- Paperback: 320 pages
- Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks; 1 edition (February 17, 1999)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0060930209
- ISBN-13: 978-0060930202
- Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.7 x 8 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 45 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #576,634 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Love and Survival: 8 Pathways to Intimacy and Health Paperback – February 17, 1999
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"Dr. Dean Ornish, who was the first to prove the reversal of heart disease by changing lifestyle, now turns his attention to the heart in a more profound sense and identifies love and intimacy as the most powerful healing forces that exist. I could not agree more. This book is filled with sparkling insights and practical wisdom about protecting health and enhancing wellness by attending the nourishment of our real hearts."-- Andrew Weil""Love & Survival"is an emotionally intelligent guide to good health and well-being. Everyone should read it."-- Daniel Goleman, Ph.D., author of "Emotional Intelligence" and science correspondent to the "New York Times"intelligence"Relationships bring freedom and joy. In"Love & Survival, " Dr. Dean Ornish powerfully demonstrates that intimacy also can heal. I am thrilled about this book!"-- John Gray, Ph.D., author of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus""Revolutionary results....Dr. Ornish's work could change the lives of millions."--"Newsweek"
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The Medical Basis for the Healing Power of Intimacy
We all know that intimacy improves the quality of our lives. Yet most people don't realize how much it can increase the quality of our lives-- our survival.
In this New York Times world-renowned physician Dean Ornish, M.D., writes, "I am not aware of any other factor in medicine that has a greater impact on our survival than the healing power of love and intimacy. Not diet, not smoking, not exercise, not stress, not genetics, not drugs, not surgery."
He reveals that the real epidemic in modern culture is not only physical heart disease but also what he calls spiritual heart disease: loneliness, isolation, alienation, and depression. He shows how the very defenses that we think protect us from emotional pain are often the same ones that actually heighten our pain and threaten our survival. Dr. Ornish outlines eight pathways to intimacy and healing that have made a profound difference in his life and in the life of millions of others in turning sadness into happiness, suffering into joy.
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His eight pathways to intimacy and health are:
1) Words Matter. What we say and how we say it can have a powerful effect on bringing us closer to or farther from another person.
2) Group Support. A support group helps heal isolation, alienation, and loneliness. Physical healing often follows.
3) Confession, Forgiveness, and Redemption. The group support process of self-disclosure is healing.
4) Compassion, Altruism, and Service. When you help others, you also help yourself.
5) Psychotherapy. Psychotherapy can be a very helpful complement to spiritual practices.
6) Touching. Lack of human contact can lead to profound isolation and illness - even death.
7) Commitment. Commitment creates safety and makes intimacy possible.
8) Meditation. Paying attention and focusing your awareness increase your power, your joy, and sense of peace and wellbeing.
We all need to start paying more attention to the power of love. It is not just a hippie dippy, new agey thing.
These men (usually) have a heart attack and their doctor tells them they don't have long to live. They're scared, of course. They come to Ornish's clinic and he tells them they need to learn to be close to people or they're going to die! For the first time in their lives, these men become interested in relationships!
I read Love and Survival right after reading the book, Brain Sex, where I discovered that men aren't naturally as interested in relationships as women. Even two- or three-day old babies show this difference. A female baby will look much longer at a human face than at an object. A baby boy is equally interested in objects and people. Extend that interest out over a lifetime and you have women whose lives are relationship-centered and men who don't have time for relationships because they're busy with other things. Then I read in Ornish's book what it takes for men to finally become interested in getting closer to people: The threat of death! So they get interested, and they improve their relationships, and they learn how to become close to people. Some time later they come back to Ornish and report that they are happier than they've ever been. Of course. We all know being close to people is the most important thing in the world and it's the one thing that can't be peeled away. When people are dying, on the battlefield or deathbed or in some survival situation, and they know they are going to die, the one thing people say is, "Tell my wife I love her." Or husband. Kids. The people who are close to you are what really matter. And getting close to them.
This book struck me like a revelation. I have been interested in how to get along with people and how to get people to like me and how to persuade people to my point of view, but I had never realized the value of really being close to people. I knew relationships were important but I had missed the point! This book has totally changed the way I've been interacting with people, and you know what? I've never been happier! Seriously.
Ornish gives you some good ideas about HOW to get closer to people. He gives you some practical steps to take. I'm the author of the book, Self-Help Stuff That Works, and I'll tell you something: Ornish's book contains quite a bit of stuff that works to bring you closer to the people you love.