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Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship Kindle Edition
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About the Author
The bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure, among other books, John Gottman is a professor of psychology, an elected fellow of the American Psychological Association, and the recipient of numerous awards and commendations. His research and findings have been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Time, the bestselling book Blink, and in the broadcast media.
Julie Schwartz Gottman established the Gottman Institute’s Marriage Clinic and serves as its clinical director. A clinical psychologist, she is in private practice in Seattle, where she and John live.
Joan DeClaire is a writer specializing in psychology, health, and family issues. --This text refers to the paperback edition.
- ASIN : B000GCFW1E
- Publisher : Harmony (May 16, 2006)
- Publication date : May 16, 2006
- Language : English
- File size : 9447 KB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
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- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 288 pages
- Lending : Not Enabled
- Best Sellers Rank: #97,920 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
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My dear wife and I have been married 33 years, have led home couples studies, etc.
We gained a lot from this book. If you feel emotionally distant from your spouse get this book right away and read through it together. A chapter a night if you can. It brings up so many good things to talk about and shows good behavior to do it. We thought we were basically OK, maybe acting a little like good room mates, but good grief we needed this practical shove in the rear.
Remember there are always two people in a relationship and this is the sticky place this book doesn’t get into. Both parties have to commit to these ideas.
My significant other and I went to see a Gottman trained level 2 therapist because of this book and it was a big mistake! We were in two places emotionally and he wasn’t able to be vulnerable enough to truly commit to these ideas. Instead, he was so shut down that the therapist would go to great lengths to involve him and to my expense. She would align her opinions to his, suggest sleeping pills for me and even talk in a flirty voice. The interventions only made this worse. It was like disarming nuclear weapons everyryrime we met. I was in agony for the five months we engaged with her. I felt like I was punched in the face every session. She even told me to get a hobby when I said my partners attention to other vices took time away from us.
After much research, I realized the Gottman approach is not what a couple on two different emotional levels needed. Instead, I read a book about emotional focused therapy called hold me tight. We started to see an EFT therapist. Wow!!!! In 3 sessions I had hope again after being battered by the Other therapist for 5 months. I would suggest to start with EFT if you are in a similar situation.
I was initially disappointed that instead of ten points, it was ten stories of couples that came in for counseling. But as I read them, I realized that each couple was there to illustrate an important way to improve a relationship. Thus, I want to go back through it to study by doing the exercises completely instead of just a quick pass in my head.
Top reviews from other countries
Much of the advice was a "no-brainer", but most of the advice was stuff we just don't think about, or if we do, we don't express it properly to our partner. The book provided some really good examples, and how to deal with them.
It wasn't full of "scientific stats", just the plain truth.