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Making a Change for Good: A Guide to Compassionate Self-Discipline Paperback – March 13, 2007
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"Huber has been a Zen teacher for many years, but this does not feel at all like a Zen book. . . . The warmth of Huber's style and advice reinforce her message that self-acceptance, rather than punishment, is more likely to result in the changes we seek."—Library Journal
"Huber challenges us to see our resistances and to accept our conditioned thoughts and behaviors—to live in the present moment with awareness."—Spirituality & Health magazine
About the Author
Cheri Huber is a Zen teacher and the author of eighteen popular books. She founded A Center for the Practice of Zen Buddhist Meditation in Mountain View, California, in 1983, and the Zen Monastery Retreat Center in Murphys, California, in 1987. She founded Living Compassion in 2003, a nonprofit group comprised of There Is Nothing Wrong with You Retreats (based on the book); Global Community for Peace: The Assisi Peace Project; The Africa Vulnerable Children Project; and Open Air Talk Radio, which she hosts weekly. She lives in Murphys, California.
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Although this book is based on Buddhist thought, it can be used by anyone of any faith. It approaches change from a perspective of non-judgmental awareness, unconditional self-acceptance and seeing that beating yourself is and always has been futile.
In addition to her fine presentation of content which is gleaned from a variety of areas including cognitive therapy, Buddhist thought and developmental psychology, she provides a structure. Specifically, the book contains a guided 30 day retreat which I think it EXCELLENT in every respect of the word... that's code for it really works!
This is one self-help book that is worthy of the name. I also recommend How You Do Anything Is How You Do Everything: A Workbook,Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery,Unconditional Self Acceptance and The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All. In reality, all of Cheri Huber's books and other resources are excellent.
Reading other reviews, I saw that some reviewers are upset and others relieved that the book is so simple. There are no lengthy dissertations about complicated philosophical concepts. On the other hand those dissertations may not be very helpful to the end-user. Simple language drives home the point. Here is one example (discussing disidentification):
"I want to do something.
I do it.
I feel good.
Voices talk me out of doing it.
The same voices beat me up for quitting."
I am sure the same concept could be expressed in a manner that only 2% of the readers would comprehend :) The recipe for the antidote is just as easy to understand. A 30-day guided 30 to 45 minute a day self-retreat. It WILL work as long as one is honest to oneself. The method is sitting meditation and the clear view created in that space. Compassionate self-support will step in and recognize the "voices" that sabotage us.
I agree that all the conversation about the "voices" can turn you off. However, if we accept the word "voices" as a conceptual place-holder, the message will not get lost. And we have to say something, don't we?
Worth the purchase.
Monica J Olsen, MA, LMFT