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Lurking: How a Person Became a User Kindle Edition
One of Esquire’s Best Books to Elevate Your Reading List in 2020, , and a OneZero Best Tech Book of 2020. Named one of the 100 Notable books of 2020 by the End of the World Review.
A concise but wide-ranging personal history of the internet from—for the first time—the point of view of the user
In a shockingly short amount of time, the internet has bound people around the world together and torn us apart and changed not just the way we communicate but who we are and who we can be. It has created a new, unprecedented cultural space that we are all a part of—even if we don’t participate, that is how we participate—but by which we’re continually surprised, betrayed, enriched, befuddled. We have churned through platforms and technologies and in turn been churned by them. And yet, the internet is us and always has been.
In Lurking, Joanne McNeil digs deep and identifies the primary (if sometimes contradictory) concerns of people online: searching, safety, privacy, identity, community, anonymity, and visibility. She charts what it is that brought people online and what keeps us here even as the social equations of digital life—what we’re made to trade, knowingly or otherwise, for the benefits of the internet—have shifted radically beneath us. It is a story we are accustomed to hearing as tales of entrepreneurs and visionaries and dynamic and powerful corporations, but there is a more profound, intimate story that hasn’t yet been told.
Long one of the most incisive, ferociously intelligent, and widely respected cultural critics online, McNeil here establishes a singular vision of who we are now, tells the stories of how we became us, and helps us start to figure out what we do now.
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherMCD
- Publication dateFebruary 25, 2020
- File size2.1 MB
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“[A] very excellent new book.”
―JENNA WORTHAM
“[McNeil] manages a sensitive sharpness to which more tech critics should aspire.”
―JASON KEHE, Wired
“An original take on a fascinating and important subject.”
―COLLEEN MODOR, Booklist
“Refreshingly humane and threaded with poetic insight.”
―Shelf Awareness
"[A] thoughtful debut, critically examining how online platforms affect their users . . . McNeil explores how an internet driven by profits and the commodification of sharing transformed a potentially beneficial, community-building activity into a potentially demoralizing, community-breaking habit."
―Publishers Weekly
"Sharp, broad-ranging techno-criticism that merits attention."
―Kirkus Reviews
“At a time when there are just as many people wanting to ‘burn it all down’ as there are techno-evangelists, Lurking offers a history of online culture that could not be of more import for the present. Joanne McNeil patiently disentangles this story from the nostalgia and uncritical negativity that so often distort it, recovering nuance while pulling no punches in her defense of privacy and dignity. Lurking gave me words for lost or ineffable feelings, brought up forgotten moments of possibility, and reminded me of everything about the internet that’s worth saving. I was very often surprised by the details of a story I thought I knew. Above all, McNeil's account of the past and her vision of a different future are incalculably humane, providing a fresh opportunity to ask who and what we want the internet to be for.”
―JENNY ODELL, author of How to Do Nothing
“A long-overdue people’s history of the internet. Joanne McNeil retells our last three decades online from the perspective of those who actually made it worthwhile―us.”
―CLAIRE L. EVANS, author of Broad Band
“The internet isn’t ‘out there’ somewhere; it’s coextensive with the brain of any writer who’d be worth reading on the subject. In Lurking, Joanne McNeil writes as an internet ‘supertaster,’ a veteran of more platforms and forums and flame wars and start-ups than most of us could ever imagine. She employs a trees-not-forest style, immersing herself in the paradoxes, and reinscribing her body at the scene. By risking a freely figurative language, she hacks the mystery at its source.”
―JONATHAN LETHEM
“Without a doubt, Joanne McNeil is the most original writer on technology working today. This poetic, empathetic, and incisive history of the internet will resonate deeply with anyone who goes online to listen and learn, not shout and grandstand. Never cynical or reductive, McNeil traces the commercialization of the digital world in unexpected and insightful ways, revealing what has been lost, what stolen, and what utopian possibilities may still be recovered. Lurkers may not be inclined to rally around a manifesto, but this profound and refreshing meditation will certainly do the trick. Lurkers of the world unite, or at least read this book.”
―ASTRA TAYLOR, author of The People’s Platform
“We all know what it’s like to spend time online, but nobody has written about it with more depth and beauty than Joanne McNeil. Lurking makes the connections between internet protocol and human dignity tangible, whether reflecting on her early days as an avid 90s web user or zooming out for critical insight into today’s tech giants and tomorrow’s possibilities. I learned something new on every page.”
―JACE CLAYTON, author of Uproot: Travels in 21st-Century Music and Digital Culture
About the Author
Joanne McNeil was the inaugural winner of the Carl & Marilynn Thoma Art Foundation’s Arts Writing Award for an emerging writer. She has been a resident at Eyebeam, a Logan Nonfiction Program fellow, and an instructor at the School for Poetic Computation.
Joanne is the author of Lurking: How a Person Became a User.
Product details
- ASIN : B07MYX4S1Z
- Publisher : MCD (February 25, 2020)
- Publication date : February 25, 2020
- Language : English
- File size : 2.1 MB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 306 pages
- Page numbers source ISBN : 0374194335
- Best Sellers Rank: #1,032,126 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #149 in Social Aspects of the Internet
- #159 in Internet Culture
- #993 in Computers & Technology (Kindle Store)
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- Reviewed in the United States on March 8, 2020This book offers important context for those (like me) who have fashioned a life online and over the course of not-very-many years watched it devolve from something (relatively) reaffirming and relationship-oriented into a corporate hellscape in which we (and our data) are organized according to our potential for profit. By documenting this trajectory -- and more important -- its resistance, McNeil offers hope that the corporate grip on our digital (and actual) lives can, with an active and necessary role played by our government, be loosened, not in the attempt to recreate the past, but to develop an internet where we can constructively engage with others in non-commercialized space/s.
- Reviewed in the United States on May 20, 2021The distinction between a “user” and a person is both evident and understated. Joanne McNeil makes it apparent from the beginning that the reference to a person as a “user” has both positive and negative connotations. This book is partially a journey towards understanding how and why this word is used in online communities. It is also a window into viewing the impact the term “user” has had on those communities and the people that created and inhabited them – people like you and me.
“Everybody has a trace of an ache—some eternal disappointment, or longing, that is satisfied, at least for a minute each day, by a familiar group and by a place that will always be there.”
The author takes the time to visit the Internet in its infancy. Some of the websites mentioned won’t even register with anyone born after the 90s. But for those of us a little older, it’s like taking a trip down memory lane. I vaguely remember the days of AOL, Napster, mIRC, Netscape Navigator. Many of these communities were frequented by users just as much as online communities like 4-Chan and Reddit are today. It’s interesting to see her view on these communities and how they came and went and were inevitably replaced by others. I wouldn’t go so far as to say the more recent communities are better (and in some ways, they can be a lot worse), but it’s fun to think back to more carefree times when the possibility of getting “doxxed” was never a thing.
The first two chapters of the book were harder for me to digest, and it wasn’t until the third chapter, “Visibility”, that I began to connect with the author, mainly through the “Friendster” pages. While I barely remember “Friendster” as an online community, the real-life events and details Joanne discusses in this chapter resonated on a personal level. This quote, in particular, is a good example;
“Then again, people fulfilled with their lives generally do not waste time on social media”
The quote above got me thinking about the social media interactions I have and whether this quote relates to my own experience or anyone else’s, for that matter. I guess, in a way, we are all seeking fulfilment of one kind or another, and nowadays, there are just so many ways to obtain it. Back then, it seemed like choices were more limited as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Tumblr weren’t invented yet. But the point Joanne makes here is quite crucial. Everyone needs something. Everyone is searching for a way to make their lives better. Everyone needs communication and a sense of community. Everyone wants to belong. This chapter is well written and relatable and made me feel validated in reviewing this book. As a reader, I looked for a little bit of myself in these pages and was lucky enough to find it.
“Blogging was a departure from the sanctitude and solitude of writing”
Reading about someone talking about how the term “blogger” and “blogging” came into existence is funny to me. It’s funny because I consider myself a “blogger” of sorts; I’ve worked as a freelance writer and even continue to blog on several platforms, including this one today. And the quote above is every bit the reality. Why write for just yourself when you can share what you think and feel with the whole world? Some people probably continue using private diaries online and offline, and I used to do this too. There is a lot that can be said for keeping your thoughts entirely private. Putting thoughts and feelings on the internet is never private, even when you choose to post anonymously. Someone somewhere can see it, has access to it and can do just about anything with it. It is never entirely yours. That in itself is something to think about.
The way that the book is segregated is essential to the flow of the book. Joanne uses her own experiences as a method of explaining many of the fundamental uses the internet has had and continues to have. And there are questions I found extremely relevant not only then but now, such as has the landscape of what we consider to be “cyberspace” changed? And if so, how? Have we changed with it? Reading some of Joanne’s paragraphs brings the “idea” of what the internet is to life. It becomes a living, breathing thing capable of both growth and stagnation, just as we are. We are as much a part of the digital world as we are separate from it. For some of us, this is almost a co-dependent relationship.
In the following chapters, namely “Sharing” and “Community,” I made even more connections with the author, particularly since I use many of the social media communities she refers to here. I distinctly remember the “Tumblr” ban where all adult content was banned in 2018. I was online and present for the aftermath, which didn’t impact my personal experience at all other than receiving a warning for reblogging an image of Adam Driver with his shirt off. You may be interested in knowing that the people and creators I was particularly connected to are still there today, and I now have less of a reason to use Tumblr Savior due to the 2018 ban. I consider this a definite positive but not all Tumblr users would agree. And this was just one of many real-world examples I connected with on a personal level.
My first impression of this book was that it was full of facts and information about digital super-companies that I already knew of and was not interested in pursuing as a topic. But that was naive of me. As I progressed through the book, I felt as though I was looking into a mirror. Reading a very personal account of how the internet has changed us as human beings while also experiencing Joanne’s journey through the years was enlightening. I think this is a significant book to read, particularly in the digital age. You may not connect with everything the author chooses to explore. However, if you’re a user of the internet (as most people are), particularly social media, you will find this book is an open and honest view of life online and everything that entails, including its historic beginnings. I will also add that if you are not someone who uses social media daily or someone who isn’t interested in how life online has progressed through the last 10 – 20 years, you may find this book a little outside of your scope of interest.
- Reviewed in the United States on March 9, 2020I got an ARC of this book from Joanne and was happy to get it. I was also briefly interviewed for part of it. This is a story about how the old web, where we were just learning how to interact with one another, became the new web where everyone was trying to “sell our eyeballs” to people and just how much that changed the experience of interacting there. Joanne spent a lot of time online and talks about what she found there, both in the early web being a person interacting on Echo or Friendster, and today where she uses Twitter a little and basically ignores Facebook.
It’s really nice to read an account of the early web which isn’t just about “The men who built it.” There is some of that in this book, but it’s useful. What’s more useful is how Joanne talks about the people she interacted with there, the friendships she made, the “there” that was there as a result of the way people had genuine interactions with one another, in a place that many people didn’t even see as real. She has a great way of evoking sense-memories for things many of us have only experienced through typing and reading. And for someone who spent a lot of time in some of those same places (and also in other ones) there’s a very real feeling about that, it feels like a very authentic reflection of how it felt to be there.
- Reviewed in the United States on March 5, 2022An author wouldn’t hire a professional voiceover artist or audiobook reader to write their book for them. Most, almost all, authors, should not read their own audiobooks. This reading sounds like a cross between a SSRI-induced flat-affect millennial and the synthesized robot voice that answers the phone when you call your bank’s help line. I’m sure this book must have some useful information, but… I’m… getting……. so……………. sleeeeepyyyyyyyyy……………
- Reviewed in the United States on May 17, 2020Joanne McNeil's book is top-notch internet criticism, full of original thought and beautifully written. I've been thinking a lot about the book's key ideas since I've finished: how we've begun thinking about the internet itself as a person rather than a place; the shifting role of anonymity online; how what we think of as "sharing" online in fact represents a "taking" by the tech platforms who mine our data. Looking forward to reading more of McNeil's work.
- Reviewed in the United States on March 10, 2020I’m not a person who would ordinarily want to read about the Internet, but this book is so beautifully written, so human, that I found it irresistible. McNeil is interested in personhood in a digital world —not inside dope or rah-rah tech utopianism.
- Reviewed in the United States on June 16, 2020Written in an unnecessarily verbose borderline condescending manner.
Several sections read exactly like a social justice NYT OpEd.
Relatable analysis such as the MySpace part are few and far between.
- Reviewed in the United States on March 9, 2020Joanne McNeil's brilliant book is a much-needed and nuanced history of the internet from the user's point of view. Essential reading -- highly recommended!
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peter bakerReviewed in Australia on August 23, 20205.0 out of 5 stars Fantastic romp!
Lovely reading about the early days of the internet, a fantastic romp!
Kean BirchReviewed in Canada on September 8, 20211.0 out of 5 stars Didn't get much from this
More of an autobiography than anything else; I was hoping for a good discussion of how our use of digital technologies has changed over time and what it means for us. Just didn't get it...