In the following example as mention in the first chapter of the book, I do find the woman too strong:
Quoted: Kara is a perfect example of why smart, confident women come out on top. Very early on, her fiancé tried to give her his two cents on how she should dress. She was leaving for a meeting, and he told her to wear a dress instead of the pantsuit she had on. Then he told her she was wearing too much makeup. What the nice girl would have done is run out and buy a new wardrobe. But Kara playfully put him in check: "Listen here, Versace. This outfit has always been fine. And I haven't had any complaints about the makeup either. But if you'd like, I'll let you know when I'm wearing this in advance. That way, if you don't want to see me in it, you don't have to come over."
I would have considered dumping her because she sounded sarcastic when she said "Versace" and sounded egoistic and arrogant when she said "you don't have to come over". She sounded like she doesn't like the guy at all by saying "you don't have to come over."
Also, when she says, "I haven't had any complaints either", it was like, "other people think it is ok, so your opinion doesn't count."
Are there softer yet confident ways to state it?