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About Kevin FitzMaurice
Mr. FitzMaurice has a variety of formal and advanced training in counseling, which includes Addictions Counseling, Family Therapy, advanced Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), and over 1,650 hours of diverse training for continuing education units (CEUs). To make the best use of that extensive training, he takes an integrative approach, grounding himself in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (REBT and CBT) and using the other theories to build upon that one core theory, rather than focusing on multiple theories and mastering none of them.
After more than twenty-five years in counseling, Mr. FitzMaurice has worked in the substance abuse field, directed two community mental health programs, and spent many years counseling in private practice. In that time, he has refined many principles for and methods of counseling. He now puts those methods, principles, and techniques into book form to share them with a broader audience, so more people can benefit than he can reach in person. Currently, he has more than forty books written, more than thirty of which are available worldwide as e-books from Amazon, Barnes&Noble, Google, Kobo, and Apple.
The philosophical odyssey of Mr. FitzMaurice began in the late '60s. It has remained a mostly self-taught pursuit, with little formal training or education in philosophy. The odyssey started with Western philosophy and a study of pragmatism and atheism. For example, he read every work of Nietzsche that had been translated into English at that time. From there, he moved to the study of Zen, Buddhism, Hinduism, and a misguided experimentation with psychedelics to achieve states of superconsciousness. He continued into Eastern philosophy, pursuing Taoism and J. Krishnamurti.
Next came a study of Christianity that consisted of seven readings of the Old Testament and nine readings of the New Testament, from cover to cover and word for word. This study was followed by a formal survey of Western psychology. The ongoing influences for FitzMaurice's thinking continue to be Christianity, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), General Semantics, and an Eastern combination of Taoism, J. Krishnamurti, Yoga, and Zen.
Academic Credentials: Master of Science (M.S.) in guidance and counseling, with a specialization in agency counseling, from the University of Nebraska. Associate of applied science in human services--chemical dependency counseling (with honors), from Metropolitan Community College.
National Certifications: National Certified Counselor (NCC) [active for 20+ years, now expired]; Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor (CCMHC) [active for 20+ years, now lapsed]; Family Certification in REBT; Primary Certification in REBT; and Advanced Certification in REBT.
State Certifications: Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor and Certified Gambling Addiction Counselor in the state of Nebraska. Both were allowed to lapse.
State Licensure: Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Oregon [lapsed in 2018]; previously Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner (LIMHP) in Nebraska; and previously Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Iowa.
Community Service: One of the founders of the Francis House, Siena House, and Stephen Center homeless facilities still in operation in Nebraska. Organizer of free yoga classes for 4-5 years in his local community before moving.
Recommended Organizations for World Change: Fellowship for Intentional Community (ic.org), The Cohousing Association of the United States (cohousing.org), The Federation of Egalitarian Communities (thefec.org), Global Ecovillage Network (ecovillage.org), NuMundo (numundo.org), North American Students of Cooperation (nasco.coop).
READING LIST FOR 7 STEPS TO SANITY
Note: You can move around the steps and work on any one; however, progress does depend on doing each step.
Step 1: Practice Emotional Responsibility
The first step on the path to sanity is emotional responsibility.
1. To begin your understanding of emotional responsibility, read "Secret of Maturity, Fourth Edition."
2. To advance your understanding of emotional responsibility, read "Garden."
3. If you want to focus on your attitude and emotional responsibility, then read "Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition."
4. If you are stuck in drama games as a lifestyle or if your family is stuck in a cycle of dealing with social services or the criminal justice system, then read "Garbage Rules." This book is also appropriate for those in early recovery, self-help, and 12-step groups.
5. Professionals who want to advance their counseling skills regarding emotional responsibility should read both "Garden" and "Not."
6. Anyone who wants the highest level of emotional skill and maturity should read "Stiffer: Stoic Mind."
Step 2: Upgrade Coping & Problem-Solving
Coping and problem-solving skills are needed at every stage on the path of returning to sanity. We are not born with these skills, and few of us have been formally taught them. Therefore it is logical and practical to pursue a complete understanding of them.
1. "Stress for Success, Second Edition" will help you to learn how to make stress work for you instead of against you.
2. "Breathe" will give you easy and simple exercises to instantly calm and center yourself in any situation.
3. "Garden" will teach you advanced coping skills that you can practice until they become habits.
4. "Problem Solved! 3Rs" will help you master problem-solving skills using a tried and true system.
5. "World Within: The Inner Life" will teach you about your inner life and how to make it work and keep it working positively and productively.
6. "Not" addresses the underlying problem of why coping and problem-solving fail.
Step 3. Discover & Reduce Ego Control
The third step on the path to sanity is to recognize the ego as the problem in all things.
1. To begin to understand how ego is your problem, read "Ego." This book requires you to be aware of your self-talk (inner dialogue).
2. To become more aware of your self-talk, first read "Garden."
3. To support and reinforce the work you learn to practice in "Ego," read both "What's Your Story?" and "Journal Journey from Ego."
4. To gain more insight into the false beliefs and thinking errors of self-esteem and ego, read "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition."
5. To understand the ego in social relationships, read "Games Ego Plays."
6. To develop greater insight into ego and skills in spotting ego, read "Ego Playground."
Step 4. Rediscover Authentic Self
The fourth step is to strengthen your understanding of your original nature.
1. Learn how you are not your self-talk by reading "Ego."
2. Strengthen your understanding of your original nature by reading "Self: Who Am I?"
3. Strengthen your understanding of your identity by reading "World Within: The Inner Life."
Step 5. Upgrade Thinking Skills
Thinking skills are needed at every stage of life. We are not born with these skills, and few of us have been formally taught them. Therefore it is logical and practical to pursue a complete understanding of thinking skills.
1. "Attitude Is All You Need! Second Edition" will help you to develop thinking skills in relation to your attitudes.
2. "Discovery Demands 5TP" will help you build your perspective-taking skills, which will empower you to be able to see more sides to any issue or problem.
3. "Garden" will teach you thinking skills from a CBT and REBT perspective.
4. "Not" addresses a specific and pervasive thinking problem (no-ting).
5. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to recognize self-defeating belief systems.
6. "We're All Insane! Second Edition" will help you to understand and apply General Semantics principles to the development of your thinking skills.
7. "World Within: The Inner Life" will teach you about dialectics, duality, triality, the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP), and advanced thinking skills.
8. "Stiffer: Stoic Mind" will teach you the nature of thinking and emotions and how to make them both work for you.
Step 6: More Responsibility & Less Ego
These books support and reinforce your learnings about emotions, ego, and self in various ways. All of these ways will help you to stay on the path of increasing your emotional responsibility and lessening your time spent on ego.
1. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to face and surrender self-esteem, faulty belief systems, thinking errors, and games.
2. "We're All Insane! Second Edition" will help you to understand and apply General Semantics principles to your practice of recognizing, removing, and replacing your ego.
3. Other titles are collections of ideas and sayings that will help you to understand all of the principles of these steps from various perspectives and through different expressions. These include "Acid Test," "Anything Goes," "Something For Nothing," and books in the "3D: Daily Dose of Discernment series."
Step 7: Improve World & Communication
These books will improve your communication skills and help you to understand and deal with social systems.
1. "Planet Earth: Insane Asylum for the Universe, Second Edition" will help you to face and surrender socially accepted insanity.
2. "How To Govern Anything" is for those who want to discover and practice a saner system of governing any size organization or country.
3. "Carl Rogers, Control Freak" is for professional counselors interested in applying Carl Rogers' primary technique.
* Share, Encourage, & Support: Please help others to recognize and walk the path of emotional responsibility and ego reduction by recommending our books and practices. Thank you.
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- In Step Two, you learn how you keep ego alive in favor of self.
- In Step Three, you realize how to remove your methods for maintaining ego.
- In Step Four, you determine how to remove ego from your life.
- In Step Five, you discern how to replace ego with your authentic self.
- In Step Six, you understand how to replace your supports for ego with supports for self.
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- Plan #1 is an action plan to follow Steps 1-6.
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- Quite a few of the paragraphs in this book summarize concepts that are expounded in entire volumes elsewhere.
- Since this book is so condensed, it will be most effective when it is revisited after more experience of practicing maturity.
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- Read the suggested references to those concepts, and locate other related works at the library or through Internet searches.
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- How To Win at Social Games
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- Dialectics is explained and explored at length to provide awareness and insight into the nature of attention, internal processes, and thinking.
- Our model for dialectics is called Ping-Pack-Pong (P-P-P).
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- The second chapter explains dialectics as the means and mechanism of thought.
- The third chapter focuses on how inner dialectics are beneficial and how they can work effectively and efficiently.
- The fourth chapter focuses on how to be aware of, explore, and map your inner dialectics using the Ping-Pack-Pong paradigm.
- The fifth chapter focuses on the problem and the issue of Complex Ping-Pack-Pongs.
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- The seventh chapter focuses on the problems of "not-ing" (of trying to undo P-P-Ps).
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- A complete explanation of the 3Rs, along with definitions, is provided in the first chapter.
- The second chapter provides examples of the 3Rs in practice.
- The third chapter applies the 3Rs as a metatheory for counseling, shows how to use the 3Rs for relapse prevention and recovery, and demonstrates an advanced form of the 3Rs known as the 7Rs.
- The fourth chapter applies the 3Rs to the issue of self-esteem and how to thrive despite self-esteem.
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- A garden is where you protect and care for plants that provide you with multiple benefits in return.
- A garden is where you continually uproot the weeds that are interfering with the health and growth of your plants, herbs, and flowers.
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- Whatever takes root in your conscious or unconscious mind produces fruit or results. Your conscious mind is the part of your garden you admit having.
- Your unconscious mind is the part of your garden that you hide in darkness because you do not want the weeds you grow there to be found and shame you.
- Be warned; you will get your hands dirty when you garden.
- You will see unpleasant weeds in your garden.
- You will get scratched and cut, pulling out your weeds.
- Suffering is unavoidable. Choose to suffer well.
- Understand that you will suffer from your weeds or suffer from pulling out your weeds.
- The suffering from your weeds is suffering badly, as it leads to a sicker garden.
- The suffering from pulling out your weeds is suffering well, as it leads to a healthier garden.
- You now have a clear and practical way to improve your life: the garden your mind analogy.
- By gardening your mind, you will improve your thoughts. By improving your thoughts, you will improve your feelings.
- By improving your feelings, you will improve your behaviors.
- And since your thoughts, feelings, and actions are an interconnected system, anytime you improve one, you help improve the rest.
- Synergistically, your mental, emotional, and behavioral health will enhance each other, all of which will enhance your relationships, peacefulness, focus, and life.
- Open your mind with the 5TP.
- Discover more viewpoints using the 5TP.
- Increase your creativeness by practicing the 5TP.
- Improve your coping skills with the 5TP.
- Increase your understanding by practicing the 5TP.
- Improve your ability to discover by using the 5TP.
- Improve your problem-solving skills by practicing the 5TP.
- This book is about discovering, understanding, and using the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) in order to develop and increase your skill of perspective-taking.
- Perspective-taking is learning the skill of looking at difficult issues from various points of view instead of from only one predominant point of view.
- Perspective-taking allows you to understand people, places, and things from different points of view and thereby expands your horizons and insights.
- The 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) teaches an easy and effective method for practicing perspective-taking.
- Using a model of five boxes, columns, lists, or positions, you learn how to easily and quickly develop five perspectives on any concern, issue, problem, or topic.
- The five positions, boxes, or columns remain constant, retaining their names and usage, making it is easy to plug in opposite, conciliatory, and balanced views into any 5TP diagram for any concern, issue, problem, or topic.
- Discovering different perspectives on or views of reality in one area often results in opening your mind to discovering different perspectives or views of reality in other areas.
- Persistently practicing perspective-taking will lead to greater mental balance, flexibility, and openness, because perspective-taking, using the 5TP, is a yoga practice for the mind.
- And by having a more holistic grasp of the many sources of information available from using the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) to improve your perspective-taking skill, you will also happily discover that your coping, creative, and problem-solving skills have also expanded and increased.
- Using the 5TP does not require you to change your mind, to alter your beliefs, or to accept other points of view.
- The 5TP does require you to recognize at least five points of view regarding any issue, problem, or topic.
- What you do with that understanding is entirely up to you.
- However, you might find that recognizing other sides and viewpoints helps you perform better as a boss, companion, leader, listener, and negotiator.
- The 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) will significantly increase your understanding of any issue, problem, or topic, especially if you initially see or think that there exist only one or two points of view.
- Such new understandings can go a long way to allowing you to find peaceful solutions to real-life problems.
- This book will first cover some of the advantages and disadvantages of duality and triality in order to prepare the reader to understand the distinct benefits of the 5 Thinking Positions (5TP) over duality and triality.
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- How To Save Counseling's Greatest Technique
- How To Use Roger's Technique
- This book is about the work of Carl Rogers, not the life of Carl Rogers.
- The personal problems Carl Rogers had with alcohol and his marriage have nothing to do with his counseling method.
- This short book focuses on the method of counseling that Rogers invented.
- The messenger is not the message.
- The distinction means that if Carl Rogers's method is to be evaluated, then it should be evaluated separately from his life.
- Was Rogers a wounded healer? Perhaps so.
- Method and technique are not to be confused with counseling theory.
- A counseling theory is a set of guiding principles that structure the course of counseling.
- A method or technique is a strategy for eliciting a response from a client.
- Counseling theories, therefore, provide general directions for achieving specific goals, while methods or techniques are particular strategies for promoting a change or curative response from a client.
- Carl Rogers gave the counseling world its most effective, efficient, and advanced method.
- Unfortunately, Rogers feared to face the true nature of his method and buried it under false philosophy and theory that diametrically opposed it.
- Rogers' betrayal of his method has led to a corruption of his method, causing it to be diluted, at best, and in many cases lost.
- We must separate the theory of Carl Rogers from the method of Carl Rogers to resurrect and preserve his superior method.
- Rogers was a unique genius who provided the counseling world with its best method, and both he and his theory are rightly honored and valued.
- His theory is simply humanism and self-actualization applied to counseling; something others have done both before and after Rogers.
- Rogers was an idealist, and most of his expounded ideals are noble and helpful.
- For instance, Rogers wanted teachers to be facilitators and resource persons for the discovery process, rather than merely a series of audio recordings.
- Both the method of Rogers and the theory of Rogers are valuable in their own right.
- Please re-experience the Rogerian Method in light of this book, and leave the rest to dust.
- If we could present the method as our own or something new, we would; but that would be a lie.
- Save counseling's greatest method for future generations.
- Let us increase the odds that more than just the lucky few can find a counselor proficient in the Rogerian Method.
- This book will help you discover the true nature of the method.
- But ultimately, you must work this out for yourself.
- You must again watch the videos of Rogers at work.
- You must again analyze his method.
- What Are Winning Attitudes?
- How to Choose Your Attitude
- How to Regain Your Attitude Power
- Rules to Use to Rule Your Attitudes
- Attitude Is All You Need! is about Attitude Power (AP).
- From reading it, you will discover how to increase your Attitude Power and how to decrease your attitudinal deficiencies and weaknesses.
- Don't you think that the time and energy spent on improving your attitude is worth the benefits to your relationships and career?
- Are you willing to learn rules for your sanity?
- Are you willing to learn rules for the management of your attitudes?
- You will learn many rules for managing your attitude.
- You learned a lot of rules in school for science and math.
- If you have a trade or profession, then you learned a lot of rules to be in that trade or profession.
- You may have learned rules in many areas such as: consulting, design, documentation, efficiency, ethics, handling, legal, materials, methods, processing, record keeping, safety, skill, tools, and various special procedures.
- Don't you think the time and energy spent on improving your mental health is worth the benefits to your relationships and career?
- Your methods of coping with stress can be used to understand some of the features and benefits of this book.
- You can obtain the following benefits by practicing the Attitude Power teachings.
- Attitude Power helps you to become more aware of your attitudes and the effects your attitudes have on you, your competence, relationships, and stress.
- Your awareness of your attitudes allows you to switch from ineffective or damaging attitudes to effective or helpful attitudes.
- Attitude Power can be used to lower your stress by helping you to choose a less stressful attitude.
- Attitude Power helps you to become responsible for your attitudes and stress.
- Responsibility regains control lost to victimhood.
- Your responsibility for your attitudes allows you to regain your personal power and to take charge of your attitudes.
- When you are feeling stress, you are more likely to look for internal methods of dealing with stress than to blame uncontrollable external sources; hence, you are better able to lower your stress.
- Attitude Power helps you to choose the most effective attitude for the situation.
- You also learn to choose to choose again after testing the results of your attitude choices.
- You can cope more effectively because your attitude not only does not get in the way of your coping--your attitude helps you deal effectively with the situation (a double win).
- Your stress is lower as you are more effective.
- How To Discover Insight Using Sayings
- How To Exercise and Improve Your Mind
- How To Increase Your Mental Capability with Aphorisms
- This book is a compilation of sayings useful in understanding Eastern thought and General Semantics.
- The agreement between General Semantics and Eastern philosophy is profound, illuminating, and deepens the understanding of both.
- For instance, the expressions, "The description is not the described," and, "The thought is not the thing," are found in both Eastern philosophy and General Semantics.
- Both systems arrive at reality as nonverbal, silent, and beyond comprehension with thought.
- This, despite the fact that one is spiritual, and one is atheistic.
- Two entirely different approaches arriving at the same ultimate conclusions is exciting and enlightening.
- You will find the sayings herein amusing, engaging, exciting, helpful, interesting, and thought-provoking.
- Many of the sayings are like Zen koans; if you sit with them, they reveal the other side free of words.
- Many of the sayings are open to multiple interpretations and meanings.
- New meanings will arrive on different journeys through the book.
- The same insight shared in different ways helps you not to miss deeper felt experiences for simple surface meanings.
- It often happens that a slight change in wording allows someone to drop their mind long enough to hear something fresh.
- One person's "that's obvious" is another person's "ah-ha" moment.
- Let the sayings pass that don't open to you now.
- Let sayings percolate and seep until you are ready for them.
- Focus on the sayings that bring stillness.
- Listen beyond the words.
- Feel, rather than think, the sayings through.
- Sense, rather than think, the music behind the words.
- In Eastern thought, the word "nothing" can have a profoundly positive meaning.
- For instance, "nothing" can mean the unknowable creative source of everything.
- Eastern philosophy has two major divisions; one that has gods and one that has a void instead of gods.
- The word "nothing" in this book often refers to this invisible, unfathomable, and all-powerful Eastern void.
- The word "void" is also to be considered positive in the Eastern philosophy sense.
- Perhaps, because of the negative connotations of the words "void" or "nothing," the Western mind would do better to think of "positive pure-energy" in place of void and nothing.
- The word "nothing" in this book can have many meanings other than zero: emptiness, empty space, formless energy, God, invisible power, no thing, no things as referents, no thoughts, no thoughts as referents, no thoughts being what they only represent, not thinging, self as space, the creative source, the ineffable, the life force, the nature of being, the positive Eastern void, the way of life.