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I'd Listen to My Parents If They'd Just Shut Up: What to Say and Not Say When Parenting Teens Paperback – November 1, 2011
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“Why do you always have to be at me about stuff when I’m in the middle of doing something?”
“You don’t have to yell at me! Everything has to be exactly when you want it! I hate this house!”
Is there any aspect of parenting more frustrating than when even the simplest conversation with your teenager quickly deteriorates into a take-no-prisoners war? Bestselling author Anthony E. Wolf sympathizes, and in his new book he provides hope, humor, and practical tips for dealing with the everyday challenges of raising teens in the twenty-first century.
I’d Listen to My Parents if They’d Just Shut Up will help you understand who your teenagers really are under all the attitude, and what new rules apply to successfully communicating with them in today’s constantly evolving world of the Internet, electronics, and social media. A book designed to make life with your teenage child a significantly more enjoyable experience, I’d Listen to My Parents if They’d Just Shut Up offers specific scenarios to illustrate which responses will work and which ones are doomed to failure the next time your thirteen-to-nineteen-year-old refuses to listen or won’t take “no” for an answer.
About the Author
Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist for children and adolescents. A former columnist for Child magazine and a current columnist for the Toronto Globe and Mail, he is the author of numerous parenting books, including Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? and Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce?
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Top Customer Reviews
Example (getting teens to do simple chores): "Rewards such as tying cooperation around the house to an allowance or special bonuses for extra tasks could work. Punishments might also include groundings or taking away access to cell phones, favored sites on the Internet, or video games. Rewards and punishments do indeed work but temporarily. In the long run, as a means of getting today's teenagers to do what they do not feel like doing, rewards and punishments tend not to be very effective...escalating punishments for continued lack of cooperation - longer grounding, lengthy restrictions, taking away a long anticipated class trip - is a mistake. The risk is too great that the child is likely to be bitter toward the parents. A strong adversarial relationship does not produce better cooperation. It produces sullen, passive rebellion."
The author goes on to show that firm, polite, pleasant, persistent PERSISTENT request and follow up on doing chores with a teen is the successful way. He goes on to address how to handle when they do a lousy job on chores as well.
Example (how to work with one of the MOST common things younger teens say): "But Why. Why Not. Why? Another holdover from early childhood it continues into adolescence.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Great read as you enter the tweens, teen with your kids! Necessary reinforcement that you are not alone and most often handling right, great reminders during the crazy moments when... Read morePublished 1 month ago by L. Stickles
This is a great book. My husband and I parent so differently, it makes sense to both of us. Personally, my teen daughter is a serious challenge and this reaffirmed for me that my... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Corrie C. Hayes
This book started out strong and then took such a dramatic nosedive that I'm starting my review now (I've just reached page 34) because I'm so frustrated--and I need somewhere to... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Suzanne G.
great handbook for parents to have - reframes how to get away from the battles and change the relationship to one of nurturing and responsibilityPublished 5 months ago by Irene
Finally have stopped chasing our tails and can focus on the real stuff. Tips and examples to improved communication approach and style that becomes more natural over time with... Read morePublished 6 months ago by Sheri
I have two teenagers. This was a great book for me to help understand them. I even had my kids read part of it just so they would know they were normal. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Christina Haynie
This book touches on a lot of the themes of Get Out of My Life, but goes into more depth. It also talks about newer issues, like social media and electronics. Highly recommend it. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Kimm Hunt
Practical, helpful and realistic discussions and ideas about how to handle the difficult teenage years.Published 10 months ago by Amazon Customer