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Making the Big Move: How to Transform Relocation Into a Creative Life Transition Paperback – June, 1999
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This book has been helpful to people who are making life transitions.
I have created a website for people who are moving through the world and through their lives: movinglady.com.
When I give talks about relocation, someone always greets me with, "So you're the moving lady!" So I named by site movinglady.com.
Get some more tips and subscribe to my newsletter. And I'm always happy to hear from my readers. The book has been used not only for relocation, but also for career and other life transitions. I hope it will be helpful to you.
About the Author
Cathy Goodiwn, Ph.D., is a writer, speaker, and consultant, specializing in life transitions. She draws on her research as well as her experiences as she helps people deal with life transitions. She is working on a career book and writing more humor. She lives in Florida with two cats and a dog and she always answers her e-mail: email@example.com.
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First off, I think this book would be best suited for someone who has never made a decision before, and needs to be told ten million times to calm down. I have books on calming down, so this wasn't really what I was looking for out of the book. Kind of touchy feely.
Secondly, the advice seems pretty dated. For instance, the advice to take your old phone books with you if you need to contact an old favorite store or something. These days, isn't everything on google? Who actually uses a phone book?
Most importantly, there is no mention of meetup.com, which I have found invaluable in making friends when I moved to D.C. - she says a lot of groups of people don't have time for a new friend, and I agree, and that is what is great about meetup.com, you are meeting up with people that are looking to make new friends, and not people that don't have time for you.
She makes a good point that there are benefits to having movers pack for you, because you won't waste all your time sighing over pants that don't fit any more instead of just getting things done.
She recommends planning a "major creative effort", which seems like a nice idea.
She talks about the psychology of the mover (the person who got a new job, etc.), and the person along for the ride, who kind of has to move.
Overall, the book is probably great for people with little to no experience moving, not so great if you are a young professional who has already moved a few times, and just wants some interesting ideas of how to make the new place more exciting.
The bad: It is quite a bit out of date and fairly elementary in many respects--geared towards someone who has never moved. My biggest objection however was the personal slant and bias of the author which came through in her examples of locales, professions, and individual stories she cited. It was obvious that she had a slant towards aspects that would have more appeal to her as a part of elite academia than a true cross-section of people from various backgrounds, occupations, and parts of the country. The bias was subtle and nuanced, but it definitely was ubiquitous, making it extremely hard to ignore.
Certainly isn't a bad book and all the recommendations are good but I can definitely find them all in my brain, my friend's brain or online.
If you're looking for a good general guideline for moving, its probably an okay book for you. If you're really looking to dig deep into your soul and understand the spiritual, emotional and life contemplating nature of a move, this might leave you wanting more.
Chapter 3-Will I Still Be Me; Making The Right Decision (starts on page 39)-Goodwin touches on the reality of being prepared to express your identity in different ways when you relocate. The author also shares an example of someone who may have enjoyed the Saturday morning farmer market in a certain Area And has to get use to one not being in their new area or the dilemma of being Able to find a painting class after relocating when it could have been much easier in the previous area. Ideas on how to be an urban Anthropologist in your planned Area to relocate Are Also discussed. Goodwin Also touches on the potential reality on pages 50-51 of relocating when you already have a built in employment paper identity and the identity of moving without a job or business. She also touches on the potential positives of a person being open to change.
Chapter 7-Are We Settled Yet-Integration Phase Starts on page 113-Information is covered on what to potentially expect 6 months after a relocation and that a longer timeframe is needed to get use to a new city. Goodwin also goes into how others see the world differently and/or want to help others after relocation. The three wishes exercise on page 119 covers a fun tool where A person playfully pretends that A genie is going to grant them 3 wishes but they have to stay in their newly relocated Area for At least 6 months, page 120 features An exercise on imagining what you would want to do if you Are healthy but only have six months to live (I Admit that my mind draws A blank on this one so I may lean towards what I would do if I knew that I only had 5-6 years left to live), And page 120 also features A cool exercise on setting goals.
Chapter 10-Were More Than the Sum of Our Identities starts on page 155; Goodwin candidly touches on how an individual or a family group may also give up the positive benefits of their family reputation if they move. The author gave an example of the Harrison family who enjoyed the benefit in their small Vermont town of gaining a reputation as athletes. As a result, all four children who were on sports teams from grade school through high school enjoyed the positive benefit of getting selected for sports teams. “Bill”, the father of the family had to unexpectedly move the rest of the family with him to the Midwest for a job. The author stated that the family liked the new city they moved to but one of the kids-Ed- noticed that it was more competitive to get into school sports when he was turned down for varsity. The author also takes on Family Paper identity where members of a family may have had an easier time getting jobs in a certain area because of the family name and then have to start all over when the move to a new area. The author then tackled the honest reality of long distance couples and long distance marriages sometimes out of necessity with the example of Helen who teaches Medieval French literature and her husband Leonard who teaches Near Eastern Studies. Helen moved to Jacksonville while her husband stayed behind in Tennessee. The author also admits that it must be accepted that each family member may cope with the move differently. From this chapter, a person can deduce that relocation may obviously be hard on a family or individual who has benefited in a certain area in ways of job opportunities and other areas based on their family name and/or if they are popular or a family favorite (i.e. family golden sheep). Obviously, relocation may be less painful for family members/an individual who has not benefited positive or negatively from their family name (in ways of job opportunities) and relocation is obviously also easier for someone who is not the golden sheep (family favorite) of their family.
There is so much more included in Making the Big Move by Cathy Goodwin, PH.D. which is A good book to have because there is still scare information online on the spiritual , psychological, as well as practical concerns that a person must consider when relocating from an area they love (especially if the intended area that they are moving to is also enjoyable in multiple ways but not the same as the area that a person is moving away from). In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I’m fortunate to be able to say that I get paid in an amount that leaves me more prosperous than I originally thought just A year Ago despite being taxed around twenty five percent of my income and I at least am guaranteed a certain number of hours at my job each week (I’m well aware that not every hourly employee has that luxury). Additionally, despite a rumor I’ve picked up that is circulating about me, my husband and I have both sworn off accumulating any more personal debt during our lifetimes since 2013 and quite some weeks before I became hired and employed in my current job. I admit that I temporarily relapsed on my word in 2015 when I decided that I was going to try take on a student loan for a class that would improve my financial worth both At my current job And in the competitive private sector. However, I knew that I had to swear off even further student loans (educational debt) for my current lifetime when I noticed people in my life who did not even go to college and shrewdly projected themselves and their hard work to a much higher financial net worth. Obviously, if I ever go back to school I’m only going to enroll if I have the money to pay for the class upfront, but this book Making The Big Move by Cathy Goodwin is very healing for me because she addresses the steps A person goes through whether they have to consider relocation for financial reasons due to moving where there is a lower cost of living And/or A myriad of reasons that have to do with other practical concerns (their chosen career goals may be trickier to accomplish in their current place of residence or being required to relocate and other reasons).
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