• How To Win at Social Games
• How To End & Exit Social Games
• How To Relate Without Social Games
• How To Map Social Games & Strategies
• How To Know Game Players & Their Moves
• Over 40 Diagrams Make it Easy

• This book is about the psychological or ego games that people play with each other, both in private and in their social relationships.
• Wouldn't it be great to be able to get out of ego games, without conflict, when others intend to play them at your expense?
• Wouldn't it be great to be able to recognize an ego game from the start, so that you might either redirect the interaction in a healthy way or avoid being locked into a stressful and unproductive ego game?
• Wouldn't it be great to learn ways of relating that don't involve ego games, even though we are all conditioned and trained to play psychological games?

• Once you understand the structure and style of ego games, you will find them clear and straightforward enough to see in everyday life.
• You will discover the fundamental roles, moves, and motives in psychological games.
• You will become aware of how to play ego games so everyone wins, how to get out of ego games, and how to avoid playing ego games.
• Don't you want to become more aware of when you are in an ego game?
• Don't you want to see the motives of others who engage you in ego games?
• Don't you want to learn how to avoid entering or starting an ego game?
• Instead of wondering what just happened in an uncomfortable interaction, you can learn to analyze the ego game and better prepare for it the next time it rears its ugly head.

• This book will stimulate, enlighten, and challenge you to live ego-game free.
• Discover how to identify ego games before they suck you in, why people play ego games, who plays ego games, and when they play them.
• It's not just the people you love, hate, or know who play these ego games you'll find that you do, too.
• And you'll learn how to free yourself of your favorite ego games in order to be more effective and authentic in your relationships and career.

• While exposing the foolish ego games of another person brings pride, there is also shame in detecting your own ego games.
• Part of the aim of this book is to get you beyond the pride and shame that result from playing ego games.
• This book also presents another style defined as "Cooperation" as a way to relate without ego games.
• This book includes some materials from a counselor-training workshop previously presented by this author.

• The benefit of Using the Map of Social Games & Strategies
• The benefit of Knowing the Players & Roles in Games
• The benefit of Knowing the Rules of Games & Strategies
• The benefit of Knowing the Agenda, Intentions, Motives & Payoffs
• While this book is designed to stand alone, you might find it more easily digested if you first read

• How To Use the Rogerian Method
• How To Save the Work of Carl Rogers
• How To Save Counseling's Greatest Technique
• How To Use Roger's Technique

• This book is about the work of Carl Rogers, not the life of Carl Rogers.
• The personal problems Carl Rogers had with alcohol and his marriage have nothing to do with his counseling method.
• This short book focuses on the method of counseling that Rogers invented.
• The messenger is not the message.
• The distinction means that if Carl Rogers's method is to be evaluated, then it should be evaluated separately from his life.
• Was Rogers a wounded healer? Perhaps so.

• Method and technique are not to be confused with counseling theory.
• A counseling theory is a set of guiding principles that structure the course of counseling.
• A method or technique is a strategy for eliciting a response from a client.
• Counseling theories, therefore, provide general directions for achieving specific goals, while methods or techniques are particular strategies for promoting a change or curative response from a client.

• Carl Rogers gave the counseling world its most effective, efficient, and advanced method.
• Unfortunately, Rogers feared to face the true nature of his method and buried it under false philosophy and theory that diametrically opposed it.
• Rogers' betrayal of his method has led to a corruption of his method, causing it to be diluted, at best, and in many cases lost.
• We must separate the theory of Carl Rogers from the method of Carl Rogers to resurrect and preserve his superior method.

• Rogers was a unique genius who provided the counseling world with its best method, and both he and his theory are rightly honored and valued.
• His theory is simply humanism and self-actualization applied to counseling; something others have done both before and after Rogers.
• Rogers was an idealist, and most of his expounded ideals are noble and helpful.
• For instance, Rogers wanted teachers to be facilitators and resource persons for the discovery process, rather than merely a series of audio recordings.

• Both the method of Rogers and the theory of Rogers are valuable in their own right.
• Please re-experience the Rogerian Method in light of this book, and leave the rest to dust.
• If we could present the method as our own or something new, we would; but that would be a lie.
• Save counseling's greatest method for future generations.
• Let us increase the odds that more than just the lucky few can find a counselor proficient in the Rogerian Method.

• This book will help you discover the true nature of the method.
• But ultimately, you must work this out for yourself.
• You must again watch the videos of Rogers at work.
• You must again analyze his method.

• For centuries, people have been seeking to understand the underlying method by which healing practices from around the world help people.

• This book will teach you the answer.

• You will learn the single unifying principle behind nearly every healing practice in the world.

1. Mind-moving will improve the strength of your attention and focus.
2. Mind-moving will allow you to be the master of your feelings rather than their slave.
3. Mind-moving will allow you to be the master of your mind instead of its slave.
4. Mind-moving will allow you to be the master of your time.
5. Mind-moving is the way that you detach your mind to stay calm.
6. Mind-moving is the way to avoid focusing on what will lead to more problems.
7. Mind-moving leads to a calm mind, which leads to better decision-making and responses.
8. Mind-moving often instantly improves other exercises and practices when it is added to them.

• Wake up to your personal power and practice mind-moving (M-M) every day all day long.

• M-M is the Rosetta Stone that deciphers how healing practices and mental-strengthening practices work.

1. Mind-moving is a fast, simple, and effective practice for a calm mind.
2. Mind-moving can be done without anyone knowing or observing.
3. Mind-moving can be done anywhere without any preparations or requirements.
4. Mind-moving is effective and efficient for help switching to better habits.
5. Mind-moving is effective and efficient for disengaging from games and manipulations.
6. Mind-moving is effective and efficient for releasing negative stress.
7. Mind-moving is effective and efficient for helping you with pain management.
8. Mind-moving is effective and efficient for helping you to sleep at bedtime.

• This book is about moving your mind and how moving your mind helps you in many different ways—yes, moving your mind. You already do it (move your mind).

• Now you need to become aware of doing it so that you can do it more productively.

1. Take charge of your life with mind-moving (M-M).
2. Overcome your addictions with mind-moving (M-M).
3. Overcome your depression or worry with mind-moving (M-M).
4. Discover right meditation with mind-moving (M-M).
5. Discover right yoga with mind-moving (M-M).
6. Discover how to be centered with mind-moving (M-M).
7. Discover how to live with integrity with mind-moving (M-M).
8. Discover your personal power with mind-moving (M-M).

• How To Develop Awareness
• How To Increase Your Mental Capability
• How To Exercise and Improve Your Mind
• How To Exercise and Improve Your Thinking
• How To Increase Insight through Discernment

• If you like to think about a wide variety of ideas and issues, this book is for you.
• If you like to discover new perspectives and outlooks, this book is for you.
• If you like to have your thinking challenged, this book is for you.
• If you enjoy wit and a play on words, this book is for you.
• Read and Enjoy!

• The themes and topics of quotations include: professional mental-health counseling, self-help, General Semantics, Eastern psychology, philosophy, and other topics often in no particular order.
• Various issues of interest to the author are also addressed, such as: coping, ego, identity, performance, psychological, scientific, skill, social, spiritual, talent, and various other issues related to human sensing, feeling, thinking, and behaving.
• The focus varies from year to year, month to month, and day to day.
• Read and Enjoy!

• Occasionally, the author "gets on a kick" and sticks with a topic or issue for one or more days in a row.
• A specific focus might be on the nature of wisdom or how roles and professions get caught in ego games.
• Read and Enjoy!

• The series was started at the request and suggestion of some of Mr. Fitzmaurice's counseling clients.
• This series of daily quotations began in June 2003 and has been ongoing since that time.
• Check the author's website for the latest versions: kevinfitzmaurice.com.
• When a year of postings becomes a book, that year is removed from the website because the postings have been edited and modified.
• The quotations are typically a group of five (or sometimes six) consecutive statements on or about the same theme or topic.
• This repetition is considered conducive to learning and finding different insights and perspectives on the same issue, theme, or topic.
• Read and Enjoy!

• It is essential to understand the usage of the word "change" in this book.
• Change is considered an impossibility for psychological entities such as thoughts, feelings, and sensations.
• However, sometimes, the book recommends change or describes how to change.
• This is consistent because change can have the meaning of transforming into something else, which is wrong for psychological usage.
• And change can also have the meaning of switching to something else, which is right for psychological usage.
• You do not change your dog into a cat.
• You can change from having a dog to having a cat.
• You change your shirt by switching to a different shirt, not by mutating your current shirt into another shirt. Switch, not change.
• Or change in the sense of turning, shifting, transferring, or redirecting, not evolving.

• How To Live a Mature Life
• How To Own the Power of Emotional Responsibility
• How To Stop Owning Garbage that Feels Bad
• 12 New Tables of Information
• More than Twice as Long as the Third Edition

• This book describes maturity in understandable and practical terms.
• If you want to know what it means to be mature, this book is for you.
• If you want to know how to live a mature life, this book is for you.
• If you want to grow up or know what it means to grow up, this book is for you.

• With all our means of communication and education, how is it possible that many fundamental concepts and principles continue to remain a secret or a mystery to most people?
• What kind of educational system can call itself "education" and fail to discuss and explore fundamental human qualities like maturity?

• The research for this book uncovered a myriad of ways of approaching the same basic answer for the secret of maturity: maturity is responsibility.
• Most of the answers to "What is maturity?" come from either psychology or philosophy.
• The answers are listed or briefly described throughout the text, but it is your job to decide what to do with all the answers.
• So be responsible for how you assimilate the answers and put them into practice.

• Quite a few of the paragraphs in this book summarize concepts that are expounded in entire volumes elsewhere.
• Since this book is so condensed, it will be most effective after it has been read and studied many times.

• Might we suggest that you first pursue those concepts that strike you as personally relevant?
• That will do you the best today because those concepts will be emotionally valuable to you.
• Read the suggested references to those concepts, and locate other related works at the library or through Internet searches.

• If you learn and apply the lessons contained in this book, results are guaranteed.
• Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she is in better health because he or she can handle stress better.
• Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better love life because he or she can handle interpersonal relationships and communication better.
• Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better career or work experience because he or she can better handle challenges, conflicts, stressors, work politics, and work pressures.

• How To Stop Serving Garage
• How To Stop Getting Garbage
• How To Refocus on the Positive
• How to Drop Garbage Through Paradox

• Are you in early recovery from an addiction?
• Are you just beginning the process of self-discovery?
• Are you willing to laugh at yourself?
• If Yes, then this ebook is for you.

• Discover how to choose helpful thoughts over hurtful thoughts.
• Discover hundreds of ways that you focus on garbage and so receive garbage.
• You become aware of this pattern (give garbage and get garbage) through variation and repetition.
• You learn to switch to more effective and fruitful patterns.

• This book is about rules for understanding how garbage runs your life if you let it.
• If your mind is focused on garbage, then you will think more garbage.
• If your soul is focused on garbage, then you will experience more garbage.
• If your heart is focused on garbage, then you will feel more garbage.

• This restatement is helpful for four reasons:

1. Repetition aids both learning and memory.
2. Sometimes you will miss an idea presented in several formats, but grasp it in another unique format.
3. You can be so lost in self-talk that you don't notice an idea the first few times you encounter it.
4. You might finally understand an idea after multiple encounters with it.

• Garbage Rules could be about exposing some terrible rules.
• Garbage Rules could be about some rules for handling garbage.
• Garbage Rules could be about how garbage is in control of our lives.

• The Garbage Rules are organized into categories that serve as chapters.
• In total, there are 1,613 rules about garbage.
• We recommend you read this book cover to cover the first time you read it.
• This will prevent you from missing the Garbage Rules you most need to face and surrender.
• Many of the ideas contained in Garbage Rules deserve further exploration and even abstract analysis.
• However, the deep pursuit of ideas is neither the purpose nor the design of this book.

• You can discover the profound philosophy behind most of the rules by reading some of the author's other books, or by reading some of the books suggested at the end.
• It is the rare person who can use a self-help book to remove and replace rather than just to recognize their self-defeating behaviors.
• Therefore, go to albertellis.org and find a certified REBT, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, counselor in your area.
• This book is not meant to replace counseling, therapy, or medical treatment.

• How To Live a Positive Life
• How To End the #1 Cause of Failure and Error
• How To Motivate More Efficiently and Effectively
• How To Stop Doing the Opposite of What You Want to Do
• How To Practice REBT More Efficiently and Effectively

• Don't feel a need for therapy?
• Don't have time for self-improvement programs?
• You can change your life by changing one thing now!
• Read Not to change your life by changing your relationship to no-ts.
• Not will give you twelve principles to improve the central-life-issue of how you deal with no-ts.
• Improving this one issue will positively impact every area of your life.

• If you want to improve your relationships, health, and happiness, then purchase and read Not today!
• Enjoy the ongoing benefits of improving your relationship to one constant life-issue.
• Not can help with parenting, teaching, coaching, managing, relationships, addictions, codependency, relaxation, problem-solving, emotions, anxiety, anger, depression, and stress coping, among other issues.

• Correct and incorrect no-t usage is the focus of this book.
• Twelve principles of no-t usage are presented and explained.
• No-t principles are ordered from simple to complex.
• The twelve principles overlap, so repetition and redundancy exist.
• Repetition is beneficial to learning the principles, understanding the principles, remembering the principles, the right practice of the principles, and making the principles your new habits.
• The no-t principles require your testing and proving in order to be effective for you.
• Fearlessly challenge them for the greatest benefit.

• Not is your opportunity to change one thing to change your life and impact all those around you. Read Not today!
• REBT practitioners use Not to understand how to update and refine your practice of REBT for greater effectiveness and efficiency.
• For example, use this book to understand why you should be looking for "should nots" instead of "shoulds."
• Also, understand how it is "nots" that cause things to be viewed as terrible, horrible, and awful.
• Philosophers can understand Not as an exposition on the nature of evil.
• Ever wonder why you do the opposite of what you want to do? Ever wonder why others do the opposite of what you want them to do?
• Read Not for the definitive answer.

• After you change your relationship to no-ts, your life will change.
• Changing your life for the better will promote positive change in all those you relate to.
• Progress is doing the bad less and the good more.
• Progress is doing the wrong less and the right more
• Practicing right no-t usage more and wrong no-t usage less is progress.

• How To Regain and Maintain Your Real Self
• How To Recognize the Form and Nature of Self
• How To Recognize the Structure of Self
• How To Recognize the Friends and Enemies of Self

• This book is about the form, nature, and structure of the human self.
• The form, nature, and structure of being human are explored as a way for you to redirect to and re-own your true self.
• The states of being of your natural self are explored as a way to help you to retreat to and return to your true nature.
• The functions of self are explored as a way to help you to rediscover and reinforce your original self in action, awareness, and experience.

• This book provides you with knowledge and directions for rediscovering and being your natural self.
• You can discover and understand what real self is and what real self is not.
• You can discover how to focus on states of being that promote your authentic self.
• Read and re-read this book to discover how to recognize and redirect your awareness and identity to your natural child-self.

• Learn to encourage original self-states of being rather than ego states of being.
• Become aware of how to avoid the blocks and habits that work against awareness of your real self.
• Know what environments and conditioning inhibit or deny your true self so that you can uproot, switch from, and replace them.
• Make the right space in your life for authentic self, and authentic self will be revealed and rediscovered by you.

• Self is not something that can be found, because self is not any thing.
• If you seek what is not lost, then it becomes lost.
• If you seek on a false path, then all you find is false.
• When seeking true self, you do not want to seek something, or you will find some thing.

• Self is not a concept, description, idea, image, label, term, thought, type, or personality.
• Self is not a collection of characteristics, habits, tendencies, or traits.
• Self is a living reality that can only be experienced.
• Self is not composed of thinking; therefore, self cannot be found with thinking, cannot be found as thinking, and can never be known with thinking.

• You must learn what to seek before you begin seeking, or your seeking will mislead you.
• You will find what you seek.
• "Seek and ye shall find," says Matthew 7:7.
• Therefore, seek your real self by learning about and contacting your real self in your daily life.

• Your real self is with you now.
• Your real self is neither lost nor dead.
• Rediscover your authentic self in your experience and emotions.
• Find your original self in action.
• Then seek to redirect your attention and identity to your natural self in all that you do.

• How To Live a Mature Life
• How To Own the Power of Emotional Responsibility
• How To Stop Buying into Garbage

• This book describes maturity in understandable and practical terms.
• If you want to know what it means to be mature, this book is for you.
• If you want to know how to live a mature life, this book is for you.
• If you want to grow up or know what it means to grow up, this book is for you.

• With all our means of communication and education, how is it possible that many fundamental concepts and principles continue to remain a secret or a mystery to most people?
• What kind of educational system can call itself "education" and fail to discuss and explore fundamental human qualities like maturity?

• The research for this book uncovered a myriad of ways of approaching the same basic answer for the secret of maturity: maturity is responsibility.
• Most of the answers to "What is maturity?" come from either psychology or philosophy.
• The answers are listed or briefly described throughout the text.
• It is your job to decide what to do with all the answers.
• Start practicing what you understand, and more will come to you.

• Quite a few of the paragraphs in this book summarize concepts that are expounded in entire volumes elsewhere.
• Since this book is so condensed, it will be most effective when it is revisited after more experience of practicing maturity.

• Might we suggest that you first pursue those concepts that strike you as personally relevant?
• They will do you the most good today because those concepts will be emotionally valuable to you.
• Read the suggested references to those concepts, and locate other related works at the library or through Internet searches.

• If you learn and apply the lessons contained in this book, results are guaranteed.
• Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she is in better health because he or she can handle stress better.
• Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better love life because he or she can handle interpersonal relationships and communication better.
• Anyone who learns to live maturely will find that he or she has a better career or work experience because he or she can better handle challenges, conflicts, stressors, work politics, and work pressures.

• How To Think
• How To Correctly Use Thinking
• How To Think Saner & Better
• How To Avoid Mistaking Thoughts for Things
• How To Make Friends with Deconstructivism

• Discover six reasons why you are insane.
• Insanity is being out of touch with reality.
• Active insanity is clinging to illusions and delusions.
• Illusions are misperceptions, misconceptions, and mistakes about reality.
• Delusions are misperceptions, misconceptions, and mistakes about reality that we have evidence against but cling to anyway.

• You can live sanely in an insane world.
• You must choose against the common illusions and delusions of your society and your conditioning.
• All the common illusions and delusions of the world are constructed through the misunderstanding and misuse of thought.
• Discover how thought becomes a problem when thought replaces reality.
• Discover enough information and examples to be able to negate thought as reality, which enables you to re-experience "what is."

• This work is an example of the power of the path of deconstructivism.
• In contrast to constructivism, deconstructivism frees the heart, soul, and mind to return to their original natures and natural senses.
• When you clean out the clutter that you are burdened with from your constructivistic conditioning, you will find a new "you" and a new world.
• Eastern philosophy, Existentialism, General Semantics, iconoclasts, and cognitive psychotherapy all make use of deconstructivism to achieve their goals.
• Be forewarned: If you choose to walk the path of deconstructivism, many will resent your bursting their reality bubbles along the way.

• Words have no inherent meaning, but words must refer to some meaning, else they are just noise.
• When one changes the referents of words, then the meanings of those words change.
• A change in context can change the referents of words, making the meaning change too.

• Two identical phrases, sentences, or groups of words might have different meanings due to such a difference in referents.
• Thus, people often claim or point out conflict in meaning where there is none.
• Their mistake is in thinking identical or similar word usage must have an identical or similar meaning in all situations wherein they appear.
• They easily and quickly forget that dictionaries list more than one meaning for most words.

• "Out of sight, out of mind," does not conflict with "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."
• Why? Because the referents of the first saying are preoccupied with the present and therefore forget the past.
• Conversely, the referents of the second saying are dwelling on the past and therefore miss or wish for the past.
• Both are true in context.

• How To End Ego
• How To Find Your Authentic Self
• How To Free Your Mind and Heart
• How To Reduce and Remove Ego

• This book is the first of its kind in the world.
• You will discover the real root of the ego.
• You will learn how to apply Western psychology to remove ego now.

• Instead of spending twenty years meditating to drop the ego, you can now uproot ego as fast as you are willing and able.
• The practices and plans in this book work with any ancient practices or techniques that you are now using or might use in the future.
• Get the freedom from ego you want now!

• This book provides you with a Seven-Step Plan to overcome the biggest problem in adult life: your ego.
• You will discover how the ego hampers your goals, health, and happiness.
• You will be motivated to live free of ego and to return to your original nature.
• You will realize how to recognize, remove, and replace the ego.
• You will develop three plans to live sane in an insane world.

• In Step One, you discover how the ego is the main problem in your life and the differences between ego and self.
• In Step Two, you learn how you keep ego alive in favor of self.
• In Step Three, you realize how to remove your methods for maintaining ego.
• In Step Four, you determine how to remove ego from your life.
• In Step Five, you discern how to replace ego with your authentic self.
• In Step Six, you understand how to replace your supports for ego with supports for self.
• Step Seven of the Plan
• In Step Seven, you learn how to develop three plans to make it all work.
• Plan #1 is an action plan to follow Steps 1-6.
• Plan #2 is a relapse plan to keep you on your action plan.
• Plan #3 is a recovery plan to get you back on your action and relapse plans if you fall off them.

• Are you teachable?
• Are you serious about giving up ego now?
• Are you ready, open, and willing to learn how to give up your ego?
• Buy are read Ego today and Enjoy living with less ego!

• How To Understand Duality
• How To Move Beyond Duality to Triality
• How To Make Dialectics Work for You
• How To Use the 5 Thinking Positions for Sanity

• This book is about discovering your world within your physical body.
• Please read it to discover what an inner life is and how to enjoy having a productive and purposeful inner life.
• For example, you will discover what an inner life consists of, how it works, how it fails, how to get working again, and how to keep it working.
• Read this book to discover how to make your heart, soul, and mind work for you, not against you or each other.
• Read and discover the first new psychology of the mind to be revealed in decades.

• World Within presents a model of inner life based upon dialectics.
• Dialectics can be understood as an internal dialogue between a set of dualities, a pair of opposites, or a yin and yang dichotomy.
• Dialectics is explained and explored at length to provide awareness and insight into the nature of attention, internal processes, and thinking.
• Our model for dialectics is called Ping-Pack-Pong (P-P-P).
• This model covers the middle ground and process of dialectics, as well as the dichotomies themselves that are the two opposites.
• The P-P-P model is used in order to provide an effective means of analysis and understanding for how internal dialectics work or fail depending upon how they are organized, processed, structured, and used.
• Many chapters also address various identity issues.

• The first chapter explores the parts and components that make up your inner life, stressing the importance of having an inner life along with understanding its purpose and function.
• The first chapter also examines the nature of self in relation to your internal conversations and dialogue, as well as your three internal attentions and how they function, relate, and work either together or at cross purposes.
• The second chapter explains dialectics as the means and mechanism of thought.
• The third chapter focuses on how inner dialectics are beneficial and how they can work effectively and efficiently.
• The fourth chapter focuses on how to be aware of, explore, and map your inner dialectics using the Ping-Pack-Pong paradigm.
• The fifth chapter focuses on the problem and the issue of Complex Ping-Pack-Pongs.
• The sixth chapter focuses on solutions that fail to help the problems of dysfunctional dialectics.
• The seventh chapter focuses on the problems of "not-ing" (of trying to undo P-P-Ps).
• The eighth chapter focuses on solutions that work to get dialectics functioning properly and constructively again.
• The ninth chapter applies some of the book's understanding of dialectics to the problem of addiction.
• The tenth and final chapter of the main text provides spiritual solutions to problematic dialectics as well as a spiritual understanding of dialectical processes.

• The back matter or end matter of the book contains information about the author, recommendations for more of the author's books according to their intended usage, books listed as references and reco