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Lily Hates Goodbyes: All Military Edition Paperback – Picture Book, March 6, 2012
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Book website: jerilynmarler dot com
Includes video (4 min). Have tissues handy!
Two versions available! Navy Version (daddy wears Navy uniform) and All Military Version (daddy wears generic BDUs).
March 2012: Lily Hates Goodbyes was named among the best in family-friendly media, products and services by the Mom's Choice Awards®!
Lily is a young military child. Sometimes she has to say goodbye to her Daddy for about a billion days. She feels a swirl of unhappy emotions that can be scary. And she aches to feel connected to her Daddy while he's on deployment. Join Lily as she learns how to cope with her emotions and to be happy in her daily life while she looks forward to joyfully saying hello when Daddy gets home.
This 32-page, full-color storybook will be a welcome companion to your military kid. Young readers are comforted by Lily's experience and reassured to see Lily's happy reunion with her Daddy.
One mom wrote that her daughter carries the book with her everywhere because she never knows when she's going to feel sad about her Daddy being away. Another mom said that Lily is such a big part of her children's lives that they talk about having "Lily moments." Lily can help your military children, too.
Melissa, mom to a two year old, wrote, "I can't tell you how much my daughter loves Lily Hates Goodbyes! We were already doing the sticker calendar but as soon as she heard Memories for Daddy box...well, we now have one! The difference you are making in our lives and others in the same situation is just not measurable. I truly believe that your book is going to help us survive this deployment."
- Print length31 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- Grade levelPreschool and up
- Dimensions8.5 x 0.08 x 8.5 inches
- Publication dateMarch 6, 2012
- ISBN-101936214784
- ISBN-13978-1936214785
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Editorial Reviews
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"This is an outstanding story! ...You will love it. Best of all, you will appreciate it so much." --Biblio Reads Children's Book Review
"Jerilyn Marler's children's book, Lily Hates Goodbyes, is a must have for children with a parent in the military and also for elementary school counselors." -- Moments: Book Review
"Marler has created a special book that is guaranteed to help the families of the men and women who bravely and selflessly serve our country." -- Portland Book Review, 5-star review for Lily Hates Goodbyes
"Lily Hates Goodbyes...is well written and can be read by the child (2nd grade or higher) or by a parent to the child. I highly recommend it." B.G. Quesenbery Jr., Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist, Charleston, SC
From the Author
The result is exactly what I hoped for: Lily's more at ease with her emotions, knows what she can do when she feels them, knows that it's safe to say whatever she feels, knows that her Mommy will be there steadfastly and lovingly by her side through it all, and that there is a joyful reunion coming with her Daddy.
I fervently hope that this book will help your child through the long, difficult separations, too.
From the Back Cover
Join Lily as she learns how to cope with her emotions and to be happy in her daily life while she looks forward to joyfully saying hello when Daddy gets home.
See the last page for the author's suggestions to help your child get the most value from this book!
About the Author
She's been a writer and editor since 1979. In the 1990s she wrote three books about WordPerfect for MIS:Press, a subsidiary of Henry Holt Publishers. Over the years she has edited dozens of technical books; edited a children's book, a medical text book, and a book on divorce at the same time and managed to stay sane; and has written/edited end user documentation for more products than she can count.
Jerilyn wrote Lily Hates Goodbyes for her (then) 4-year-old granddaughter who was distraught by her daddy's deployment aboard the USS MOMSEN. The book helped Lily talk about her feelings, develop healthy ways to cope with those feelings, feel connected to her daddy despite the distance between them, be reminded that her mommy was steadfastly beside her and that a joyful hello was coming. The book helped Lily so much that Jerilyn published it for all young children who suffer through long separations from a loved one.
Lily Hates Goodbyes was first released in January 2011. A new version was released in August 2011 through Jerilyn's publishing company, Quincy Companion Books, an imprint of Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing. In March 2012 Jerilyn released an update of the original book, now called the Navy Version, and a new All Military Version in which the daddy wears a generic BDU uniform.
Product details
- Publisher : Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing; All Military ed. edition (March 6, 2012)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 31 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1936214784
- ISBN-13 : 978-1936214785
- Reading age : 2 - 5 years, from customers
- Grade level : Preschool and up
- Item Weight : 3.2 ounces
- Dimensions : 8.5 x 0.08 x 8.5 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #873,944 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #2,438 in Children's Parents Books
- #7,315 in Children's Books on Emotions & Feelings (Books)
- #18,962 in Children's Action & Adventure Books (Books)
- Customer Reviews:
About the author

Jerilyn Marler is a writer, editor, and publisher in Beaverton, Oregon, and the author of books to help military families cope with deployment.
LILY HATES GOODBYES
"Lily Hates Goodbyes" is a storybook for young children (ages 2-7) coping with separation from a loved one. It's available in two versions: Navy Version (daddy wears a Navy uniform) and All Military Version (daddy wears generic BDUs).
In March 2012 "Lily Hates Goodbyes" was named among the best in family-friendly media, products and services by the Mom's Choice Awards®!
Portland Book Review gives "Lily Hates Goodbyes" a five-star rating (the highest possible). "The book is filled with ideas that can help any child with an absent loved one. Nathan Stoltenberg’s beautiful illustrations warm the heart. An especially important message that Marler subtly highlights is how important the at-home parent/family are when helping a child cope with their feelings. Marler has created a special book that is guaranteed to help the families of the men and women who bravely and selflessly serve our country."
In 2010, when her Navy officer son was on deployment and her 4-year-old granddaughter was distraught by his absence, Jerilyn wrote "Lily Hates Goodbyes." It began as a Word document with personal photos intended just for Lily. The book helped Lily talk about her feelings, develop healthy ways to cope with those feelings, feel connected to her daddy despite the distance between them, be reminded that her mommy was steadfastly beside her, and that a joyful hello was coming. The book helped Lily so much that Jerilyn decided to publish it for all young children who suffer through long separations from a loved one. She hired Nathan Stoltenberg, a Seattle-based graphic artist and illustrator. "Lily Hates Goodbyes" was first released in January 2011. A new version was released in August 2011 through Jerilyn's publishing company, Quincy Companion Books, an imprint of Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing.
HELPING YOUR YOUNG CHILD COPE WITH A PARENT'S DEPLOYMENT
This handbook helps military parents understand the challenges their children face before and during deployment. It also offers 22 fun, easy ways to help children feel connected with the away parent. At the end of the book is a handy alphabetized list of resources that every military family should keep nearby. "Helping Your Young Child Cope with a Parent's Deployment" is available in paperback, Kindle, Nook, and iBook formats.
JERILYN MARLER
Jerilyn's 30-year creative path has led through writing educational materials for Alaska elementary schools; writing three books about WordPerfect for an imprint of Henry Holt Publishers; editing dozens of books for technical publishers; editing a children's book, a medical text book, and a book on divorce at the same time; and writing/editing end user documentation for more products than she can count.
Jerilyn has worked in major high technology companies and tiny start-ups; she's been a real estate agent, programmer, project manager, program manager, and user interface designer. Her name is on three patents held by Intel Corporation, where she worked for nearly 15 years. The persistent thread through all of her work has been communication: it always comes back to words.
From sixth grade through her junior year of high school Jerilyn attended Kodaikanal International School, a boarding school in the mountains of southern India. Memories of her long, painful separations from her parents helped her relate to Lily's experience 46 years later. For years after leaving Kodaikanal Jerilyn still considered India her home, much to the confusion of college classmates. A year in Madrid, Spain followed a few years later. Jerilyn has circled the globe many times since that first trip to India and she relishes travel whenever she has the opportunity.
Jerilyn's son is a Navy officer stationed in South Carolina. His daughter Lily is the inspiration for "Lily Hates Goodbyes." Jerilyn lives in Beaverton, just a few miles from Portland, Oregon, with Dan, her husband, and their two tabby cats.
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Lily hates goodbyes.
Sometimes she feels mean and stubborn while Daddy is gone.
She says naughty things and yells
"No!" at Mommy even when
Mommy is right.
Mommy says it's okay.
She feels stubborn, too.
(next page)
Lily and Mommy try not to be stubborn at the same time.
Mommy says it helps when Lily gives her a big hug.
So now my daughter seems to think its okay to yell at me when she gets angry about Daddy being gone because Lily did to her mom and her mom said its okay because she feels that way too... Ehhh no, not in my house. I've expressed to my daughter that its okay to feel all different ways and to express your feelings, but when you feel angry or super sad that you need to talk to mommy and let mommy help. When we're angry in our house we do productive stuff like arts and crafts or go in the back yard and play soccer or t-ball... Not yelling. If that one part in the book was different I would have given it 5 stars. IMO something better to put would have been along the lines of its okay to feel that way but we don't say naughty things or yell, Instead lets _____ <-- something else other than its okay to yell at mom.
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I love that, while the soldier in the story is American, the story doesn't push that they are in the US - It only says "In the military" in the story and it isn't centred around the US Army or deployments to the Middle East like some of the other books we looked at. There was enough detail to show that he was an American soldier, but it was subtle enough that, in my opinion, this story could apply directly to any military family, even outside of the US. This was HUGE for us as Canadians.
Lily Hates Goodbyes is more about Lily's feelings while her daddy is away with ideas on how to cope with it and it has been incredibly beneficial for my daughter learning to handle her emotions. It really helped her understand what she is feeling and now instead of just screaming and tantruming when she gets upset, she is better able to vocalize it and tell me what's wrong.
This book has made such a difference in our lives and helped my daughter so much! I would 100% recommend this book, especially for anyone with a young daughter who is struggling to cope with her military father's absences - it was perfect for my 3 year old.
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