Enter your mobile number below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
Getting the download link through email is temporarily not available. Please check back later.

  • Apple
  • Android
  • Windows Phone
  • Android

To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.

Buy Used
$4.12
FREE Shipping on orders over $25.
Condition: Used: Very Good
Comment: Unbeatable customer service, and we usually ship the same or next day. Over one million satisfied customers!
Have one to sell? Sell on Amazon
Flip to back Flip to front
Listen Playing... Paused   You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition.
Learn more
See this image

Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti Member Book: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences Paperback – April 2, 2007

4.4 out of 5 stars 236 customer reviews

See all 9 formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
Price
New from Used from
Kindle
"Please retry"
Paperback, April 2, 2007
$17.50 $0.01

click to open popover

Editorial Reviews

Review

"I just completed reading Bill and Pam Farrel's, Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti. I found myself laughing out loud at the illustrations and descriptions of the different ways men and women react to each other and the tasks involved in married life. I thoroughly enjoyed the way the Farrel's balanced sound research with amusing anecdotes and biblical reference's insight. I know I will be using this book often for marriage seminars and retreats and recommending it to couples to read on their own."
Ronald E. Martin-Minnich, solider, airmen and family ministry



"Let Pam and Bill Farrel share their passion with you for helping men and women connect. Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti is a gourmet treat for all who want to find unity in their diversity."
David and Claudia Arp, Authors of 10 Great Dates to Revitalize Your Marriage and The Second Half of Marriage



"A must read for those who want to make bad marriages good and good marriages better."
Jill Briscoe, author of Prayer That Works

--This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

About the Author

Bill and Pam Farrel are co-founders and co-directors of Masterful Living, an organization that provides practical insights for modern couples. They are popular international marriage conference speakers and have written numerous books and feature articles. They ve also ministered to thousands of couples through radio, TV, and pastoral ministry.

They are the parents of 3 sons, ages 15 to 22, and have over 26 years experience in helping couples. Pam and Bill enjoy family time, reading, and exercising together . . . especially when it consists of a long walk at the beach. Find out more at www.farrelcommunications.com.
NO_CONTENT_IN_FEATURE

New York Times best sellers
Browse the New York Times best sellers in popular categories like Fiction, Nonfiction, Picture Books and more. See more

Product Details

  • Paperback: 128 pages
  • Publisher: LifeWay Christian Resources (April 2, 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1415852480
  • ISBN-13: 978-1415852484
  • Product Dimensions: 7.1 x 0.3 x 9.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (236 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,528,643 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

Top Customer Reviews

Format: Paperback
This is an engaging read that held not only my attention, but my husband's as well. The book provides even more insight than the well-known tour of the planets and is also much more humorous. We're in our third decade of marriage and still learned much from the creative ideas and colorful stories. A great find for couples' Bible studies and fellowship groups.
Comment 24 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
Excellent book! I have read several relationship books and this is the FIRST one that I have totally agreed with. It's amazing. They've described the workings of my relationship with my girlfriend perfectly. (now she's my wife) It has done wonders. I know I will never totally understand her, but at least now I understand why she sees things the way she does. Also, it's almost worth buying just for the humorous sections. :o) Thanks Bill and Pam Farrel!
Comment 37 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
The premise of this book is that men are like waffles- they think in boxes, that is, they can only efficiently think about one subject or category at a time; and that women are like spaghetti- they think about everything in an interconnected manner.
Before I say anything else, reader be warned that this review is based on my own tastes and preferences, and is not necessarily unbiased.

I hate generalizations and this book is full of them, from the title to the marriage jokes. The extent of generalizations made me actually physically angry at several points.
However, I do like new ways of looking at problems and this book has that, if presented in a limited manner. If you can get beyond the assumption that all men are waffle-thinkers and all women spaghetti-thinkers, I believe this book can lead to a thought provoking discussion on how different styles of thinking can interrupt communication, especially between marriage partners.
1 Comment 65 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
I have to say this book has one of the best explanations for the working of the male and female mind that I could have asked for. My marriage counselor recommended my husband and I read Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. When I went to the bookstore to purchase the book I found this one instead. It looked so much more interesting. I changed my mind on which one to buy.
When I went back a few weeks later I discussed the book at length with my counselor and she was really impressed with how much the Waffles and Spaghetti had really helped me. This was probably the first time I had really understood my husband's need to watch NASCAR. He has a really stressful job and works six days a week, for the first time I understood why he didn't want to spend the seventh running all over town with me.
In addition, the Farrels put in some great problem solving tips. I am also trying really hard to get my husband to agree with some of the other tips they write about including planning weekends and code words.
There were some things that I did disagree with. First, I was unaware the book was a faith based publication. The authors are ministers and spend a lot of time pushing God. This isn't a bad thing, but I found it distracting at times. I felt that they were spending too much time telling readers to place everything in God's hands and not enough about doing things for yourself.
I also objected to their statements that a married person shouldn't have a personal conversation one on one with a person of the opposite sex. Both my husband and I have jobs that require us to spend large amounts of time alone with people of the opposite sex. Part of his responsibilities require him to probe for personal information and form close contact with men and women of the opposite sex.
Read more ›
Comment 23 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
I think this book is fine if you need basic relationship advice and have a marriage based on very traditional gender roles and want a pretty quick, cute read. The problem is that the authors present the different gender traits of men and women as fact and ordained by God, rather than recognizing that gender roles have changed over time and vary considerably by culture. Thus, to say men are "this way," and women are "that way," and this is how God intended it, does not take into account the many, many women and men who aren't "that way."

By making these blanket statements about how men and women are, it raises the question of whether something is wrong with me as a woman, or with my husband, as a man, if we aren't how these two authors say we're supposed to be. Are my husband and I somehow deviant from God's plan if I'm the one who thinks spatially and reads maps better and he doesn't compartmentalize his life the way men are "supposed" to.

Their approach is simplistic... simplistic to the point of almost being meaningless. We started this book in our adult Sunday school class today, and everyone who had a comment about the book (well over half the class) thought that the book missed a real opportunity to help us build stronger relationships by not focusing on differences (based on each individual's strengths) and how to work through them, and instead couching these differences narrowly in how men and women are supposed to act. The book can't really "help" me if I don't see myself and my individual gifts recognized in its pages.

Lastly, the biblical references in each chapter are minimal. If you're looking for a Bible study that helps you build a stronger marriage, keep looking. If you're looking for a simple "marriage help" book with a few cute stories and a couple of references to God and a one or two verse quotation from the Bible, you've found your book.
Comment 6 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse

Most Recent Customer Reviews