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"The guidance in this book is something I'd recommend to anyone struggling with control issues. I found invaluable information and advice on how to let go of the need to control." --POSITIVELY PRESENT
"In a chaotic, unpredictable world that's frequently beyond our control, Losing Control, Finding Serenity offers welcome encouragement and validation for going with the flow of life as it is."--MONTHLY ASPECTARIAN
"Down-to-earth and honest, the book isfull of psychological and spiritual insight. It is also full of real world solutions forreconnecting with the natural flow of life and with our personal truth. This one will be terrific for 12-steppers."--NEW AGE RETAILER
"Daniel Miller has done an amazing job in delving deeply into the crevices of how most of us would need to be in control, not always realizing how it rules and affects our lives and even more so--the lives and happiness of others. Daniel has clearly lived it, and has learned from it, and has designed a formula to teach people how to change these controls by finding, understanding, and releasing issues one step at a time. A must read for everyone! --IN LIGHT TIMES
About the Author
Like most compulsive controllers, Danny Miller was always driven to succeed. He graduated from UCLA with honors in business administration and finished in the top 5 percent of his class at the UCLA School of Law.While still in his 20s, he became a popular real estate instructor in the UCLA extension program and later published a critically acclaimed, best-selling professional book, How to Invest in Real Estate Syndicates (Dow Jones-Irwin) He also founded the California Institute of Real Estate Education, which offered state-licensed seminars to thousands of real estate professionals.Financial success came early as well. Celebrities and wealthy people entrusted him with large sums to invest on their behalf. By his mid-30s he could afford to live in the exclusive Old Bel Air section of Los Angeles, only a few doors away from Sylvester Stallone and just up the street from where Elvis Presley had once lived.But for all his achievements and success, Danny had no sense of inner peace and serenity. How could he? He was imprisoned by his fears, anger and anxieties and thus not open to the wonders all around him.It took a long series of personal setbacks, but at last Danny began a new life journey based on letting go of control. He tried to go with the ups and downs and twists and turns of life, instead of resisting them and trying to control people and events.He learned effective tools and techniques for losing control in important areas such as family, parenting, love and romance, the creative arts, sports, and the workplace. He became an accomplished fine artist, a published poet, a champion tournament tennis player, a happily married man, and much wiser parent--all while cutting his work time by more than half.Thus, through letting go of control, Danny found a different and more profound kind of success--an internal, core sense of well-being.
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File Size: 547 KB
Print Length: 226 pages
Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0982893000
Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited
Publisher: Ebb and Flow Press; 1 edition (March 10, 2011)
Good read, easy to get through & had some valuable insights. Not earth shattering & he talked a lot about his experiences & how his life changed as he learned to release control, which was fine, just not super interesting or relatable to me.
I like this book but I wish there were more solutions and exercises for each situation he describes. A more "how to" rather than just recognizing how we control things. If I don't control what I'm working on- then how am I guaranteed it is going to get done when I know the other workers are not effective? I am good at letting go of control when I know others around me are competent. Still, just knowing that I stress myself out in situations where results don't matter gives me lots to work on in the meantime. Thanks Daniel!
Letting go of the need to control is one of my passions. Researching topics for the "Letting Go" page I administer has been a wonderful source of enlightenment. Among the many books written on this issue, "Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go " is in a class by itself. Here is the Amazon link for this book. The Kindle edition is only $4.99
I appreciate the emphasis on how being a controller in life, love and work really sabotages effectiveness, happiness, and collegiality. Problems in interpersonal dynamics led me to this book, but the author's easy writing style interspersed with real-life examples kept me reading. Thanks.
This book is fairly well laid out and offers good advice. I was hesitant about this book because the author is not a "professional" therapist or anything like that, but I found that did not matter. The author is sharing his own experiences and what has helped him and others he knows to overcome controlling behavior. I didn't relate to everything he wrote about, but I found his overall idea very helpful. The advice sticks with you.
"I was given your book as a gift in my 70th birthday year. I never thought of myself as a controlling person until I saw myself in every chapter. I've read it two times and now flip random pages. My life has changed for the better since letting go of control with my five sons and my relationship. Now opportunities come to me surprisingly effortlessly. Thank you Dan for sharing your story - it is very courageous of you to do. Because of your book I am experiencing mental peace and liberation."
Easy to read and comprehend, full of insight into the mind of a control freak. The author gives lots of solutions. I like that he uses himself as an example. This book is great for any one in recovery or suffering from the negative influences of over controlling.