff outlook that nothing unimportant or useless can distract you from your chosen course?
- Yes, you can learn to bear the critics; and, more importantly, you can learn to stand your trials and tribulations to focus on and achieve your dreams.
- We will be developing and exploring a revolutionary new paradigm, STPHFR, that will help you to map your mind in unheard-of productive ways. This new paradigm is an evolutionary development, and that evolution will be traced through this book.
- STPHFR works better than other mind-mapping methods because it provides a mapping structure (variables, sequence, impact) that better fits the workings of your mind.
- The structure of this paradigm is neither too simplistic for reality nor too complicated for application. Moreover, it works more effectively and efficiently than other paradigms when adequately applied, implemented, and practiced.
- This book explains how human emotions arise, are caused, and are chosen. Understanding emotions will help you in every area of your life. Taking responsibility for your emotions is the most empowering psychological viewpoint that you remain free to choose and use.
- This book will provide you with a new and more in-depth understanding of emotions. You will be shown how ego feelings are always unreal (about your ego, not your self), while natural or non-ego feelings are often real (about your self, not your ego).
- The difference between unreal and real feelings will become clear from understanding the dynamics and mechanics of how emotions and feelings rise and fall.
- For now, we will define unreal feelings as feelings that are based on delusions or illusions and real feelings as feelings that are based on reality or verifiable experiences.
- A main motto of the book is: Feel for Real!
- By learning to increase your real feelings and to decrease your unreal feelings, you will also be increasing your authentic self and decreasing your delusional self, based on self-esteem. Self-esteem, ego, is about no-one and nobody, which is why the feelings it produces aren't real.
- To feel for real is to live in life instead of being lost in the delusions of thought and story worlds. If you are living in life instead of living in ego, then you are seeing reality as it is, not through the lens of some story your ego has built.
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Nobody Speaks
Nov 18, 2020
$2.99
Read Nobody Speaks to Discover—
- Why nobody could wait no longer.
- What nobody said to somebody.
- Why nobody wants to stop somebody.
- Why somebody must take a hit.
- How somebody and nobody interact.
What Is This Book?
- Nobody Speaks is not prose.
- Nobody Speaks is not poetry.
- Nobody Speaks is performance.
What Is This Book About?
- Nobody is out in front of it.
- Nobody will remain when it’s done.
- Nobody will not forget this.
- Somebody will be exposed.
- Somebodies will be discredited.
- Somebodies will not remain.
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