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Lost Edens - A True Story Paperback – August 23, 2011

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About the Author

Jamie Patterson is a writer, teacher, and runner. A former spokesperson for the Kansas City American Red Cross and the San Diego Girl Scouts, Jamie is now an academic editor. She lives in Minneapolis with her dog, Huey.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 216 pages
  • Publisher: Beaver's Pond Press (August 23, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1592983863
  • ISBN-13: 978-1592983865
  • Product Dimensions: 6.9 x 5 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (26 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,880,326 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Lost Edens could just as well be called Lost Innocence. While over eighty percent of the book is tightly focused on the few weeks during which her marriage ground to its agonized conclusion with a bare minimum of background information about events in the relationship leading up to that point, I inferred that author Jamie Patterson entered this marriage with a "Cleaver Family" set of illusions and expectations about marriage and the contract between husbands and wives. Some outer trappings of the stereotype had changed -- Patterson's culinary skills were apparently limited to heating frozen pizza and hydrating muesli -- but the emotional elements were apparently intact. Her entire self-image seemed bound up in her ability to please her errant spouse, and she seemed convinced that if she only tried harder, she could fix whatever was wrong and make him love her again, thus fulfilling her dream of living happily ever after. Ultimately she was forced to realize this was not going to happen, that the marriage was too broken to fix. It took her longer to realize that although she couldn't fix the marriage, she could fix herself.

The terms domestic abuse and domestic violence have been used to promote this book. In my opinion, these terms are inappropriately applied. If Patterson wrote anything implying her husband was abusive, I missed reading it. She reported on his behavior, without judgment or blame. She ultimately came to realize that he had emotional problems and accepted an appropriate degree of personal responsibility for the failed relationship. Without wishing to diminish the agony she experienced, based on her account, I can only understand it as the result of two misguided individuals locked in a co-dependent relationship that didn't work.
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It is almost frightening to read this book and realize just how easily someone can be manipulated into thinking that their life should revolve around someone else. Jamie's realization although late in life was one of the greatest that could ever be documented. This book is a reminder that abuse is not always physical and sometimes even mental abuse can be so subtle that you don't realize it until it's too late. I commend Jamie on her ability to rise above because she is truly a woman that deserves so much better than what she was getting.

This book is a definite must-read for any woman that even suspects she may be going through some kind of abuse. It will open your eyes wide! No one should be taken advantage of in such a way and especially not in the way of abuse no matter what kind it may be. We are all better than that and we all deserve much more!

-Kitty Bullard / Great Minds Think Aloud Book Club
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A really quick, emotional read. You don't get much background, as a reader you're kind of plopped into this desperate situation and even though we all know the end (the guy leaves, the marriage is over), it reads a bit like a mystery because the reader unravels the truth of the "marriage" as the story goes. I'd recommend it for book clubs but I don't know if I'd recommend it to a friend--it's just so emotional and I think everyone would react in different ways. Overall, though, I enjoyed the read.
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Jamie Patterson's LOST EDENS is a true story drawn from Jamie's personal experience of the break up of her marriage and one that many people would benefit from reading. Besides being a writer, Patterson is also a teacher, runner, and a dog lover. She spent almost a decade trying to please everybody and always putting herself last. Jamie describes how very much she wanted her marriage to work and the great lengths she went to in order to make it happen. What she didn't realize at the time is that no matter how desperate she was, or what all she did, there would never ultimately be the fairy tale marriage she dreamed of.

Domestic violence and spousal abuse is very difficult to read about but even harder to recognize by outsiders and most often by the partner who is involved and in denial. In all of Jamie's efforts to please her husband, it becomes evident to readers that the undercurrent of low self-esteem is prevalent even though Jamie is not aware of it. As most do, she took the blame on herself but emotional and verbal abuse can be harder to acknowledge than even physical abuse. The cost of such a relationship is devastating. In Jamie's case, she had separated from her husband for a while but when he asked if he could come back, classic to this type of abuse, Jamie ignored family warnings and her own deep seeded denial. Jamie once again believes that making a perfect home in a lovely beach town will enable the couple to make things work this time. What happens after this is eye-opening to readers and Jamie alike as reality hits home in more ways than one. From Jamie's point of view, it took a long time for her to find herself and that was only after her husband was gone.
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This review took some time for me to write as the stark reality of this book hit very close to home. Jamie writes about the final weeks of her relationship with her husband and tells with both an innocence and purity of a soul that has been battered by emotional abuse. The lack of self-worth is apparent to the reader, but not to the person living it.

Jamie bares her soul and tells from a personal point of view how things transpired and how she discovered she lost herself, but only after losing her husband. She writes with a raw honesty and allows the reader inside the eyes of a person with no self-worth... a person who had it when she started, but doesn't realize that she no longer feels worthy of respect and real love. She shows a woman who feels that if she just tries harder and puts more effort in her relationship, she will receive the love from her husband that she so desperately craves.

This account illustrates how much emotional abuse breaks a person and how it robs their essence. Unlike physical abuse, the scars aren't apparent. The abuse isn't even apparent to the one on the receiving end until great damage has been done. Emotional abuse makes me think of the proverbial frog in the pot - it doesn't notice the heat is being turned up until it's too late.

This emotional account should be read by everyone!

Please Note:

Jamie will be donating a portion of her book sales to the Institute for Human Animal Connection at the University of Denver. After reading this book and meeting Huey, one will understand why.

I received an e-copy of this book for review.
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