- Series: Thinking in Action
- Paperback: 200 pages
- Publisher: Routledge; 1 edition (November 13, 2011)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0415875382
- ISBN-13: 978-0415875387
- Product Dimensions: 5.1 x 0.5 x 7.8 inches
- Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 5 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,556,205 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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"Intelligible and interesting to the lay reader; yet scholarly enough for the professional ethicist, On Manners is Karen Stohr’s elegant calling card. I trust that the other public intellectuals will return the visit by reading the book." –Howard Curzer, Texas Tech University
"Drawing on Austen, Kant, and Seinfeld, blending powerful and precise thought with graceful and inviting prose, Karen Stohr has written a book that is not only wise, but warmly hospitable. When you read it, you’ll learn just how very important that is." –James Nelson, Michigan State University
About the Author
Karen Stohr is Associate Professor of Philosophy at Georgetown University in Washington D.C., where she is also a Senior Research Scholar in the Kennedy Institute of Ethics.
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Why is a crowded elevator so awkward? What about what to do when you see an acquaintance approach on the other side of the street, or a colleague in the hallway at work? Say hello too soon and one creates those awkward seconds of continuing to approach with nothing much to say. Say hello too late and it feels like a snub. Then when you pass that colleague again later that morning, then what?
More extreme, how does one behave at a formal dinner when presented a multitude of carefully arranged glasses, forks, knives and spoons? On seeing a guest at one such dinner drink from their freshly presented finger bowl, Queen Victoria nonchalantly drank from her own. That one vignette reveals volumes about that fundamentally decent yet formidable woman and the core values behind good manners.
Comedians would find much in this book as source material for sweet, self-deprecating comedy.
Manners done right are about being aware of these tiny anxieties in ourselves and others and structuring our actions to reduce them while honouring the agency and dignity of the people we interact with. In so behaving, manners become basic practice for more fundamental morality.
With this book I'm struck about how an awareness of good manners is fundamental to a TV series like 'Downtown Abbey'. It is the expert and seemingly effortless practice of manners that makes that era look so attractive and those with good manners seem so fundamentally decent, despite being so undeservingly rich. Those lacking such facility with manners recognize their skilled application by others, even as they struggle to understand how they could treat others as well. This well mannered and accessible book by a professor of philosophy helps illustrate the higher principles at work which, in turn, makes it easier to know how to treat others as they would wish to be treated.
As the book ably points out, manners can also be used for ill. Using them to create arbitrary rules to show up others as uncouth is certainly not good manners. More seriously is the belated insight of the US civil rights era that recognized and challenged the seemingly polite southern practice of addressing African American men as 'boy' while other men were given the dignity of 'Mister'. Such manners fail a fundamental test and good manners then requires challenging them, despite the awkwardness.
Though more than a worthy book, I was disappointed to reach the end. I'd have loved more stories and more examples. In my hunger, it has become apparent that this book has not yet reached the wide audience it deserves. Several times I have refreshed its page on amazon, hoping to get suggestions of similar books, only to see a selection of unrelated books that I myself have purchased. While not helping me find other similar books, it has been an interesting look into amazon's recommendation algorithm.
As it appears that only the book's author is likely to read this review, know that this book has had more influence on me than any I have read in some time - and I read a great many books. This book taught be things I didn't even know I didn't know about situations that happen several times a day in my life. It has given me principles I can apply to do a better job of being the kind of person I would like to be.