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About Mark Goulston
Dr. Goulston is the co-author, with Diana Hendel, of Why Cope When You Can Heal? How Healthcare Heroes of Covid-19 can Recover from PTSD.
He is the inventor of Surgical Empathy, an approach that helps psychologically traumatized people heal from their "inside out" by causing them to "feel felt" and less alone in the core of their pain, feel relief and drain the "psychological pus" by crying it out which helps start a process of healing.
His book, "Just Listen" Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, went on to become the top book on listening in the world because it shows readers the secret to getting through to absolutely anyone (a.k.a. hack into) by listening. His first book, Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior, published in 1996 has been in the top five "Self Help Books" at Amazon for 5 years.
He is the author or co-author of eight books and speaks, teaches, coaches and mentors leaders and CEO's globally.
Dr. Mark Goulston has been described as a "people hacker."
Starting off as a clinical interventional psychiatrist and UCLA professor of psychiatry, he learned to "hack" into the minds of suicidal and potentially violent individuals to prevent acts of destruction to others or themselves. He next went on to train FBI and police hostage negotiators. He has since expanded his work to "Hacking Genius" and speaks and provides webinars internationally on: "Thinking Like Steve Jobs - How to Create 'Gotta Have It.'"
His company, The Goulston Group, is hired by Founders, CEO's and Boards of Directors to help them create a "gotta have it!" response to their services and products (which seamlessly translates into "gonna buy/hire it," a "gotta work there" response in outside talent they're recruiting, a "gonna get it done" response from employees and a "gotta invest there" response in investors.
Mark Goulston is a passionate social activist and is the White co-host on the weekly Black radio show, Zo What Morning Show, where he focuses on leveling the playing field and empowering the African American community. He has also launched a campaign to "Heal the World, One Conversation at a Time" at Patreon.
He contributes to the Harvard Business Review, Huffington Post, Fast Company, Business Insider and writes the "Closing Bell" for C-Suite Quarterly Magazine. Frequently called upon to share his expertise with the media, he has been quoted in the Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, Fortune, Newsweek, Time, and Reuters; has offered commentary on NPR, CNN, and Fox News; and has appeared on the Oprah and Today shows. He lives in Los Angeles, California.
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Powerful practical insights that can help many to live more rewarding lives
Getting through to someone is a critical, fine art. Whether you are dealing with a harried colleague, a stressed-out client, or an insecure spouse, things will go from bad to worse if you can't break through emotional barricades and get your message thoroughly communicated and registered.
Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist, business consultant, and coach, author Mark Goulston combines his background with the latest scientific research to help you turn the “impossible” and “unreachable” people in their lives into allies, devoted customers, loyal colleagues, and lifetime friends.
In Just Listen, Goulston provides simple yet powerful techniques you can use to really get through to people including how to:
- make a powerful and positive first impression;
- listen effectively;
- make even a total stranger (potential client) feel understood;
- talk an angry or aggressive person away from an instinctual, unproductive reaction and toward a more rational mindset;
- and achieve buy-in--the linchpin of all persuasion, negotiation, and sales.
Whether they're coworkers, friends, strangers, or enemies, the first make-or-break step in persuading anyone to do anything is getting them to hear you out. The invaluable principles in Just Listen will get you through that first tough step with anyone.
With this groundbreaking book, you will be able to master the fine but critical art of effective communication.
Authentic influence is about more than creating a strong initial connection--it’s about sustaining professional relationships long after an agreement has been reached.
When others sense they are being pushed, their guard goes up. In business interactions, even if the person you are pitching to does comply with your requests, lingering resentment may undermine the relationship forever. So why do most books on influence still portray it as something you do to someone else to get your way?
Based on their commitment to listening, genuine engagement, and the pursuit of win-win outcomes, doctors and authors Mark Goulston and John Ullmen share a new method that business leaders can utilize to persuade others.
In Real Influence, Goulston and Ullem teach you how to:
- examine priorities,
- learn about the needs of key players,
- earn others’ attention,
- motivate others to hear more,
- and add value with question and actions.
Outdated approaches that portray influence as a means to get your way invites resistance and cynicism from those who recognize the techniques. Manipulative tactics fail to produce the mutual trust that sustains successful relationships.
Complete with examples of the steps in action and insights from real-world “power influencers,” Real Influence is a one-of-a-kind guide that showcases how being straight with everyone means winning for all.
If No, Would You Like to Be One? Then be A WOW!
Employees can be cynics and skeptics. Both have much in common—they’ve been disappointed, deceived, and at times, devastated. Most workplaces are loaded with the working wounded—men and women who have been let down by their leaders, their managers, their coworkers, even the culture of their workplace. They live for Fridays.
• Could that be yours?
• Is your workplace one where employees can’t wait to clock out?
• Would you like to discover how you can create a workplace where the best and most talented people line up to get in?
You can. Within this book are the strategies, tips and tools to make it so.
The WOW Factor Workplace shows it’s possible to create a workplace that not only WOWS everyone who works there, it WOWS everyone who hears about it.
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COVID-19 has traumatized the world—and no group has been more impacted than frontline healthcare workers. They’ve worked without adequate personal protective equipment (PPE), witnessed mass death, and been forced to make choices that haunt them. Many have fallen ill, while others have worried endlessly about their own health and that of their loved ones.
Additionally, all of this is happening in the context of a divided nation, a struggling industry, and a “just get over it” culture that exacerbates the problems healthcare workers face, while minimizing their suffering. These factors have created the perfect storm for widespread stress, depression, anxiety, and hopelessness—and, increasingly, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Medical doctor and psychiatrist Mark Goulston shares practical, evidence-based techniques and treatments for managing traumatic stress that will fill you with hope and inspiration.
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- real-world accounts and experiences from frontline workers;
- an overview of treatment options; and
- exercises, tools, and tips that you can use today.
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When you turn a crisis or even a trauma into a learning moment, it will turn fear into courage and then determination. This leadership roadmap shows you the way to successfully navigating through crisis or trauma and coming out stronger on the other side.
Organizational trauma takes many forms. It could be a pandemic that disrupts the way people work. An economic meltdown. An act of violence. A failed merger. A layoff—or continual threats of one. Whatever the scenario, events like these can traumatize leaders and employees, sending everyone into survival mode.
Here’s the good news: when leaders navigate a traumatic event effectively, the organization doesn’t just survive.
In Trauma to Triumph, Mark Goulston, MD, and Diana Hendel present a visionary and tactical roadmap to help leaders create stability amid chaos and uncertainty, move productively through a traumatic event, and flourish in ways previously unimagined.
After reading this book, readers will learn:
- How the survival mechanism manifests in employees and leaders amid trauma
- The predictable polarities, dilemmas, tensions and other patterns that emerge in traumatized organizations…and how to break these cycles
- Why lack of clarity in roles and poor communication are dangerous in times of crisis (and how to avoid these common pitfalls)
- How leaders can shift to a mindset that helps create trust, confidence, safety, respect, and inspiration in employees
- Best practices for leading yourself and others through crisis; grieving losses, embracing healthy coping mechanisms, reframing, and more
- How to launch a rapid-response process where you “control the controllables” and create a framework for making better decisions during a crisis
- High-impact tactics to help your organization recover and heal in a way that doesn’t just return to baseline, but transcends it
Filled with tools and tactics, Trauma to Triumph is an organization-wide blueprint for navigating a future where we’ll likely experience one trauma or crisis after another. It gives leaders at every level the guidance to create confidence, courage, and enthusiasm in their team.
Would you like to know the #1 thing to morph your workplace from so-so to astounding?
Within Heartfelt Leadership, Deb Boelkes reveals how leaders can get through to anyone, even under what many would believe are not the best of circumstances. The result is a workplace that is admired; one that delivers outstanding results; one that employees seek to be part of.
• In your current role, do you honestly believe you can accomplish significant things that are important to you? If not, why not?
• Are you aware of the personal passions, priorities and goals of those on your team? If not, why not?
• Is it a priority for you to ensure that your team members are aligned with the mission, vision, and goals of your organization? If not, why not?
• Do your employees seek you out and respond to you with enthusiasm, or do they tend to ignore your presence?
Within Heartfelt Leadership, you will hear from some truly exceptional award-winning bosses who have been consistently praised by their teams as the epitome of best-ever bosses. They reveal how they evolved into the extraordinary leaders they became … the kind of leader that you, too, can become.
Heartfelt Leadership: How to Capture the Top Spot and Keep on Soaring delivers the tools and knowledge to modify your leadership presence to become the inspiring person others want to follow.
Heartfelt leaders are, for now, a rare breed. You can change that … starting today!
Con anécdotas y reflexiones útiles obtenidas a lo largo de veinte años en la práctica de la psiquiatría clínica, el Dr. Mark Goulston comparte las ideas que han ayudado a miles de pacientes a superar el dolor, el miedo y la confusión para afrontar los desafíos de la vida con dignidad, sabiduría e incluso humor.
Deja de autosabotearte ofrece unos pasos prácticos para avanzar hacia el cambio que puedes incorporar a tu vida cotidiana, con el fin de que dejes de ser tu peor enemigo y convertirte en tu mejor amigo.
Un ouvrage Nuls, grand format, très complet pour comprendre le stress post-traumatique et mettre en place des stratégies efficaces pour guérir
L'état de stress post-traumatique est un état se caractérisant par le développement de symptômes spécifiques faisant suite à l'exposition à un événement traumatique. Un évènement traumatisant peut bouleverser votre existence mais il existe un moyen de sortir du syndrome de stress post-traumatique. Cet ouvrage est un guide rassurant plein de conseils et d'outils pratiques afin d'aider une personne en souffrance à gagner la bataille face à cette maladie invalidante. Il présente les traitements efficaces pour combattre la peur, mieux gérer le stress au quotidien et ramener la joie dans sa vie. Il s'adresse aussi bien aux personnes atteintes du syndrome de stress post-traumatique qu'aux soignants.
Grâce auStress post-traumatique pour les Nuls, le lecteur pourra apprendre à :
Identifier les symptômes du stress post-traumatique et obtenir un diagnostic
Comprendre le stress post-traumatique et la nature du traumatisme
Élaborer un plan de traitement
Choisir le thérapeute idéal
Découvrir la thérapie cognitivo-comportementale
Peser le pour et le contre d'un traitement médicamenteux
Faire face aux flashbacks, aux cauchemars et aux pensées perturbatrices
Gérez votre rétablissement pendant et après le traitement
Aider un partenaire, un enfant ou un proche à vaincre le stress post-traumatique