What is process? It is the way of doing, not what is being done, according to Anne Wilson Schaef. It is the tone of voice, not what is being said; the act of parenting, not the 21-year-old child product. In a world that emphasizes results, control, and material rewards, Schaef's process-oriented approach is a soothing antidote. "We are not static," she writes in her opening chapter. "The planet is not static. Life is not static. Life is unfolding.... We can participate, that is all. We cannot predict or control."
Chapter by chapter Schaef breaks down the daily situations that beg for attention to process, including "The Family," (which features intelligent essays on the various styles of parenting, such as "Benevolent Dictator" and "The Little King/Queen Approach") and "Relationships," (which includes helpful essays on "Intimacy" and "Making Love"). Occasionally Schaef meanders, especially in the beginning of the book, where she delves into the deep spiritual healing work involved in becoming process-conscious. However, her overriding voice is authoritative and intelligent, bringing in indigenous religions, spiritual leaders, and even poets to explain the how-tos and implications of process thinking. --Gail Hudson
From Publishers Weekly
In what may be considered a postmodern approach, the author of the bestselling Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much articulates a way of spiritual growth and development that is a recasting of ancient wisdom for modern people. Emphasizing awareness of internal experience over the striving for any external result or gaining any predetermined parcel of knowledge, and emphasizing our connection to a Creator that, Schaef says, is itself a process, she sounds radical in the way that resembles the wisdom of native peoples. Rejecting all the toxic baubles and obsessions of our addictive "technocratic, materialistic, mechanistic" culture, Schaef (who has learned in recent years that her biological father was Native American) draws together basic hallmarks of a life lived in process. Honesty, self-responsibility and an overarching desire to live one's life as a spiritual path: these unpretentious yet uncompromising values, one suspects, would win the approval of the old Koori man whom she quotes as once saying to her, "You know what's the matter with you people? You work. Work is your main problem." Despite real-life stories that show that Schaef's insights flow from an evolving work, her descriptions of what she calls "deep process" are so vague that readers may leave her book more frustrated than enlightened
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