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Loving Him without Losing You: How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself Paperback – January 5, 2001
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A terrific book, written with authority and sensitivity to men as well as women--(.full of useful, fresh information.--(Bradley Gerstman, Esq., Christopher Pizzo, CPA, and Rich Seldes, M.D., authors of What Men Want and Marry Me!)
"Groundbreaking, provocative, and substantial, this book will light the fire of every woman who seeks true intimacy and strength."--(Salli Rasberry, coauthor of Living Your Life Out Loud)
An abundant supply of useful strategies . Unique for its readers--(Sheila A. Rogovin, Ph.D., psychotherapist and coauthor of Couple Fits: How to Live with the Person You Love)
Again, Beverly Engel has identified a widespread problem and provided womenwith wise guidelines for bursting through it. She writes with compassion and insight. If you think you are a 'disappearing woman, you will drink in this book as if it were a health-giving elixir. It is!--(Susan Page, author of How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together and If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?)
"Loving Him without Losing You is a powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read!"--(Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know and Are You the One for Me?)
"This is a book of depth and power. I highly recommend it not only to women who lose themselves in their relationships with men but to the parents of adolescent girls who need to be taught how to view themselves as valuable beings separate from their relationships with men and boys."--(Michael Gurian, author of The Good Son and A Fine Young Man)
"When I was in college, we were all Disappearing Women. We didn't even think about it; that's just the way things were. Some of us grew out of it; some didn't. If we all had had this book, our lives might have turned out much differently. Buy this book so you can become your authentic self."--(Randi Kreger, coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells)
"In Loving Him Without Losing You Beverly Engel offers powerful wisdom and insight concerning the age-old problem of women losing themselves in their relationships with men. Unlike so many others, Beverly doesn't take the easy way out by blaming men but instead explores the phenomenon from a biological, cultural, and psychological perspective and offers women empowering suggestions about how to take responsibility for changing their situations."--(Patti McDermott, author of How to Talk to Your Husband; How to Talk to Your Wife)
"Loving Him Without Losing You is a wonderful resource and guide to finding oneself and tapping into creativity as a part of one's foundation for a life well lived. I recommend it highly."--(Lucia Capacchione, Ph.D.,author of Visioning: Ten Steps to Designing the Life of Your Dreams andThe Creative Journal)--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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"Beverly Engel has identified a widespread problem and provided women with wise guidelines for bursting through it. She writes with compassion and insight. If you think you are a Disappearing Woman, you will drink in this book as if it were a health-giving elixir. It is!"Susan Page, author of How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together and If Im So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?
"This remarkably helpful book offers new insights into why so many women surrender their individuality in relationships. Dont wait until your hair is on fire to read it."Maxine Schnall, founder and Executive Director of Wives Self Help
"A book of depth and power. I highly recommend it not only to women who lose themselves in their relationships with men but to the parents of adolescent girls who need to be taught how to view themselves as valuable beings separate from their relationships with men and boys."Michael Gurian, author of The Good Son and A Fine Young Man
Do you frequently find yourself putting your lovers needs ahead of your own? Do you tend to lose yourself in your romantic relationships? Have you ever neglected your career, your friends, or even your health while in the midst of a love affair?
Now, in this landmark book, Beverly Engel examines the intricate reasons why so many women submerge themselves in their relationships with menand offers a straightforward, empowering program that you can use to free yourself from the powerful grip of this all-too-common problem and rediscover yourself as a Woman of Substance.
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Engel speaks to almost every woman, for almost no one has managed to escape the usual relationship "wisdom" in our culture of women "adapting" to meet their men's needs (by hiding accomplishments, giving up interests and friends if "he" doesn't like them, etc.). Engels gives us another, healthier way to build relationships, by staying true to our authentic selves. Ironically, this advice which is so contrary to what most of us learned is the *only* way to have a truly satisfying relationship--more satisfying for the man as well as the woman--as Engel convincingly argues.
Numerous exercises throughout the book help the reader discover her patterns, uncover issues from the past and work through them, and discover her authentic self. Engel also gives valuable information on creating a women's circle or support group, and finding a therapist if necessary.
A compassionate, intelligent, inspiring book. Read it! Buy it! Live it!
I suspect that there isn't a woman out there who has picked up one of those books who would not be much better served by reading this one instead. Almost all women have some propensity to lose themselves in their romantic relationships with men and when those relationships fail or become unsatisfying they want to know why it happened. Ms. Engel tells us that we have to look within ourselves to find those answers.
The bad news is that finding those answers takes work. The good news is that it can be done and I guarantee that if you read this book you will start to find out more about yourself than you ever will by reading the current self-help best seller.
Most of us are so focused on our relationships with men that we neglect the one with have with ourselves. This book will help you get back in touch with who you are as a person. It shifts the focus from men back onto ourselves and helps us find ways to become fully realized, individual adult human beings. It's only by doing this that we can prepare ourselves to enter into healthier relationships with men.Read more ›
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If someone asked... Who are you? And, you no longer can answer that question, mostly due to a lost identity from an overbearing relationship - this book will help. Read morePublished 8 days ago by Lava
Reading this book changed my life. Books gets deep and deeper throughout the book. Great read, if going through a rough patch.Published 20 days ago by Briyana
Wow!!! If you read like me a lot of self help books you know you get to the point you are skeptical if you will find something new . This one was a really good supraise. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Amazon Customer
I think Loving Him without Losing You is a must-read for all women and young girls. Actually, reading this book can be helpful for any relationship whether it be between a man and... Read morePublished 4 months ago by Imelda Jean Walker
My sister recommended this book to me when I was dating the guy from hell. If you are the type of woman who always puts a man's needs and desires before yours and then you wind up... Read morePublished 8 months ago by N. Thomas
Another wonderful book from Beverly Engel. Highly recommend.Published 13 months ago by Amazon Customer
Book in good condition. I would buy from again and the book is good for women who have lived their whole life for someone else and need to see you need to live for yourself . Read morePublished 14 months ago by dog lover
I am a man and I read this because of a girl who I was with suddently said she loves her ex (he broke up with him 1.5 years ago because he "couldnt give her any love"). Read morePublished 16 months ago by namosca