- Paperback: 336 pages
- Publisher: New American Library; Reprint edition (February 1, 2011)
- Language: English
- ASIN: B0053U7EII
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.3 inches
- Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (306 customer reviews)
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Gottlieb doesn't encourage us to discount the importance of attraction or connection. Her book just teaches us to remember in our fast-paced world that sometimes both of those things can grow or cultivate over time rather than a half hour cup of coffee. Many of us settle for the instant pleasure of a Hostess cupcake rather than waiting for a seven-course meal. In a society that touts instant gratification, she reminds us to let things marinate and bloom into something we would have otherwise missed. Ultimately, it's not a book that argues for settling as much as accepting men's humanity and flaws. And really, don't we hope they'd do the same for us? And doesn't that sort of acceptance lead to a deeper, longer lasting love?
Through extensive research and insight (and yes, her own mistakes), Gottlieb takes the reader through a cognitive retraining of sorts. She debunks the double standard women hold toward men when it comes to expectations and forces us to confront, again, our sense of entitlement. The exercise is both confidence building and reassuring. It's not too late for me. It's not too late for any of us.
I discussed the book with a friend who's getting married in May.Read more ›
Anyway, this book made me realize how close I was to making a huge mistake. My guy meets all of my needs (we share similar values, he's financially responsible, he's a good father, and he doesn't have a problem with me engaging in activities I enjoy even if he's not necessarily interested in doing them with me) and many of my wants (he's tall and athletic, we have amazing physical chemistry, he's affectionate, he never stonewalls during an argument, he's a good cook, and he's way better than me when it comes to cleaning the house !)
But for the longest time I doubted whether it would work out because I didn't feel like he's intellectually curious enough. I'm a writer, and I read everything I can get my hands on just for the sake of learning new things. My fiance is rarely interested in learning about anything that doesn't have a practical application. He's also a homebody, while I prefer to be out there doing things. He's just a quiet guy with simple needs. But whenever we're together, I always feel a sense of calm, peace, and comfort, even if it's just sitting side-by-side on on the couch while he's watching a basketball game and I'm reading a book.Read more ›
At the ripe old age of 32 and after ending a 7 year relationship with a guy who just didn't ever want to get married and have kids, I met my dream guy. The new guy was just too good to be true. He was successful, responsible, handsome, spoke 4 languages fluently, world traveled, brilliant, kind hearted, affectionate, classy, generous, gave me back massages after sex, always called when he said he would, was punctual to every date, and was FANTASTIC between the sheets. His hobbies were rock climbing, photography, motorcycle riding, and hiking. He'd never been married and didn't have any kids. My parents LOVED him. Most importantly, he wanted to marry me and have kids with me. He was even willing to relocate to live in whatever city I wanted to settle in. What a catch, right?
And do you know what? I almost blew it. Why? Because he had a dorky sounding laugh and he told me he loved me too often. That's right. I almost dumped him because he had a dorky sounding laugh and for loving me.
Thank God for this book. It was the refreshing slap in the face I desperately needed.
The good news is, I didn't dump him and I couldn't be happier.
Now in my 30's I can say that I have opened my mind up to this philosophy and gained a Fiance as a result. I stumbled upon this book again on last year after a date with a man I swore I would never see again. He was nice and all, but just not my type. We'd met over Facebook, exchanged numbers, and after admiring his cute profile pix and engaging in conversation that I can only describe as somewhat chemical, we decided to meet. As soon as I approached the restaurant door where he was waiting on our date, I just knew that this was something I didn't want. My Fiance is fat with man hips and boobs. That was a no-no! He smiled excessively and ordered corn-on-the-cob that he nervously ate throughout the date. I could also go on about his ripped jeans and beat-up hoodie (that he didn't take off at the table!)I had been "Catfished." I went home thinking, "Well, back to the drawing board."
A couple of days after the date as I was sitting there thinking of some of the things we (He and I) had discussed leading up to the date; I actually started to miss him. That night I began reading "Marry Him: The Case..." What Gottlieb had to say now began to sound crystal clear. For some reason it resonated in a way that it hadn't before. I texted my Guy again and we began conversing and eventually he asked me out on a second date. It wasn't chemistry on that date either; just a deep curiosity. However, as we began to date again and again...and again.Read more ›
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