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Making Sense of Suffering: The Healing Confrontation with Your Own Past Mass Market Paperback – March 1, 1995
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From Library Journal
Stettbacher, a Swiss psychotherapist, undertakes a thoughtful inquiry into the psychological causes of "primal wounds." These psychological traumas, endured during birth or early childhood, result in the repression of painful memories in the unconscious mind and can cause emotional distress and difficulty many years later. Stettbacher contends that healing these deep unconscious memories requires bringing them into conscious awareness. In order to facilitate this process, he suggests a four-step program of primal therapy, which he employs in his psychotherapy practice. Stettbacher provides a thorough but nontechnical explanation of his therapy, and his four steps are simple enough for anyone to learn. Recommended for self-help collections.
- Elizabeth Salt, Otterbein Coll. Lib., Westerville, Ohio
Copyright 1991 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Text: English (translation)
Original Language: German --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Top customer reviews
Stettbacher presents ways to get free of the emotional scar tissue and set themselves free of what he and Miller say link generations in endless suffering.
The English translation of the original German text is often dry but the content is worth working through it.
Likewise at the end of your life you will know how well you were able to live it, what you've got, what you gave, what you learned, what you were able to do.
Life is not easy. To state anything else would be a lie. However, life doesn't need to be a constant suffering. In this thin book (135 pages) Stettbacher outlines four steps to follow if you are interested to heal your old psychological wounds and create a better life for yourself, a life with more joy and meaning. Let's not fool ourselves, it is not an easy task and the process is slow.
The suggested four steps are no hocus pocus. First clear perception of what is, next clarification of what you feel, third step is understanding why, what, when, where, the connections, roots, causes and finally your demand, your real need. At times it is easier to say what you don't want, rather than specify your own demand, dare to voice it and to stand by it.
In my opinion this book might assist you best if you are already aware of your primal patterns, the ways in which you tend to sabotage yourself and your happiness. True healing requires a relationship of trust. Such human relation (with one or several human beings) is often necessary. Any promise that you can do it all on your own would be most likely false.
This is not a book about screaming out your guts. The book suggests a way (one of many) how you can grow in awareness. If this approach suits you is impossible to say in advance. No therapist will cure every single patient.
Personally I feel comfortable to leave the criticism delivered by Alice Miller aside. Healing happens if there is a sufficient genuine human interest and healthy involvement. That can't be taught at school. What can be taught is some theory and issues about healthy boundaries, importance of transferrence and countertranferrence, certain technique.
I understood from Miller's own book that she originally experienced a personal gain from Stettbacher's work. If she later decided not to endorse it because of professional reasons that is understandable. Nevertheless, I do not feel that position changes what happened to her once before, neither will it affect or change the message you get directly from this book.
Another reviwer asked: "You get to the pain, sure, but how do you get beyond it?"
My answer to that is by feeling your pain. No book can help you with that. It takes your own willingness to know yourself, for better for worse and your courage to leave the safe but limiting position of a victim of circumstances and take responsibility for your own life. For that step this book can offer you some useful ideas. The rest will be up to you.
This is only one of many possible therapeutic approaches. What works for you only you can decide.
With the aid of J Konrad Stettbacher's book you can learn how to help yourself become your own advocate and by doing so help your inner child recover from it's past injuries. It is not a cathartic method which simply represses those injuries all again. It is serious and hard work and ongoing.
Alice Miller distanced herself from this book because Stettbacher did not have certain qualifications which she felt he should have. I believe this to have been a mistake on her part. She has also made a mistake in asserting that autism is caused by bad parenting when it is, in fact, a neurological disorder ! Despite these mistakes, Alice Miller's books are invaluable, as is Stettbacher's 'Making Sense of Suffering', and I can neither discount nor forget the glowing foreword and afterword Miller gives his book. Nor can I forget the help I got and continue to get from this book.
Aside from the method, the book has some wonderfully perceptive ideas, and great one-liners. In my view, the following line, which discusses what happens when a child has intense needs that remain unfulfilled, is worth the price of the book: "Eventually the child comes to fear its own needs."
I think this book can be of real benefit both to individuals who are trying to sort out their past, and to therapists who are open to better understanding trauma and approaches to working with trauma patients/clients (with "trauma" broadly defined and including verbal, physical, sexual, and emotional abuse, as well as physical or emotional abandonment, including that produced by parental narcisism). This book is written simply, and the writing style/structure is a bit uneven, but it would be a mistake to be disuaded by that.
Other books that I consider excellent for both individuals and therapists are: anything by Alice Miller (especially Prisoners of Childhood/Drama of the Gifted Child, the first half of For Your Own Good, and Banished Knowledge), Toxic Parents by Susan Forward, Betrayal Trauma by Jennifer Freyd, and the out-of-print Soul Murder by Morton Schatzman (books of the same title, but by different authors, are currently in print; but I recommend the one by Schatzman; try a library or interlibrary loan). These books all penetrate to the core issues.