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You can't tell anyone you don't have a loving relationship with your mother. If you do people look at you as if you're the problem.

Another book I recommend to clients.
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on December 12, 2017
A look at mom's that just seem a bit off or way off. What narcissist mothers have done. You do matter.
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on January 2, 2017
The first half of the book I was riveted and there was revelation after revelation for me. It was like Peg knew me and my mother. The second half dealt with other family relationships and was not as useful. this book is still worth readin if only for the first half.
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on January 9, 2016
A wide audience can appreciate this book. It is not a manual on mothering, nor is it a replacement for therapy. It does concisely explain without casting too many stones; basic balm for ignored or unwanted daughters left to raise themselves in dysfunctional families that are more the norm than most societies are brave enough to admit. Female reproduction has been made so ubiquitous, even forced, that the world today has lost or doesn't fully appreciate the salient fact that every mother was first a daughter. Generations of mothering and how societies value women - or not - impacts how daughters are then valued and raised, which then affects how their offspring are raised - sons and daughters. And on it goes. I read this in conjunction with Dr. Susan Forward's "Mothers Who Can't Love". Both are good resources and can be useful companions to each other. Forward's is more clinical anecdotal and Streep's is broader, more sociological.

"Mean Mothers" touches on the maternal core, as well as the sequential circle of relationships knitted together within the family (though not necessarily in a knitted family; there is a difference) - the father, siblings and even grandparents. While "Mean Mothers" is less diagnostic, it might be more relatable on several layers to females who sustained childhood trauma and damaging messages of conditioning from more than just their mother: Rarely does that maternal influence occur in a vacuum or within just one generation. Particularly useful is that Streep delves into the marriage dynamics that often set up the treatment of girl children by the mother and father. Also addressed is birth order, temperament matching or "fit" between mothers and offspring, preferences for male offspring that deeply harm a daughter's sense of self, worth and place in the world. Also useful is that there are enough maternal and family configurations to help someone recognize the underlying family core of friends, mates and even co-workers. While Streep makes it clear mothering is a unique and profoundly challenging job, she also makes it clear the health and well-being of the now adult daughter is paramount. This simple concept might make it easier for those daughters who have quietly, bravely chosen to divorce their corrosive mother or toxic extended family that are locked in dysfunctional patterns.
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on October 1, 2017
Great book, I could have wrote this book
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on July 24, 2017
a good read
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on August 18, 2017
must read book !
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on December 25, 2013
great book, helped me immensely, recommend this book to anyone in a similar situation as a child, will help you
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on May 5, 2015
Thought provoking book.
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on June 27, 2015
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