- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: Adams Media (June 18, 2011)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1440512655
- ISBN-13: 978-1440512650
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 7.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 12.5 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 156 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #783,554 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags: Relationship Warning Signs You Totally Spotted... But Chose to Ignore Paperback – June 18, 2011
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“Splendid book! I love it!” --E. Jean Carroll, advice columnist for ELLE magazine
"Though these three twenty somethings have been blinded by love in the past, their hindsight is perfectly keen...The Little Black Book enumerates dating portents with moxie." --Marie Claire
"The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags [is] essentially the dating guide for the Sex and the City generation. Take the [authors'] advice...they could save you a lot of time and heartache. --Jill Dobson, CBS's The Early Show
"This captivating book is based on an abundance of bad date anecdotes pulled together at BigRedFlags.com. While the book offers warnings for single women, it is primarily a fun, somewhat voyeuristic window into the disastrous side of the dating world." --Library Journal
“The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags may very well become the dating girls' handbook. Run out and get a copy of the book before you say yes, or no, to your next date, ladies!” --Examiner.com
“According to a new book called The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags: ‘How a guy treats you right after sex can be just as important as how he treats you during it.’ It's so true!” --Michael Musto, The Village Voice
“Funny and engaging yet brutally honest, The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags marries useful advice and startling stories that will assure readers they're not alone in the often-rocky quest to find Prince Charming.” --YourTango.com
"The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags can help you understand women, which will help you get dates and help you get laid, and if you're really special, get laid on your dates." --MTV's Clutch Blog
"Dating gurus Natasha Burton, Julie Fishman and Meagan McCrary tell it like it is for dating newbies and experienced romantics alike. These writers break the tired self-help, pity-party mold." --The Philadelphia Tribune
"From bad boys to the emotionally infantile, these women manage to dish it out on the warning signs many women ignore. They find fun, light-hearted ways to talk about these tender topics in a blunt, honest tone." --The Frederick News-Post
About the Author
Natasha Burton is a serial monogamist who's currently the Relationships Editor of Glo.com, a women's lifestyle website partnered with MSN and ELLE magazine.
Julie Fishman is a tomboy turned comedy writer who teaches at a college in Hollywood and writes for screen, print, and web.
Meagan McCrary is an L.A.-based yoga teacher with an adventurous spirit for romance, who has also written for a variety of local lifestyle magazines.
Natasha, Julie, and Meagan are all Los Angeles-dwelling Pisceans who met while earning their Master's degrees in creative writing from the University of Southern California. This is their first book.
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When we broke up the first time, it was because his mom said so (RED FLAG). She didn't approve of me even though she never met me. I had to put up with unacceptable behavior because I chose to ignore the red flags and didn't think I could do better (re-evaluation of my self-esteem was in order).
So needless to say that this book is a life-saver, especially to a gal like me whose red flag GPS system is on the fritz. I like the layout of the book. It's well-organized and well-written. The authors wrote this book in an upbeat, humorous and conversational style, I could quote them! Here are two of my many favorites: "Conversing with some men is like talking to a bobblehead doll - they nod and nod and never say anything." "You want to be his soul provider, but instead you're his sole provider."
Even though the authors utilize wit, it doesn't undercut the profound message. The chapters are grouped around a section which share a common core message. Within the chapters you'll find Red Flag principles. One of my favorite principles is: "If you have to think twice about whether or not the man is treating you right, you're already thinking too hard." There are WTF real stories which are outrageous and make you glad that you weren't in the girls' shoes. Between some sections (although I wished that there were more in order hone my red-flag-spotting skills) you'll find a red flag case study where you're required to spot the red flags.
If you're anything like me and often have 20/20 vision AFTER the relationship is over and left wondering why you didn't SEE it coming, then you'll find this book massively helpful in avoiding another dating disaster.
The critical reviewers have said that it's common sense or something to that effect. The rules in this books aren't ground-breaking and most of us know them, but we overlook them. Hence, the title, "relationship warning signs you totally spotted but chose to ignore."
Honestly, since the departure of my ex, I was petrified of dating again and repeating the same mistakes. However, with this book at my disposal, I have some confidence that I can now spot the red flags from the get-go. I'm so glad that the authors turned it into a book - so women like me could benefit from it.
Some reviewers stated this book's advice was "obvious" or "trite" -- I'm amazingly envious of any woman who really feels that way toward this book. For naive me, this book was anything but trite. I do feel the advice is common sense, but only because it is SENSIBLE! If you're even looking into buying this book, chances are you're like me (you've been taken advantage of, abused, lied to, serially cheated on, etc) and you need to get these "trite and obvious" basics down NOW.
The book itself does not claim to teach anything new. As the title states, this is a book about "the warning signs you totally spotted...but chose to ignore." The book intends to take you back through your relationship and help you remember all those discomfiting things you brushed under the rug. This book explains why all those things you decided to let slide really WERE red flags.
The authors of this book make an introductory disclaimer regarding their certification to discuss major instances of physical abuse. However, they do note whenever a certain red flag is widely considered an early warning sign that a man could potentially become dangerously abusive.
Last but not least, this book is hilarious and well-written. It will change your brain (unless you truly don't need this book, in which case, I salute you!) but it also leaves you feeling good, both about yourself and your ability to make better choices in the future. This book doesn't dump on you for being an idiot about men before. In fact, it shares "WTF" stories and personal confessions to inspire a feeling of solidarity.
I can't remember everything I wrote, but in a nutshell, I agreed with probably 2/3 of the book's assertions ... but I disagreed with about 1/3 of them.
Some of the "Red Flags" should have been "Dealbreakers" in my opinion. Like, a man having kids. That is something you either don't mind, or you don't want to deal with. Either, or. That is not a "red flag."
Overall, the book was entertaining.
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