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Loving Our Kids On Purpose: Making A Heart-To-Heart Connection Paperback – December 1, 2008
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I have known Danny Silk for more then twenty-five years. He has the most amazing ability to understand the root causes of social and behavior issues of anyone I have ever encounter in my thirty years of working with people. Our team has been encouraging him to write this book for a long time, as his timeless wisdom needs to be imparted to the masses. BUT READER BEWARE: Danny s insights often smash old religious mindsets and free people from the bondage of spiritual captivity.You will find that you are laughing and crying yourself into new relational paradigms as you willingly walk head first into his sword. His stories will capture your heart, his wisdom will astonish you and his life will change you forever. This book is a must read for everyone,whether you have children or not. ---Kris Vallotton, Senior Associate Pastor of
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We're afraid our kids will make the wrong choice so we either limit their choices to the right one and the other right one or we manipulate them into making the right decision. Then when something bad happens we step in the way of the consequence and figure out the solution for them and tell them what they're going to do with the mess they created. Danny's method let's them learn how to think... AMAZING! They get to make the choice and then we don't stand in the way of the consequences. They have to figure out solutions to their own messes. It empowers our kids. They have confidence in their decisions because they can mess up in a SAFE environment. How often do Christian families raise "GOOD" kids and then when they go off to college, they suddenly turn "BAD"... it's because the parents never taught their child how to think for themselves and come up with solutions to their problems that make them learn what the best choice is so the next time that same situation arises, they know how to avoid that consequence - DO WHAT'S RIGHT!
If you want to learn how to raise a competent adult, Danny has tools that are so easy to implement. This works for any age child. You can also implement these strategies with employees and students if you teach.
This book started out wonderfully giving great detail and scripture to back up why the bible does not teach us to demean and control or children. So many great points were covered about how Jesus loves us, how we are to be examples and show that wonderful love to our children.
So bravo to Pastor Silk for saying such wonderful things in support of respectful parenting! If only he had used parenting examples to back up this kind of loving, gentle, respectful parenting.
Where this book fell flat for me was in the parenting examples supplied. It seemed to me as though the how to portion of this book was in direct opposition from the earlier chapters of the book. Almost as if it was written by two different authors from very different view points. He quotes a lot from Love and Logic, which maybe is why it seemed as if the advice was coming from a different source that earlier chapters.
One example was the Fun or Room option given to his toddler. This seemed to me to be forcing a child who is in need of parental understanding and loving guidance to essentially go away because they are not being fun.
He used the similar Fun or room with a toddler who was having trouble with a cup stuck in the top rack of the dishwasher and began to have a meltdown do to the struggle.
It seemed as if a child was not being guided with understanding their feelings but being essentially taught to deny them if they wanted to stick around with the rest of the family.Read more ›
Since reading this book I am completely convinced that if my parents knew this information/saw God for who He really is, that my siblings would never have turned from Him. In fact, as I have shared this book with them, they have been launched into a personal journey of discovering that they didn't know what they thought they knew about God. It's been a beautiful experience.
Danny outlines not only how a parent can influence a child, but deeper veins of how God actually responds to us. He is not a God of disciplin and control- but one of Love, Patience, kindness, goodness, etc etc. When he 'disciplines' us it is to keep us from something far worse.Read more ›
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This book is incredible! I found it super helpful to me as a parent. I have raised three other children to adulthood, then adopted a teen late in life. Read morePublished 8 hours ago by GrammaAnde
This Book was not what I expected at all. Also very hard to read I felt like I had to force myself to keep reading. Read morePublished 4 days ago by myopinionnotafan
It was not only a healthier way to love my children better but also understanding how God loves me better.Published 23 days ago by Cam parker
Loving Our Kids On Purpose is a seminal work that revealed some things about my parenting that have not been stellar, to phrase it graciously. Read morePublished 24 days ago by headedhome08
Wonderful book on parenting. The philosophy of building a relationship is more important that any other aspect of parenting. Danny does a great job of describing just that.Published 24 days ago by Amazon Customer
Danny's approach to parenting in this book is not about controlling your children; it is about controlling yourself, and helping your children learn to do the same. Read morePublished 1 month ago by MuzicMan
One of the best parenting books I have ever read...my only regret is that I didn't read it earlier.Published 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
This is the best book I've ever read on parenting and I've been a parent for 21 years. My wife and I are raising 4 daughters and we are still learning so much with the help of... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Marchele Mcanney