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Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship Paperback – January 10, 2006
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“A masterful piece of work.” ―American Library Association on Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary
“Highly recommended.” ―New Scientist on Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary
“It's contents will enlighten you.” ―Discover Magazine's "Pick of the Web" on Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary
“Site of the Day.” ―Good Housekeeping on Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary
“Tells all you need to know--and much, much, much more.” ―San Francisco Examiner "Website of the Week" on Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary
“Very interesting reading.” ―Houston Chronicle on Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary
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Praise for Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary:
"A masterful piece of work."
- American Library Association
- New Scientist
"It's contents will enlighten you."
- Discover Magazine's "Pick of the Web"
"Site of the Day."
- Good Housekeeping
"Tells all you need to know--and much, much, much more."
- San Francisco Examiner "Website of the Week"
"Very interesting reading."
- Houston Chronicle
Top Customer Reviews
I'm fascinated by human behaviour, I read other books on the subject. Soon after the purchase, I quickly delved into it. Although some of the studies described here are already well-known, others aren't - that's why appreciate it.
Did you know that courtship has five phases? They are: «(1) Attention, (2) Recognition, (3) Speech, (4) Touching, and (5) Lovemaking. Each phase has its own signs, signals, and cues. Since potential mates `test' each other before uniting as one, courtship is rarely hurried. Moving too fast - giving too many signals at once or showing them out of phase order - may frighten a partner away. Universally, patience is the key».
This a practical book. What's written here is feasible by everyone.
Caveat: when I say that what's written here is feasible by everyone, I don't mean this is an easy book. Many people will understand this book, but not everybody will. In this book, the author talks human behaviour, neuroanathomy, ethnography, anthropology; you find here things such as `conjugate lateral eye movements', `isopraxism'... and so on.
I think to this book as an example of the cultural divide - if you understand (and apply the findings of) this book, you have a wide advantage over those who don't understand it: but that's another story...
I give it four stars instead of five because here and there there are less interesting parts, the quality and the insightfulness of the prose is not even.Read more ›
That's how I feel about "Love Signals" by Dr David Givens. I had known about its existence for years, but only now finally got to reading the whole book. What a treat! It is full of fascinating, little-known yet totally essential facts about how human beings operate in the world. I thought I had read every book under the sun about love and courtship, and yet this book contained reams of entirely brand-new data for me. I must have highlighted a good 40% of the text. Some delightful things I had never heard of before:
-- Lip compression and showing the tip of the tongue are unconscious aversive signals. If you do them, people will stay away, and you won't even know why.
-- Trigeminal taste, related to what people would call "heat" or "spiciness", is unexpectedly arousing
-- The importance of signaling vulnerability for a successful approach (eg through pigeon toes or an exposed neck), especially if you're a guy.
I particularly like that fact that Dr Givens has done a lot of the primary research himself and presents the data to you with the rigor and care of a scientist. No wildcat anecdotal claims in this book: everything is amply supported by peer-reviewed observation. The information in this book is so esssential and yet so little-known by the general public that it should be called "The Book of Secrets." And yet, here it is, hiding in plain sight.Read more ›
At times, it is difficult to determine who the target audience is, especially when he juxtaposes scientific jargon and anthropoligical history with cue lists, anecdotes, & field notes --- this, however, shouldn't deter the would-be reader that shares Givens' perspective: "In courtship, knowledge is power. Knowing that gestures work better than words give you a clear advantage in finding a mate" (p.21).
As a professional matchmaker, I see that people who are cognizant of other people's "nonverbal" signals have a greater likelihood of success in dating and in their relationships. In this book, Givens provides valuable tips to his readers on how to recognize interest from members of the opposite sex (e.g. noticing that people lean towards whatever - or whomever - they find most important at the time, that people's eye blink more and tend to dilate when they are interested in someone, etc.) while also offering practical tips on how to "create" interest (e.g. how to use your voice, colors, etc. to create an attraction/send certain signals).
Occasionally, the read can be a little dry and - as one reviewer here comments - photo illustrations over drawings might have enhanced the book a little. Overall, however, I really enjoyed "Love Signals" and would highly recommend it.
Marni Galison, President and Founder
Sunday at Noon Matchmaking and Events
Most Recent Customer Reviews
A must have book for our collections, I will recommend this book and I will buy again from this seller if I need more from their items on amazonPublished 6 months ago by Alexander.L.
The first half of the book is both useful and interesting, but the second half of the book seriously declines. Read morePublished 7 months ago by JosephS
Good in knowing the Body Language of men and what to do & not to do.Published 16 months ago by Carolyn Balsley
Good insights here, couched in terms likening human courting behavior to those of other animals. An interesting read, and reasonably tight.Published 16 months ago by C. Pilson
I haven't finished reading it yet but it looks very interesting and provides good detail.Published 19 months ago by Meredith
Much of the :dance" of attraction happens on an unconscious plane and in a non-verbal environment. Read morePublished on July 19, 2014 by Bill9
People who are looking for a relationship should read this book. Specially, teenagers, who just started to date, ought to read this book and understand the rules and body language... Read morePublished on May 7, 2014 by Erin
If you are interested in studying nonverbal communication and want to get better and understanding why people act the way they do this is a great introduction.Published on January 20, 2014 by Jim
This book was published in 1996 and there is new research about some of the topics in the book. It's a good book overall and I found the information interesting considering it's... Read morePublished on December 30, 2013 by tom